Girlfriends and Gaming

[Random Argument Man]

I didn't have girlfriends. I had crazies.

First one: She hated gaming. She didn't want me to play Mario Kart with her little brother.

Second one: She always bitched about her previous boyfriends played too much of WoW.

Third one: The nagging queen. It's better not to say anything.

Last one: I didn't even have time to play,if you know what I mean.

 

[obliterate]

Well my girlfriend beats me at Section 8 and NFS...damn it...women don't deserve to play games ...sry about that one it was a joke I am not sexist or anything

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

Your damn lucky man. My last girlfriend didn't have a problem with me gaming, and she played a bit herself, but it wasn't even close to your situation. My advice: don't let her get away .

 

[Le_Lisra]

My last girlfriend was a bit of a gamer herself and most of my female friends at least play a lot of games (which isn't exactly being a gamer, yknow..) and the ones who don't get turned into them.

Wonderful.

 

[flare09]

You are so very lucky. I hope you don't throw it away.

 

[CoziestPigeon]

Kinda terrible story, but my girlfriend accepts that gaming is a big deal sometimes. When halo3 came out, I had arrangements weeks ahead to play (over xbl) with my best friend from my home town. Play through the entire campaign. My girlfriend asked if she could watch, and sure, that's okay.

One thing led to another, and she ended up 'riding me' (if you catch my drift) while I continually lost focus and let my friend get fragged. It was kinda awesome.

 

[crypt-creature]

I've been lucky, my fiancee and I met and found that we had interests in games but different types. He is more into D&D and I'm more into the video/pc end of things, but we have made a fair trade off and now he is also into the console/pc games and I'm having fun with D&D.

We have done things like this with more than just games, so it has been very fun for the both of us. Still, there are times when we both need our 'alone' time and still have hobbies that we like to do by ourselves or with other friends, but we like discussing them with each other when we get the chance.

 

[Pinstar]

The only thing better than a gaming girlfriend is a gaming wife.

Finding an MMO you two like is key, as that lets you play together. Our game of choice was City of Heroes, but your tastes may vary.

That being said, you are better off finding a girl in real life and getting her into an MMO than trying to strike up a relationship with someone you MEET in am MMO.

 

[Mon Ami]

WOW, you've been a member of this forum for more then a half a year and this is your first post?

What your basically saying is something that most relationships lack, Balance. Between the two involved in a relationship you need to strike a balance for it to work well. I know I've talked with authority about relationships, but this is something we've struggled with. For me knowing when to give my partner attention and to back the fuck off is still REALLY hard for me, but because we both understand that we need to work hard and sacrifice its not something the will break our relationship. Which isn't to say that it makes it easy either, I'm always walking a fine line to keep things on the cool.

Ah shit I'm in the doghouse .

I'm more of a lurker than a poster. Usually I'll only post if I have something useful to say; but since this is more of a gamer forum I rarely do have anything useful to add to a conversation n__n:

In my humble opinion, relationships should not be a constant struggle to find a balance between how much gaming you do and time with one's significant other. Heck, most of the time I don't believe they are a constant struggle at all; but something that is natural between two people. You shouldn't have to feel like you're sacrificing your time to them. More like simply spending time with them is what you want to do.

Mind you it may take a bit to get to this natural equilibrium where both parties are compromising with one another to figure out what works best. Obviously humans by nature are not always the most giving creatures. So in that way yes, there would be a bit of sacrifice needed to make it work.

But on the whole, I think it's important that someone's actions are driven by what feels like they naturally should/want to do rather than an odious 'sacrifice' of time and resources. Achieving a balance within a relationship -- in my opinion -- should not be a sacrificial act, but a natural inclination.

