Seems a bit much for the typical forum-dweller.Saulkar said:
Is this Facebook drama? Cause seriously, that shit gets real old real fast.
Grow a Goddamned Skin!!!
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Is this Facebook drama? Cause seriously, that shit gets real old real fast.
What I find particularly annoying about the idea of "growing a skin" or whatever, is that it's used to defend being a dick.
You can't really go out of your way to upset people (or support those that do) and then get upset that you've upset them.
You can't really go out of your way to upset people (or support those that do) and then get upset that you've upset them.
You make a lot of good points. Sometimes you just need to step and take a look at yourself and see what you are doing wrong and I realise that it is just as much my fault for getting offended. You offered some really great advice, thanx.shrekfan246 said:
My rule for internet dealings, Unless I've met you in person, face to face, you aren't real. All peoples that I have not met in person to confirm otherwise are simultaneously screaming spoiled 12 year olds, fat creepy guys pretending to be young girls, pompous trolling jackasses ect. If your having difficulty imagining that, picture the undercover suits in "A Scanner Darkly." Any comment should be treated with as much indifference as though it came from one of the aforementioned sources. And thus I am immune to the waves of bile and unadulterated loathing that roll across the internet.
Edit: Schrodinger's Trolls! That is what I should have called my theory!
Edit: Schrodinger's Trolls! That is what I should have called my theory!
Having a strong sense of your own self worth is the best defense against the little barbs and stings of life - especially those on the Internet, where people are notoriously less human than they really ought to be. That's not anything easier to acquire than a thicker skin is, but that's really what you need if you want to make it through this thing we call life in less than a thousand broken pieces. The things is, most people look to others to find their value, but that's always going to be a variable source - know who you are and what you are about and that you are the best you can be - and if you're not, start there and become that first. Then you'll be okay.
And stay sensitive - just be selective in your reception of certain elements. If we all "desensitize" then... well it's not going to be a better world, I can say that with some certainty.
And stay sensitive - just be selective in your reception of certain elements. If we all "desensitize" then... well it's not going to be a better world, I can say that with some certainty.
I am incapable of taking things seriously.
Unless I'm in rage-mode, I tend to laugh everything off.
Unless I'm in rage-mode, I tend to laugh everything off.
People are terrible, thats what makes them so interesting. From the fact that more people have died because of a God that says don't kill than any other reason to the theory that every male wants to kill their dad and bang their mother. Instead of getting offended, think negatively about the person and try to see how your life is somehow better. Doesn't work as well in real situations since you cannot x out of things, yet.
Also I don't understand any of your idioms.
Also I don't understand any of your idioms.
Actually believe it or not this kind of stuff often happens on youtube. I will often be led into what I think is an intelligent conversation or try to start one myself with the uploader of the video. The conversation lasts only long enough for them to find out enough about me through our conversation or visit my page to see what I am favouriting, uploading, or the tiny little bit of information of have out in the open and then they turn that against me.DeadlyYellow said:
The worst part is I am too stupid to eject from the conversation or realise that it is being turned against me by somebody I believed to be a reasonable person. Some people can walk away and say "What a dick" but I just tend to be too emotionally invested. Something that people on this site is a bad, bad, idea and something I believe I should really think about.
By way of example:usmarine4160 said:
"You know what's funny? How *insert insulting stereotype here* you and everyone like you is!
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How dare you get upset at me, it's a joke, grow a fucking skin!"
Really annoys me how calling someone up on being a dick has somehow become worse than being a dick.
