Guys: Would you date / marry a powerful woman?
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I'm not sure I'd be feel all that secure in the relationship. From my experience women want a man who is more successful even if they are already. Everyone is different so it'll really depends on who she is.
I'd love it. Who wouldn't want to be married to someone famous or smart or both. I don't buy into the rather silly notion of machoness so I don't care if the woman wears the pants, it just means that I don't have to bother.
Does she make me happy?
Does she have class?
Does she have (100%) girly parts?
Then yes I would date/marry her.
On the other hand, if "she" either makes me miserable and/or acts like a total ***** and/or have a penis, then no.
Does she have class?
Does she have (100%) girly parts?
Then yes I would date/marry her.
On the other hand, if "she" either makes me miserable and/or acts like a total ***** and/or have a penis, then no.
You're conflating financial success with dominance in personal relationships, which is a bit of a leap, logically speaking. We've seen ample evidence that the two don't necessarily go together at all times.
That caveat aside, I don't reckon it would bother me in particular. I'm secure in who I am, and the idea of my wife making more money than me isn't all that threatening. Hell, I'm perfectly comfortable staying home to raise the kids if it comes to that.
Would I be the submissive partner in the relationship though? Nope. I'm rather surprised that your scenario assumes that there has to BE a submissive partner, rather than a meeting of equals, in part because I suspect that you equate success with superiority.
That caveat aside, I don't reckon it would bother me in particular. I'm secure in who I am, and the idea of my wife making more money than me isn't all that threatening. Hell, I'm perfectly comfortable staying home to raise the kids if it comes to that.
Would I be the submissive partner in the relationship though? Nope. I'm rather surprised that your scenario assumes that there has to BE a submissive partner, rather than a meeting of equals, in part because I suspect that you equate success with superiority.
Ha. I'm engaged to a powerful woman.
I think that the problem isn't with the woman being powerful, but rather with the man (or non-powerful woman as it were)being intimidated by their success. Men especially have an ingrained belief that we need to be "bread winners" and when a woman makes more than us, is smarter than us etc. Men feel threatened. This doesn't speak to all men however, and those that can ignore such a misogynistic belief will find out that Powerful women are not a threat at all, and are just like you and me.
In conclusion: Everybody poops.
I think that the problem isn't with the woman being powerful, but rather with the man (or non-powerful woman as it were)being intimidated by their success. Men especially have an ingrained belief that we need to be "bread winners" and when a woman makes more than us, is smarter than us etc. Men feel threatened. This doesn't speak to all men however, and those that can ignore such a misogynistic belief will find out that Powerful women are not a threat at all, and are just like you and me.
In conclusion: Everybody poops.
Of course I would. I have no problem dating or marrying a powerful women. I think I would prefer it actually.
I'd love to marry and independent, intelligent, and successful woman. I wouldn't mind at all being the weaker one in the relationship. Who knows? It might be nice.
I'd love to marry and independent, intelligent, and successful woman. I wouldn't mind at all being the weaker one in the relationship. Who knows? It might be nice.
More successful than me? No problem.
More powerful than me? No problem.
More intelligent than me? *ahem*...how much more intelligent?
My wife is very smart, but one of the cornerstones of our relationship is us being on relatively equal intellectual grounds, and I'm not sure I'd know how to function in a relationship where I was mentally dwarfed by her intelligence.
More powerful than me? No problem.
More intelligent than me? *ahem*...how much more intelligent?
My wife is very smart, but one of the cornerstones of our relationship is us being on relatively equal intellectual grounds, and I'm not sure I'd know how to function in a relationship where I was mentally dwarfed by her intelligence.
I'm feminist and also grew up in a working class houshold that had as a base assumption that both parents had to work in order to make the household function--no 1950s suburban acculturation for me.
So, not only would I date/marry a powerful woman, I would not date someone who wasn't. Further, I also won't date/marry a woman who doesn't identify as feminist.
I have high standards for my potential mates, egalitarianism is my number 1 standard.
A woman who follows "The Rules" or any of that kind of crap where they pretend to be less intelligent, or won't eat real food in front of me, or downplay their love of their job, or defer to my opinion, etc. Nope! There are a lot of guys I know who like that (I was in the Army with lots and lots and lots of them)...but I'm not that guy.
The woman I date will be a fully actualized woman or I won't date her.
So, not only would I date/marry a powerful woman, I would not date someone who wasn't. Further, I also won't date/marry a woman who doesn't identify as feminist.
I have high standards for my potential mates, egalitarianism is my number 1 standard.
A woman who follows "The Rules" or any of that kind of crap where they pretend to be less intelligent, or won't eat real food in front of me, or downplay their love of their job, or defer to my opinion, etc. Nope! There are a lot of guys I know who like that (I was in the Army with lots and lots and lots of them)...but I'm not that guy.
The woman I date will be a fully actualized woman or I won't date her.
I would do so if I really liked that person. I personally find confidence and motivation to be attractive in women.
Only if it was the source of conflict that undermined whatever love the relationship was founded upon.
If, say, you defined yourself by your intelligence and this woman had that whole bunch of master's degrees and was insufferably proud of it, obviously that'd be a no-go.
If she was famous and well-regarded for reasons other than sheer academic prowess, it'd probably be easier. And hell, if she made more than me it'd be dead handy. Financial stability is a nice thing, no matter who's providing it.
If, say, you defined yourself by your intelligence and this woman had that whole bunch of master's degrees and was insufferably proud of it, obviously that'd be a no-go.
If she was famous and well-regarded for reasons other than sheer academic prowess, it'd probably be easier. And hell, if she made more than me it'd be dead handy. Financial stability is a nice thing, no matter who's providing it.
I'd marry who I love, end of story. And if she offered to pay for dinner well...Blunderboy said:
i was the toy for a rich woman for a while. It was rather fun! I was a "maid" for her house, cause it wasnt proper for her to have a young girlfriend but, yeah. I didnt mind xD
I'd be fine with it. As long as she didn't try to control me I'd be just as happy as I'd be in any other functional relationship. It's only if she were trying to use her intelligence or money to put me down and make me feel like I wasn't an equal part of the relationship that I'd have a problem with it. Or if she made me feel like I wasn't good enough for her. I'd never do it to a girl, and I hope no girl ever does it to me.
A woman with powers? Well, I wouldn't marry Jean Grey, but that's more to do with her crippling psychological issues which turn her into the greatest threat the world has ever faced.