 

[GenuineCounterfeit]

Well I've had a few gamer boyfriends, and I don't mind that at all, I do game a bit myself (Wow you'd never guess, me being on the escapist and all). It gets frustrating when it begins to take over their entire life and the game comes first, everything else second. ANyone who classes games above sex has got something wrong with them

Currently with a semi girl-gamer, neither of us mind that, but we don't game that much together

 

[melig]

My girlfriend, or should I say my ex-girlfriend, since we recently broke up, was a very good CS1.6 player, and as such a gamer too. She liked watching me play too, although we didn't talk about games that much. We gamed together now and then, that was it

 

[Droa]

i intruduced my ex mainly to games :/ like sum of the more unique ones, won her a Ds lite, introduced her to oundan and its sequel to which she loved(a musicion, i go for the dif types ) tho ironicly it made her fit in more with the geeks who at her work and gave her a commmon ground for her new guy, always found that oddly funny took her awhile but she managed to always beat me at guitar hero then oundan when previously i always won, made me sad but in a proud way, bringing more people into gaming

 

[Collymilad08]

Wow nice.

Anyway no. I have only been out with a few girls (still quite young) and never for that long - haven't found the right one yet.

I do know about 5 mates though who are rationed to 1 hour a night. Massive :| (and probably one of the reasons I haven't found a gf yet)

The cutting into "our time" thing just sounds like the kind of girl who wants to do what SHE wants - which is no different to you gaming when she doesn't want you to imo.

 

[Mikkaddo]

I've been dating a girl for little less than a year, who doesn't mind my excessive gaming. She asks about what bosses I killed today, gets excited when I tell her I got a dog in FO3, and loves that I like the artistic side of games not just the "how many noobs I can pwn," which is what her previous boyfriends were like. She doesn't game at all beyond mariokart. She let me play FO3 with my arms wrapped around her; she likes watching me play Dead Space because "it's like a horror movie;" and she laughs when I headshot people.

This is mind-boggling to me because my prior girlfriends got all up in arms that my gaming cut into "our time" even though I made it abundantly clear that I know my priorities.

Guys, do you have any stories like this? Girlfriends (or hopefully ex's) who hate the fact that you spend some time away from them to escape?

Girls, why do other girls hate the fact that guys like the game? Or on the rare occasion, did you have a boyfriend that hated the fact you gamed?

Let's hear it

Well, all my exes didn't mind, infact my first girlfriend had actually gotten farther in LOD then I could . . . that tramp >.> but then, it was my fault. Locked myself into a SUPER hard area without enough items, so it's my fault on that.

But alot of women, like parents, who don't game, can't understand gaming. They don't see what there is TO enjoy from it. So they don't see it as being something that can be enjoyed WITH them, and so they want time with them to not involve gaming. Once you find a girl that enjoys it (or games as much as you do) you know you've found someone special . . .

 

[Insert Funny Name Here]

My girlfriend doesnt mind me playing games. She isnt exactly a gamer, but she plays Prince Of Persia (Although she was convinced that Warrior Within was the first in the series until we starting dating 0.0)

She asks me how my games have been going and Shell come be my lucky charm when I have a particular annoying boss to down.

So yeah. She's perfect.

 

[Zero-Vash]

My ex thought that part of the reason I was depressed was because I would play online with my few remaining friends at the time and tried to get me to "cut back".

My current girlfriend is a little odd with how she is about me gaming. I tell her that I want my time to play and she says ok but still wants to be around. She watches most of the time, but if I play for several hours she starts to complain about being bored.

Now there are plenty of times where I play games with her. And currently I am watching HER play through Batman. We had a little issue with that (basically me not wanting to watch her whenever she plays) but other than that she is very game tolerant.

 

[Cornwallpwns]

well i met my current girlfriend in world of warcraft, we were both in a local guild that had guild get-togethers over at one of our officers houses and we just seemed to fit

and yes i fully realise my off-tank (im MT) being both into me and, if i say so myself, prety dam hot is probably the most luck im going to get in my life

 

[TheRundownRabbit]

I dunno, there is a lot of sexy girls i know who like Call of Duty and other war games

 

[TheRundownRabbit]

As i see it you guys and your girlfriends need to spend more time doing something together, your relationships should be about the both of you, go to the movies, go to the mall (God Forbid thats for you too), go outside for fucks sake