Guys (or girls I guess): How would you react to this?

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Bernzz

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Has sorta happened, in a less obvious manner than them admitting it. More in the form of hints that I caught onto. And I was able to ignore it because it was only hints, and it's been like two years and I haven't heard about it since.
 

Aesthetical Quietus

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Eh, I'm straight. I don't find the idea even remotely interesting so I'd have to decline. I know there are hot guys but quite frankly I the idea actually turns me off.

It's quite frankly really quite possible since I'm comfortable in being straight and thus don't mind play-acting gay at times. [Normally just for an amusing effect or to change the pace up a little.]
 

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Say that I'm not interested, that I was flattered but I don't swing that way however I still love them as a friend and I totally support their lifestyle. Then I just have to hope that whoever it was wasn't upset and didn't hate me for not feeling the same.
 

Mallefunction

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I've had other girls flirt with me a lot and a few of my friends NEVER miss a chance to slap me on the ass, but none of them have ever 'loved me'. I have had plenty of guys who I thought were just in it for friendship have crushes on me. I just would politely tell them 'no'. I've almost never lost any friends because of that though.

If a girl did confess for me, I'd probably just do the same.
 

nekoali

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*shrugs* I go for people I like regardless of gender or sex, so that wouldn't affect me in the least. Most of the people I have dated in my life started out as good friends, so.. I would be happy. If they were someone I was attracted to physically (obviously we're friends, I like them on a mental and emotional level) then it is time for a date.
 

Chris^^

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I'd probably be quite flattered and would tell them, but would also have to find a pleasant way of expressing my disinterest in such things.
 

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I have no problem with homosexuality. I have friends that it's their thing. When it has become more personal, I've admittedly been a bit disgusted. It really has nothing to do with male partnership, and everything to do with how gross I find the male body. It wouldn't affect the friendship though.
 

Monkfish Acc.

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It's happened. Both same sex and opposite sex. I was blunt and told them I'm not interested in anyone.
Then I went back to treating them as I always did. I refuse to let something as fucking stupid as a one-sided crush get in the way of friendship. A year later, we're all as close as we ever were.
 

Susan Arendt

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Same way I'd react to someone of the opposite sex admitting they had feelings for me, by which I mean it would depend on my personal attraction to them (on all levels), and my relationship status at the time in question. I'm married now, so doesn't really matter who they are. :)
 

tahrey

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Depends if they really try to make anything of it.

I think I may have had this happen before ... whilst very drunk however so I can't remember if it's actually real. But it was pretty much a case of "sorry dude... I appreciate the flattery... but I just don't swing that way..." and getting the next round in.
Things can be a bit simpler when you're both reasonably blokey.

(yes, i knew of his orientation ahead of time ... despite his arguably being the more masculine of the two of us...)

Issue was dropped and he found someone else to crush on and form a relationship with, and we ended up being separated for some years now by other matters... so with any luck that's lasted and he's not occasionally still dreaming of me :-/

Quite what would have happened if my "no" hadn't been accepted, well, who knows.
 

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It'd be very surprising and it might feel a bit weird after a while, but we'd just move on and stay friends. I can't imagine it affecting anything really.
 

MrShowerHead

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Well... Sure, it would be awkward, but I would be quite flattered. I would then tell him I'm not interested, but I really would respect that he had the guts to say it. And I would still stay friends with him.

Actually, it kinda depends on how the confession is done. If he simply tells me about it, that's okay. If he, howewer, tells that he loves me or kisses me right away, that's where I draw the line.

Also, I would ask why he likes me like that? I mean, why would you like me? I'm not that great :p
 

Amondren

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It's happened to me. I told her I wasn't interested and went off in pursuit of another girl she became jealous and instead of being happy for me she instead kicked me in the ass "literally" didn't end well we're no longer friends and boy I'm glad.
 

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VaudevillianVeteran said:
Say that I'm not interested, that I was flattered but I don't swing that way however I still love them as a friend and I totally support their lifestyle. Then I just have to hope that whoever it was wasn't upset and didn't hate me for not feeling the same.
Heh, if only it were that easy at times.

OT: Actually happened once, in my disgust I hit him, told him off, and broke off all communication.
 

Nimcha

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I've had it happen once, a friend told me he was interested in me. It wasn't pretty, he knew I wasn't interested at all but somehow convinced himself that confessing would get me to realize I was. He started treating me differently, obviously trying to seduce me.

It was awful because I had to stop being friends with him which is a damn shame because before all that we got along so well. :(
 

mechman123

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I would probably be in shock to begin with, but once it had subsided I would tell them that we couldn't ever be more than good friends because I just don't swing that way. It might be mildly flattering though. I don't have a problem with homosexuality, but I wouldn't appreciate it if they started trying to come on to me excessively.
 

Realitycrash

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Happens now and then with people I know. Most recently a friend of mine got dumped by his girl because she confessed that she was in love with her female friend.
If it happened to me..Eh..Depends on who it was, really. I'd most likely say something like "Flattered, but, pass".
 

ReservoirAngel

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the D0rk One said:
What kind of couple are you?
One that has a tendency to talk about weird and awkward shit.

I feel I should clarify here: all these confessions of crushes happened BEFORE me and him started dating.
 

matt87_50

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ReservoirAngel said:
So me and the boyfriend were...

...I've had a friend I didn't even think was into dudes confess to thinking I was massively cute and...
wait so I'm still confused as to exactly what is going on here... from the above, you're a gay guy, right?