Have you ever "got" the girl/guy?

[2012 Wont Happen]

My current girlfriend.

I had written a song for her about six months before we actually started dating. She was with a guy at the time and the song was basically me boasting and claiming to be better than him while saying very sweet things about her.

Six months time pass, she gets tired of him being mentally and physically abusive, and is ranting about it to me one day and I just kiss her on the mouth with tongue. It was a decision made coming off of a three week binge of legal "incense", but it turned out good. A week later she was with me. We went on a couple dates in that week while she was still with him.

He stalked her for a while after that, but we got the police to fuck with his head so he would leave her alone. He was kind of a *****, as most abusive guys in high school tend to be.

She is still in high school and I'm a freshman in college now, but I go to school in my home town so we're still together.

And that is the tale.

 

[srm79]

I've always thought that if it's a relationship meant to happen (i.e. that it'll be a lasting one) then it's mutual right from the start and neither party has to seduce the other.

I used to think like that many, many trips around the sun ago (like, 20!). It's not always that straightforward though. I've had a string of girlfriends down the years, and it's the ones I meet in pubs an the like that always run out of steam pretty fast.

On the other hand, there have been 3 that have gone any distance (7 years, 2.5 years, 1.5 years) and in all 3 cases, we had met then developed a friendship first. You can't really know if someone is "right" for you without getting to know them first I think. Sure, you can meet someone and have sparks fly from the very starts, but then you often realise as the relationship develops that you aren't actually as compatible as you first thought.

To the OP: You win some, you lose some. Remember that and you'll be just fine!

 

[Poetic Nova]

As I joked to my friend "i feel like Niles Crane" (from the serie Frasier) since I liked a girl alot but never had the guts to say it to her. I did lose contact with her for 2 years. We bumbed into eachother again and well my old feelings for her came back (actually still where) and I sayd it to her. Not long after it she said that she feld the same for me (which happend 2 weeks ago). Our relation ship is still young but i couldn't be happier.

 

[Dire Sloth]

I went for it with a friend, and ended up losing him and pretty much all of our shared acquaintances - who happened to be my only friends.
Now they can go fuck themselves.

 

[Suicidejim]

I suppose so, in the sense that I always end up befriending girls, realizing I like them, not actually doing anything about it for an excruciating period of time and yet somehow making them also like me. Never been able to get with anyone without at least 3-4 months of unresolved sexual tension beforehand.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

Not anyone I'm attracted to no. Had guys come onto me and sometimes just went along with it to be 'normal'. I think my stupid genetics try to punch above their weight or something.

meh.

 

[Trisha Lynn]

I worked my ass off to keep a guy who was awesome, had his own condo and scooter, introduced me to MMORPGs and Xbox and homemade curry, but in the end, it wasn't enough.

I went through four or five years of therapy, three different jobs, two apartments, and one interim boyfriend before my current domestic partner and I decided recently that we were ready to get married and set a date for next year.

So yeah, I totally did "get" my guy, but only after years of hard work on making me into a much better person all-around.

Also, relevant to this topic: Paging Doctor Nerdlove [http://www.doctornerdlove.com/].

 

[Sandernista]

It sounds a little narcissistic but the reverse happened to me. I was the guy to 'get'.

My girlfriend had a crush on me for years, since we were kids, of course I was oblivious and instead pursued other women my whole life until she finally essentially *forced* me to be with her. (Sounds weird but it's a long story)

We've been together almost 5 years now and still going strong.

 

[mattttherman3]

Hmm, that depends,in highschool, I had this HUGE crush on this girl from the moment I saw her. Anyway, I eventually get her to agree to lunch at my table, and you know what I did? Clammed up and DIDN'T SAY A SINGLE WORD, just fucking sat there like a chump! I still can't talk to this girl face to face, she's the only person I have this problem with. This happened almost 6 years ago!!!!!

I did get a date with a girl I worked with recently, Turns out what I interpreted as flirting was right on the money, unfortunately, she's 5 years older than I am, and I could not get passed that, I regret it now, she's a real nice person, I didn't even text her again after the date, I see her all the time at work, not really awkward for me, might be for her. I regret not pursuing it but she would have broke up with me eventually, no one stays with fat guys(Personally experienced and witnessed, the girl that doesn't care about your weight is mythical, so far anyway). Is it odd that if I can't be with a woman, I won't talk to her? I have ZERO female friends because I do not see the point.

seriously with the marriott capchas...