I wouldn't necessarily say that it's your own fault for being offended, after all most of us are only human. But there's always a point when you can control whether or not you get involved with something that will offend you, because (in my opinion at least) on the internet it's usually pretty easy to tell when something is going to offend you or not. Personally, whenever I enter a topic that I believe will have comments by people diametrically opposed to my own opinion (because I actually read most comments. I know, crazy), I'll just fume to myself about the people who don't share my opinion, maybe type out a long-winded post in the reply section and then just say "You know what? This isn't worth the energy of getting into a reply-war with this person." and close the tab.Saulkar said:
Obviously, different things help for different people, but there was a time when I would get personally offended at a lot of things people said over the internet and the way I managed to mostly get over it was to just ignore them. People take things entirely too seriously, especially on the internet, and I find that unless there is a clear chance of getting the other person to see your point of view, getting into an argument isn't worth it. Sorry if I'm repeating myself at this point, I'm just always glad when I can actually offer some help to someone.
EDIT: Oh, and never read Youtube comments. Just, don't do it.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah! Ignoring is all fine and well, it's so GROWN UP and old-school, but to be honest, it doesn't work that well. Don't fool yourself!
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Well here is what I do or would do:
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Start yelling at something (not someone). It helps.
[hr]1.) Get a punching bag
2.) Print out the avatar of mentioned idiot who offended you
3.) Adhesive tape
4.) ???
5.) Punch, Kick, rinse and repeat
6.) Profit
[hr]
Follow his/her latest post and see him/her verbally brutalized and raped by another forum member and sit back and enjoy. If you like compliment the other member.
[hr]
Lure him to insult you even more so that he breaks the rules and then report him to the nearest MOD.
[hr]
Deliberately overreact even more. Simulate your own mental instabilty and go ballistic or completely wrist cutting emo depressive, if he/she apologize fine (feeling bad, huh?) if he/she humiliates you further you can either say you just made that all up and in fact you know what a sad little lonely pr*ck/p*ssy he/she really is.
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How dare you discuss your Grandmother's recipe for chocolate cake???
I HAVE YOUR EATEN BY YOUR FOR PROFIT SINCE YOU ARE IN TO SUCH THINGS. RARRRH...
Use comedy/irony/sarcasm/cynsim all together (if you are good at it) against him/her. If the other users start laughing at him/her because of you everything will be fine.
Yeah, yeah, yeah! Ignoring is all fine and well, it's so GROWN UP and old-school, but to be honest, it doesn't work that well. Don't fool yourself!
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Well here is what I do or would do:
[hr]
Start yelling at something (not someone). It helps.
[hr]1.) Get a punching bag
2.) Print out the avatar of mentioned idiot who offended you
3.) Adhesive tape
4.) ???
5.) Punch, Kick, rinse and repeat
6.) Profit
[hr]
Follow his/her latest post and see him/her verbally brutalized and raped by another forum member and sit back and enjoy. If you like compliment the other member.
[hr]
Lure him to insult you even more so that he breaks the rules and then report him to the nearest MOD.
[hr]
Deliberately overreact even more. Simulate your own mental instabilty and go ballistic or completely wrist cutting emo depressive, if he/she apologize fine (feeling bad, huh?) if he/she humiliates you further you can either say you just made that all up and in fact you know what a sad little lonely pr*ck/p*ssy he/she really is.
[hr]
How dare you discuss your Grandmother's recipe for chocolate cake???
I HAVE YOUR EATEN BY YOUR FOR PROFIT SINCE YOU ARE IN TO SUCH THINGS. RARRRH...
Use comedy/irony/sarcasm/cynsim all together (if you are good at it) against him/her. If the other users start laughing at him/her because of you everything will be fine.
The person being an asshole to you is probably a decent person. In real life, where things are important, they are probably a good sibling, a loving son, a caring parent, a devoted spouse, they may volunteer, give to charity..odds are they are a perfectly decent human being. Then they get onto the internet, human weakness takes over, and on occasion they act like an asshole. This does not excuse them: It is still wrong. But you're not looking at an unpunished villain. Your looking at a person who was just too tempted by anonymity.
No problem, you had a lot of great stuff to say, much of which I found very relevant. Thanx.shrekfan246 said:
AS for most youtube comment, I ignore them but there are those sneaky SOBs who start talking to you and lead you on a wild goose chase just to hurt you. Real Pro-Assholes.
Thanks again.
