Dating only gets:shewolf51 said:
more expensive
more time consuming
and more emotional
the older you get
it's best to hit that learning curve as soon as you can
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more expensive
more time consuming
and more emotional
the older you get
it's best to hit that learning curve as soon as you can
To be honest, I've found they just happen. I accidentally met my girlfriend on facebook and we didn't talk for months. In fact, most of the time she ignored me.Shrix157 said:
Sometimes it just happens
Sometimes you have to work for it
but nomatter what, you have to work with them when you have the relactionship going.
Sometimes you have to work for it
but nomatter what, you have to work with them when you have the relactionship going.
Faint heart never won fair lady.
Women don't just show up and get into the shower with you. You have tohit them on the head and drag them back to the cave seduce them. Get to know the object of your desire first, then work out what you need to do in order to make yourself more attractive to her. Talk to her a lot, work out what she likes, then flatter her on the points you think will score you points. Wine and dine her, take her to a few concerts, or opera, or a rave, or something she likes. Then, when the iron is hot, put the romantic moves on her.
There isn't anything wrong with this. Women seduce us men too (although they have different methods in my experience), and in both cases it is healthy and fun even if it doesn't lead where you want to go.
There is a possibility that a girl will just land on your doorstep, but there is the possibility that you will be waiting a looooonnnnggg time for that to happen.
Women don't just show up and get into the shower with you. You have to
There isn't anything wrong with this. Women seduce us men too (although they have different methods in my experience), and in both cases it is healthy and fun even if it doesn't lead where you want to go.
There is a possibility that a girl will just land on your doorstep, but there is the possibility that you will be waiting a looooonnnnggg time for that to happen.
As to whether it just happens or if you have to work at it...depends on the girl. (Speaking as a 20ish female with a boyfriend) A lot of my friends like to be pursued, if a guy doesn't show interest they think he doesn't care.
That said I really believe you can work at it all you want but it won't happen if shes not right for you. Theres an element in the waiting.
It just happened for me, guess I was just lucky.
That said I really believe you can work at it all you want but it won't happen if shes not right for you. Theres an element in the waiting.
It just happened for me, guess I was just lucky.
Stop looking for love and it'll happen.
I got my first serious boyfriend at 15, so I'm not exactly experienced.
You're 17. it's not like you don't have 70/80/90/1000 years ahead of you.
And when you have a girlfriend, you'll probably want to be single again soonish.
[small]we are pains in the arses[/small]
I got my first serious boyfriend at 15, so I'm not exactly experienced.
You're 17. it's not like you don't have 70/80/90/1000 years ahead of you.
And when you have a girlfriend, you'll probably want to be single again soonish.
[small]we are pains in the arses[/small]
Regarding the OP, I wouldn't know what 17 year old girls look for, since I spent all my pre-18 years burried under books and movies and generally hating myself and everyone around me. Almost 10 years later however my experience has taught me that women basically are looking for one of two things: Money or confidence. Money is self explanatory. As for confidence, it doesn't have to be true. Even if you have nothing to show for yourself, if you pretend and act like you do they dig it. That, of course, would make you a hypocrite and that is my main incompatibility personally, since I consider hypocrisy in life a psychological and moral "death". If you have no problems with that, purely acting like you are the best thing since sliced bread will draw women's attention to you, even if you look hideous or are generally a failure (as long as you don't overdo it and become extremely vulgar). If you DO have a problem with that, you are unfortunately in for a world of hurt, since you are part of a very small minority and finding a good match is as likely as winning the lottery (and a million times more satisfying if it actually happens, if it doesn't however you will most likely end up blowing your brains out when you hit 40 or 45. I know, noone tells you that, do they...). Good luck.
Yeah, i can't help you here, i'm still battling my demons trying to ask the girl i like out, but the desire to tell her how i feel is currently up against logic, shyness and "but she hasn't made it blatently obvious yet"Shrix157 said:
But if you have the friendships in place, you'll find the relationships, maybe in places you never thought to look.
ahah my troubles redefined!Totally_Legit said:
though if you haven't got to the part where you develop a (true) story that makes people fall for you, you haven't surpassed me
.(also i will not tell people the story as it's quite personal to me, though i can verify that 4/5 times it will work)
I'll agree.xmetatr0nx said:
Also, being a woman, I figured I could help you out. You do need to let the girl know you're interested. Call her, hang out (socially at first), talk to her alone sometimes. After a while, if you have feeelings for a girl, let her know.
Please don't feel like you NEED a girlfriend, because you don't need one.
Maybe the varied responses to this thread should show you that everyone's different, and if you haven't met anyone yet, it really doesn't matter? If you're naturally quiet, don't try and get a girl by being loud, and so forth. It'll only end badly. If a girl likes you, you'll know. Their body language is a dead giveaway, you'll know when it happens. Just be yourself, unless yourself is someone who murders people with a clown hammer, in which case you should report to the proper authorities.
Hm. We're opposites. None of my friends had girlfriends and I'm the only one that ended up getting one. I don't find it strange that you're 17 and haven't had a girlfriend because my of my friends are 18, almost 19 and haven't had one either. And they're not unnattractive, just passive like you. It's fine. I was like you. Hell, I was more than passive, I ran away from the opposite sex. But one day, the right girl will come along and you'll find it hard NOT to break out of your comfort zone.