Have you ever "got" the girl/guy?
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Well, once more I shall brag about how awesome my life is.
Yes. Yes I did.
Off to Splendour next weekend ^.^
Yes. Yes I did.
Off to Splendour next weekend ^.^
I was with the man I loved, then we broke up, he dated someone else (I didn't) we got back together, and he just broke up with me yesterday again. I know that I can't love anybody else.. its really depressing, to tell you the truth.
Sometimes it likes to fuck with your head. and I know how you feel. i wish i had my happy ending.Leole said:Yep, my first crush and girlfriend actually.
I spent a year totally crushed over her, then I finally come up to her and tell her, and she's like "Wha- you serious? Well, I don't feel the same way, sorry".
I get real depressed for a week or so, then I convince myself "Fuck her, she doesn't know what she's missing, move on", and so I did.
But little did I know, a month later, SHE had a crush on ME. I waited a few weeks just to be sure, then I came up to her, again, and this time she was like "Yeah".
And [small]then we broke up [sub]one month later.
What? You were expecting a happy ending?[/sub][/small]
I would be more than happy to clarify this.Phasmal said:
The friends zone doesn't just mean you are a friend, it means you are thought of only as a friend. You officially enter the friends zone when you have put forth the effort and attempt at starting a relationship and you are told she only wants to be friends. Where this gets confusing is the messages women send out and expect us to understand. For example: my most recent Friends Zone experience was with a girl I had met and begun talking to. I never obfuscated my thoughts on her or hid my intentions. We would spend hours and hours just talking. After about a week she was on the phone with me 3+ times a day, including bed time where she would just want me to stay on the phone with her till she fell asleep. Half the time I would fall asleep first and wake up with her still on the phone listening to me. Averaged about 50-100 text messages a day from her about random crap, or just checking in. This went on for a month and a half. At that point I asked her out... That is when she said, I would rather just stay friends. This is why guys hate the friends zone, women tend to have a very blurry line between someone they want to be friends with and someone they want to date.
P.S. It worked out in the end as I am now dating one of her friends, but it pissed me off at the time.
EDIT: Most guys are not opposed to being friends with you girls, just try and realize that if the only reason you are not dating him is because you don't want your friendship to change then you are losing out on a good guy most of the time. Also by the very nature of the question and the rejection there will be some change either way.
That sucks. I hope things come together for youScarlettRage said:
I've been in love a number of times, and it has hurt and always will hurt to lose loved ones. I'm currently seeing an amazing woman now who is beautiful, charming, independent and strong. I've pretty much fallen for her and her wicked sense of humor (don't tell her I said that), but I know that I'll always find happiness in my life if I have balance. I was happy being single, too.
Congrats!EOTD said:
OT: eh High School sucked ass, because I managed to screw up alot, but I knew that there was something there to screw up, so thats something I guess, this fall is gonna be my 3rd year in college, and this January we had a party and some of my friends brought a friend I met a couple of times that apparently one of my friends talked to her about me and so she was kinda interested. She ended up staying the night and we probably talked til about 6am, and she came back over the rest of the weekend, and we really clicked and what not, I asked her out and she responded. Things went amazing, I thought I found the girl of my dreams, then about a month ago she kept ditching me for her friends, and earlier she got a CNA Job and she had to work Tues-Friday then the weekend also, and she asked if the night before she had to work if she could go clubbing after we hung out. I had to work at 5, and she left about 8 to get ready, and then friday she ditched me, and so I saw her for like 3 hours that entire time. I kept asking her like hey anything wrong, whatsup you acting different, etc. and she was like I'm fine, blah blah, and then 2 weeks later she decided that she wasnt ready for a relationship. AFTER 5 fucking months.
so yeah I guess I did lol, but as my friend once said, most people be trippin and bitches be crazy. Looking forward to meeting new poeple and girls when school starts up lol
Thats pretty strange, I dont really get the `ruining friendship` aspect of relationships, I always thought it was an upgrade from friends. Or maybe that is just code for `I dont fancy you`.barbzilla said:
I agree that signals can be confusing, but it also goes the other way sometimes. I once went to see one movie (not even on a date, not even handholding) with a guy and then he got all confused when I wasnt thrilled when he started telling my parents he wanted to marry me.
Sounds like a real creeper. The ruining friendship thing is a bit confusing for me as well. Most "solid" relationships are based on a friendship so it is a cop out by my estimation. I would tend to agree with you on the "Code for 'I don't fancy you'", however I have noticed a number of times where the woman will do a complete 180 once I move on. Same girl got jealous of her friend and wanted to date me, too little too late...Phasmal said:
Yes, i did get her.
But it does not seem to be working out :s
7 Years ago, i started on something similar to a boarding school along with this girl.
I fell pretty much instantly for her, she was very attractive, sweet etc. But hard to get to.
She seemed to like the harder/douchy type of guys (6packs and tatoo's)
I was nothing like that, a little nerdy i might say and not particularly into sports and all that.
I remember spending alot of time with her though, because she was very good friends with my best friend at the time. He was much older and apperantly didnt have any intentions of dating her himself.
So, two years of boarding school, nothing happend and we split when school ended.
I moved to a college in the other side of the country and didnt have any contact to her.
3½ years went by, i finished school and went on to serve in the armed forces.
The very night i signed up to start training for afghanistan, i was hanging out on a date site looking for girls *surprise*, and all of a sudden found her on there, looking for a relationship.
So i wrote her and she got back to me in less than an hour, later that night we met a local bar.
