God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[rokkolpo]

Well....you learned

EDIT: I can see many people have a lot less partying going on and might not fully understand the situation.
Don't let the hate bring you down.

 

[Sonicron]

Yes, I must be a brilliant judge of character, since this guy has been my best friend of 9 years. And it's not like he's doing coke or anything like that, it's just weed. I've done weed occasionally. He doesn't smoke it that often, and it's about as dangerous as alcohol. Get over yourself.

Given the fact that I have two complete screw-ups in my family whose major drug problems all started with the goddamn weed, I have zero tolerance for this shit.
You know, those two kept rationalizing their habit with weak justifications just like you; which is exactly why, if you don't mind, I'll stick to my own guidelines of judgement.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

Man, if this is the worst problem your life has faced so far, you are going to be perfectly fine.

Oh fuck no, not by a long shot.

Anyway, I did end up scurrying off down my nans. And lo and behold: They have cooled off! In fact, my mom is asking me to come home, because she said it's weird with me not around. (But erm, I dunno, I'm enjoying it here.)

Anyway, the specific TABLE BURNING friend is banned from my house indefinitely, she won't give me ANY money until the table is paid off (It's job-hunting time), and I'm never allowed in the house alone for more than a day ever again.

Fair punishments, really. Thanks for all your advice, guys!

That is all you got? Bring back the old-fashioned beat downs. I waited until college to trash the world, and for a reason. My father gave me a proper slapping around for doing it once. Lesson learned.

Well, um, my mom doesn't hit me. She just takes things away from me or restricts things that I can do, which I find is more effective.

When my dad used to live with us, he'd smack me (in a fatherly way, not a fighting way) for playing up. I would never LEARN from it, it would just piss me off and spur me on. Like in life, someone starts shouting at me or trying to attack me, it just makes me want to get back at them, not stop doing whatever I was doing.

But, my mom knows me well. She knows what gets to me. Yelling, insults, attacks: not effective. Cutting me off from my friends, taking away my possessions: fucks me over.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

doesn't say that he's looking for advice. If he wanted advice he would've said "what should I do?" He came to the Escapist looking for justification for running away to Grandma's. He came here hoping we'd understand and give him our approval (for whatever little it's worth. Yes we are just random jerks on the internet) for his course of action. Does he deserve sympathy? Not in my book.

Ha, seriously? You think that I expected SYMPATHY for partying and fucking up from The Escapist? Seriously? No. If anything, I needed to vent, I needed some outside opinions. I've just got home today after staying at my nan's for a few days. It definitely cleared my head, and my mom seems to have calmed down. The punishments are still in effect, but everything is seemingly back to normal (bar the odd passive-aggressive statements here and there from my sister).

Would I do it again? Yes. Yes. And yes. I wouldn't invite that fucker who set fires in my garden, but eh, shit happens. I guess I take after my uncle too much (my mom's brother). Before they went away (he and his family went on holiday too), he was telling me to throw a party and giving me tips on how not to get caught. I've heard many tales of the secret parties HE threw when he was my age, but I guess he was much better at it. He drank multiple bottles of my nan's vodka, and refilled them with water, she didn't find out for YEARS. A varse got smashed, and he superglued it back together, she NEVER found out.

He said they were the best times of his life, and I can see why. So go ahead, judge me, call me a 'failure' and a 'disgrace', but at least I'm happy.

 

[JustJuust]

so... you're 17, had friends over for a party at your house, had booze, marijuana, a friend lights a table? on fire, you had to hide weed under your bed, and you got caught. you run to your relative's house to clear your head...
When people tell you you shouldn't have done it, and that you were an idiot, you go 'whatever, I'll do it again it was fun' when people tell you to pay your parents back, you go 'nah I'm 17 and have no job'
My question is why exactly you made this thread. You're not going to listen to what anyone says, not going to take any advices, what? you just wanted people to think you were really cool for ruining your parent's home and drinking booze when you're 17 and don't give a crap?

geez man, you're hard to sympathize with, or in the case you were not looking for sympathy, you're kind of an ass that is the typical new-generation youth that think they're entitled to everything and not respecting other people is cool

 

[Hauntghost20]

I fell ashamed to even be in the same Fourm as you. Your are making smart ass comments you people thinking hur hur i made a funny on the internet while your parent is probaly in there living room right now wondering when they went wrong i dont care if i get a warning for you YOU FUCKED UP BADLY and expect for helping you left to your Grandmas also you said you are going to more partys in other peoples houses COME ON I KNOW ITS THE 15 AND THIS THREAD IS LONG GONE but for the love of god.

 

[Wolfram23]

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Learn from this. It's kind of sucky but when you throw a party, you need to be a host. This includes smacking your friends for playing with lighters and setting a wodden table on fire. That shit would not fly with me. That is pure disrespect and douchbaggery.

Secondly, you need to clean up better. Beer cans around the bed??

I threw many summer backyard parties while my parents were at the cabin, always followed by a thorough clean up - picking up cans, bottles, and garbage, to cleaning the floor, doing the dishes, and putting all the patio furniture back. My parents did know I had parties, it wasn't a secret, but they didn't mind because I was responsible about it.

As for the weed thing... that's pretty dumb. What possible purpose could you holding his weed have served? Either you smoke it, or you don't. And since you weren't going to, his weed might as well have sat in his bedroom, not yours. So... yeah, don't do stupid favours like that for people lol.

Anyway, as for where to go from here, I'd suggest try talking about it... say you're sorry, you know you weren't being responsible, and deny the shit out of the weed thing lol. Possibly talk to them about rules for having parties? Like, ppl have to be outside... only use cheap plastic patio furniture... and clean up afterwards.

I used to bring this big old speakers up from our basement, set them on the deck, and we'd drink and smoke and listen to tunes. Good times. Once, my parents came home unexpectedly in the middle of a party... that was funny. My friends went into the garage to smoke a joint and suddenly the door opened. They came back in like "OMG YOUR PARENTS ARE HOME!!!" I was kind of freaked out but at that point it was like... well... let's see what happens. They were actually pretty cool about it, told us to go down to the basement and then they ordered pizza lol. But most of my friends left since the fun atmosphere was kind of destroyed lol.

 

[OneOfTheMichael's]

So i hear that you got it all sorted out. Looks like your parents are pretty reasonable.
But still that was a frickin funny story man!
And make sure next time you invite people that won't light tables on fire

 

[s0denone]

Thread necromancy is bad, my bad.