Have you ever been "disciplined" by your parents?

[Guitarmasterx7]

The funny thing is, my parents had to end up taking things away because hitting me never worked. I'd just sort of go back to whatever I was doing after the pain wore off and forget about it. But no Nintendo for a week was a torture that lasted... well a week.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I'm sorry, but your mum sounds like a total *****. My dad used to do that to my brother and now he's/was in prison. Yeah... issues. Some people just have kids so they have some control over them, it's fucking disgusting. Some people can't have children, and people like your mum are just using you as punch bags.
I was smacked a few times, but mainly by my aunties at the time boyfriend who was a complete bastard and now a paedophile. Hmmm.
My boyfriend said he wants to hit our kids if they repeatedly misbehave, but I'm not, I'd rather they follow my orders out of respect than fear.

 

[duchaked]

yeah, but in no way abusively so, and I definitely deserved it and am probably better off because of it haha

 

[ace_of_something]

While my parents did use some punishment in that vein it was never over something so trivial as being fussy and never to the extend which you describe OP.
It was more like, when My brother and I were playing baseball broke a neighbor's window and lied blaming someone else to our dad. So he went to talk to that kid's parents found out we lied and basically embarassed him in front of two different sets of people.
I'd say we deserved that. It was with a metal t-square. If we had just fessed up he probably would've just taken the cost of the window out of our chores or made us work for the neighbor (which is also what he had us do).

Overall i can count the times in my childhood where this method was used on one hand though and i wouldn't call any of them being 'beaten'. Like I said it had to be pretty damn bad and this mostly was the late 80's and early 90's.

 

[Aur0ra145]

I never got a whoopin' I didn't deserve, and there were alot of times I really should have gotten one but didn't

 

[Klarinette]

I was spanked occasionally, and I'd probably do the same as a parent. I mean, aside from taking things away from kids and grounding them, what are some consequences, besides spankings, that are strong and effective enough that kids will respect their boundaries? I can't think of many...

mom's italian, so lol

Dad has stories of shoes and wooden spoons. That and Grandpa throwing him across the room, but in Grandpa's defense, my dad was a right little bastard as a kid. Oh, the stories.

 

[natural_fighter64]

I learned from an early age to FEAR my mother. She was a single mother and didn't take the shit off nobody. Oh oh oh, the beatings I got from her. I love the whole "I'm doing this cuz I care" bit that she would say before laying me over the top of the bed and wailing on my ass with a belt. Probably made me a helluva better person too.

 

[KurtzGallahad]

Leather belt with metal syuds across the bared buttocks, ver painful

I won't do this to my kids
I'll instead use my verbal talents to destroy them psychologically so they're even more messed up than me

 

[PDeverit]

People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.

For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the sex organs and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more. All materials listed may be accessed at the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at www.nospank.net.

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering (euphemistically labeled "spanking","swatting","switching","smacking", "paddling",or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional or intentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
American Psychological Association,
Center For Effective Discipline,
Churches' Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

 

[Thaius]

I was spanked as a child, but that's nothing traumatic. Smacking someone with a metal belt buckle is more than a bit much, but I'm not against physical punishment at young ages. It takes a while for a kid to actually be mature enough to obey anything else anyway, so what else is going to work?

And no, I don't have any serious problems because I was spanked as a child. The idea that spanking creates long-term issues is crap.

 

[Revolutionary]

only when I push my luck
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[War Pony]

I remember when I was LITTLE my mom would have my brother and I tear switches off trees when we were "acting out" in a public park and beat us with them. While still in public, yes. Or if there were a lot of people around she'd wait until we got back to the car in the parking lot and beat us there.

I'm 21, I don't know just how outdated the switch thing might be since I don't think I've seen anyone else mention them.

I remember a time when I was younger, probably about nine or ten, and I was supposed to be mopping the floor, but I was dancing around with the mop. My mom caught me and beat me with the thing, just happening to break it over my back.

 

[AvsJoe]

I got the belt once in my life. Just once. I was no older than 8 years of age at the time but I remember it clearly.

My brother was a hell-raiser growing up. I was always the one telling him not to do something but I would never actually stop him. I always caught flak from my parents for this but up until the belt I had never actually been punished for it.

Anyway, my brother was in a bit of a pyro phase. He'd swiped one of my mom's lighters and was burning things like Ziploc bags and toilet paper (did you know toilet paper burns yellow?). Well, he decided to take the lighter to the painting hanging above my mom's bed. I have long since forgotten why. I told him not to but once again didn't really do anything about it. I was as curious to see what would happen as he was.

He raised the lighter to the bottom-right corner of the frame and flicked it on... and nothing was happening. Not for the first couple of seconds anyway. But then we noticed the golden frame was getting darker and becoming black. Both of us kinda realized that this was evidence of mischief so we stopped.

I do not remember whether or not our mom came in then or if she saw it a little later but I do know that it was later that day when she was screaming at us. My brother got the belt first. I remember he didn't like it (understatement). She was waiting in the room, unnaturally quiet, and called him in. The door was closed but I heard each CRACK! and yelp of pain quite clearly. And I knew that I would be getting the same punishment next. I do not know how long he was in there (time moved more slowly then) but it was somewhere between 2 and 4 minutes.

Once she was done with him, she called me in there. I didn't move at first so she growled (yes, growled) something along the lines of "Don't make me go out there and get you..." So I manned up and walked into the room despite knowing what awaited me. I had already started crying though so I hadn't manned up all that much. I assume you all know what happens at this point so I'm not going to type it up.

Anyway, I learned a couple of lessons from this; one positive and one negative. The positive lesson is to not be an accomplice to crime or mischief in general. I stopped helping my brother or even being near him when he was doing his thing. I also remained willfully ignorant to whatever he was up to (which continues to this day). The negative lesson I learned is that if I do something bad, be it immoral or against the law or whatever, I will not leave evidence of my actions. I am meticulous at covering up my misdeeds, be it snatching a cookie from my flatmates or breaking my father's light. I can cover up pretty much everything I do.

Anyway, I'm expecting a "cool story, bro" or a "TL;DR" for this but this is the first time I have ever recounted the event in detail so it was quite therapeutic. For the couple of you who read this I offer a hearty "Thank You" and would give you a hug were it not for the fact that you are probably hundreds, if not thousands or tens of thousands of kilometres away. So I give you a cookie [http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/PTGPOD/826309.jpg] instead. Enjoy!

 

[Booze Zombie]

Once and it failed so hard they never tried it ever again.

 

[kawaiiamethist]

My maternal grandmother used to beat me with a wooden spoon when I mucked up as a young child. She did likewise to her children. My mother rarely hit me, but I do recall a terrifying experience where she terrified and eventually hit me hard with a metal spoon.

I won't be using physical discipline if I ever have children. I'm no new-age hippie, but it is a form of abuse (even if they are doing it out of love) and frankly, it's lazy.

 

[Booze Zombie]

But that's all I remember from that. Next thing I do remember was waking up in my bed. Apparently, she hit me so hard, I blacked out when I tried to distance myself from her.

How did your mother not end up in jail?
That's a serious question, by the way.