We ended up talking pretty much all night, and she eventually followed me back to my place.
3½ Years after now, im still with her on/off.
She tells me she loves me, and she wants to take the relationship all the way, but im really having heavy doubts.
I've tried stopping the relationship several times, but it always hits me like a truck and i start missing her too much.
It's like a can't let go.
Tldr: I did, but it's not as i imagened it.
/Mav
But it does not seem to be working out :s
7 Years ago, i started on something similar to a boarding school along with this girl.
I fell pretty much instantly for her, she was very attractive, sweet etc. But hard to get to.
She seemed to like the harder/douchy type of guys (6packs and tatoo's)
I was nothing like that, a little nerdy i might say and not particularly into sports and all that.
I remember spending alot of time with her though, because she was very good friends with my best friend at the time. He was much older and apperantly didnt have any intentions of dating her himself.
So, two years of boarding school, nothing happend and we split when school ended.
I moved to a college in the other side of the country and didnt have any contact to her.
3½ years went by, i finished school and went on to serve in the armed forces.
The very night i signed up to start training for afghanistan, i was hanging out on a date site looking for girls *surprise*, and all of a sudden found her on there, looking for a relationship.
So i wrote her and she got back to me in less than an hour, later that night we met a local bar.
We ended up talking pretty much all night, and she eventually followed me back to my place.
3½ Years after now, im still with her on/off.
She tells me she loves me, and she wants to take the relationship all the way, but im really having heavy doubts.
I've tried stopping the relationship several times, but it always hits me like a truck and i start missing her too much.
It's like a can't let go.
Tldr: I did, but it's not as i imagened it.
/Mav
No, but i sorta wish that i did, a few yeas ago when i used to be in College there was this one girl that was sort of mysterious, creative, and shown a fangirlish fascination for the Final Fantasy, Kingdom Hearts and the Monster Hunter series, though she was sort of quiet and did her own thing much.
She was a 2nd generation french person living in the UK with her father (though she talked about him watching Russian television sometimes) she and her father was distant and she usually had a stressful homelife about what she should do and stuff. (she didn't wanted to go back to france as she had made a life within the UK, where she had friends, soaked the language and other stuff)
I don't care if she had slightly more weight than the other girls, she was cute, kind and charming, with an soothing yet energetic personality, though i never told her this because i have Asbergers, i simply didn't have the gut nor the income, plus i had a sheltered life, im probably not sensitized enough to sneak outside the house to go to places, i just couldn't put her through such a boring place when she has people she actually knew. (plus there's the constant TAs that basically shadowed over me except for Lunchtimes, toilet trips and when i have to go home....in a damn transport -,-)
I know her DeviantArt name though she isnt even aware that i even have a name or even visits the site, its probably too late now, her life has probably gone back on track and grown up into a nice woman...its been around 2-3 (maybe more) years since i dropped out of college*.
*though that explanation could be left for another time
EDIT: more things i remembered
She likes Dragons, Nagas and even Yaoi scenes. (not really disturbing tbh, sorta open, she draws those!)
She was a 2nd generation french person living in the UK with her father (though she talked about him watching Russian television sometimes) she and her father was distant and she usually had a stressful homelife about what she should do and stuff. (she didn't wanted to go back to france as she had made a life within the UK, where she had friends, soaked the language and other stuff)
I don't care if she had slightly more weight than the other girls, she was cute, kind and charming, with an soothing yet energetic personality, though i never told her this because i have Asbergers, i simply didn't have the gut nor the income, plus i had a sheltered life, im probably not sensitized enough to sneak outside the house to go to places, i just couldn't put her through such a boring place when she has people she actually knew. (plus there's the constant TAs that basically shadowed over me except for Lunchtimes, toilet trips and when i have to go home....in a damn transport -,-)
I know her DeviantArt name though she isnt even aware that i even have a name or even visits the site, its probably too late now, her life has probably gone back on track and grown up into a nice woman...its been around 2-3 (maybe more) years since i dropped out of college*.
*though that explanation could be left for another time
EDIT: more things i remembered
She likes Dragons, Nagas and even Yaoi scenes. (not really disturbing tbh, sorta open, she draws those!)
*sigh*
No, I haven't. Now I'm sad because this thread reminds me what a coward I am.
Now I need to go play Blaz Blue to cheer myself up.
No, I haven't. Now I'm sad because this thread reminds me what a coward I am.
Now I need to go play Blaz Blue to cheer myself up.
Well, I fight for my gf, I fight against my weakness and i do what i can to be the best for herMrFluffy-X said:
Sir, I thank you for your service, and I hope you most certainly get that girl, nd that you two are ahppy together forever.lwmaverick said:
No. Partly because there's no one I could see myself being with, and partly cause I am a tad timid/shy/a wuss so I never really put myself out there. Also because in my school, it seems mostly that the cute, dumb guys (bonus for being on a sports team) get the girlfriend, and the people with good academic success, and are on windmill and robotic teams (aka, the nerds) get left out in the cold.
Used to bother me, but really, I kinda accepted the fact that (at least for high school) there isn't anyone for me. I'm sure I'll have more chances/options in University, but until then I can at least focus on having a good education so that if/when I do find someone, I can support them and provide them with the life they deserve.
Used to bother me, but really, I kinda accepted the fact that (at least for high school) there isn't anyone for me. I'm sure I'll have more chances/options in University, but until then I can at least focus on having a good education so that if/when I do find someone, I can support them and provide them with the life they deserve.