Have you ever "got" the girl/guy?

[Megawat22]

I recently told a girl I liked how I felt about her.
We'd been going to college together for about 3 months now and because of some stuff that happened it had been just me and her for almost 2 of those 3 months (lots of drop outs and a small class to start with). So we became friends, I'd tried to make myself clear that I was smitten with her but she never really picked up on it.
One day before she leaves college I stop her and in some pathetic attempt to be romantic tell her that I love her, think she's beautiful and I want to be with her. I get an "Ok, er... I have to go now" and come in the next day expecting an answer of sorts. She doesn't speak to me the whole day and it's not until I get home that she starts texting me about how she doesn't like me in that way, never will and that I should get over it.
I lost a lot of respect for her that she couldn't say that to my face when I'd made the effort, but I understood that it was awkward for her. What I don't understand is why she is insanely angry at me and won't talk to me even though she was the one who told me to get over it. I also don't understand why I'm still crazy about her even after all that and truth be told, that annoys me the most.

So to answer the question: No, I haven't gotten the girl.

 

[Glamorgan]

Yeah... sort of. I fell for my best friend a year and a bit ago, and liked her for all that time. Her now ex boyfriend was a total douchebag, treating her and all of her friends like shit, but she didnt see it. But after a year of waiting, and struggling not to break her boyfriends neck, she realised he was bad for her, dumped him, and that actually, she had feelings for me.

Then she dumped me ten days later.

So that's nice, isnt it?

I suppose by one stretch of the imagination, yes, I did get the girl, just not for very long.

 

[WeedWorm]

Once, but it was a long time ago.

 

[boondoggler23]

I got the girl, and I'm dating her now i mean its a really long story. Just know i had to fight for that girl. but it was totally worth it

 

[The_ModeRazor]

Nayup. That's what being introverted, cynical and resentful gets ya.
Learn the lesson kids: avoid the lonely people. They are lonely because they are bad people and obviously deserve it.

 

[Rabish Bini]

I can't...Because to many girls like me.

I helped teach a class, and every female member of it developed a crush on me.

I've had 3 girlfriends in 4 weeks (Broke up on the first, had one for a day one week later (She can't have boyfriends without having a panic attack but for some reason I was worth it) and now a new relationship on a girl who has had a crush on me for years).

Greatest achievement? I temporarily turned a lesbian straight (Or at least Bi)...And when we broke up I'm the reason she's come out of the closet.

I love my life so much.

I think you just won the Badass Award, for being a total badass.

 

[Doomtrack]

I have gotten the girl once, we met on the net and basically talked to each other nonstop for a week without much sleep and decided to meet up, we got together for a month or so before it ended.

Now we are great friends actually and pretty much talk every day like before so who knows we might get together again.

 

[CommanderKirov]

I do not belive working for girls/guys ever works for a relationship. I'd never chase a girl who would not be interested in me even if there was a chance later that she could.

It just seems annoying, naggy... And a bit sad if I have to be honest.

And The_Mode! Being cynical is fine, as long as someone you meet is cynical as well and you get along just fine!

 

[Rayne870]

First day at high-school in a new city, I'm still getting my bearings and had just found my homeroom. I got a few paces down the hall when some girl walks up to me and asks me for directions to a room, that happens to be my homeroom, so I rattle off that it's just a few paces behind me and on the left without paying much attention to her. Then as she walks past I take a look back and see a tall glorious figure with a great butt all dressed in black with long black hair(yeah she was total goth but one of the really hot ones) All I thought at that second was "I want that one". Took me about a week or two but I finally got a date with her, after that we lasted about 3 months. And I began a series of longer and more meaningful relationships with girl friends (averaging about a year each).

The current one in has been going 4 years strong and we met in college, first year we were friends but she had a crush on me, then second year I was newly single and took notice of her. Funny how things work out.

 

[Klarinette]

Yep. A couple times. I even got back an ex once that I was still in love with. Nowadays, I'm not so great at pining for someone and have essentially stopped trying for now. If something comes along in the mean time, huzzah. If not, I like pretending it doesn't bother me >_< haha.

Hah! Captcha related: "done that"

 

[Adrian Neyland]

Had a crush on a girl in primary school,didn't act on it at the time, but just recently I just happened to run into her, and i asked her out. Best luck ever.

 

[Metal Brother]

For me it always worked when I figured I didn't stand a chance, and just relaxed. Once relaxed, I could flirt and joke and say all the things I wanted to say, but with confidence, because I wasn't so scared I'd mess things up.

The current one in has been going 4 years strong and we met in college, first year we were friends but she had a crush on me, then second year I was newly single and took notice of her. Funny how things work out.

That's pretty much how I met my wife. ;-)

 

[Metal Brother]

I don't really see a point in throwing time and resources at a singular "maybe, maybe not" opportunity in a world packed to the brim with options that are statistically guaranteed to have a shot of doing you one better.

So instead of eating, you'd rather starve to death since there's got to be better food out there?

 

[Frostbite3789]

Nope. Always end up as the friend. Even the friend they complain to about awful boyfriends. It hurts my very being.

 

[Phasmal]

Me and my boyfriend had some odds stacked against us at the beginning, with my ex spreading rumours that I had cheated with my boyfriend, and us being 500 miles apart.
We have lived together for a year and a half now and just had our 2-yr anniversary!

 

[Blunderman]

I've always thought that if it's a relationship meant to happen (i.e. that it'll be a lasting one) then it's mutual right from the start and neither party has to seduce the other.

As for me, well, you can get the entire story by just listening to Love the Way You Lie.

 

[MrFluffy-X]

Well, I recently told a friend who I'd fancied for ages that I'd fancied her to ages. Via Skype. Text. While she was offline. Yeh, so very classy and romantic.

Anyway, she signed in the next day for about ten seconds, then went/appeared offline. It was only later on that day that she replied, also through Skype text, while I was offline, to the tune of "Feel the same way, but don't want to ruin our friendship, and uni would make it complicated."

So... yeah. I'm glad I got that off my chest, and I'm glad she reacted the way she did, but now I feel like everything I say or do is being analysed. Ah well.

Ive been there a few years ago, sucks dont it =( but dont worry mate, things will get better

 

[MarsProbe]

Nope. Never. Contrary to what that song says, the geek doesn't get the girl. Well, not this one anyway. Either due to reasons (a) or (b). But mostly (b).

 

[MrFluffy-X]

If by "work your arse off" you mean "act innocent yet seductive until said crush asks you out" then yes. Yes I have.

whats your secret?

 

[Alien Mole]

I seem to have hit a streak where I almost always (and pretty much effortlessly) win when I want to, which boosts my confidence, which in turn seems to make me more attractive etc. It's fun and all, but many girls' attraction to me seems so easy that I don't have to fight for it, which generally makes me... well, not care.

The catch? I'm only really charming in English, and my native language is Dutch. I can't remember the last time I had someone fall for me where it wasn't just my posh British accent that did it (it has literally been over five years), which makes me feel more like an accent with a guy attached than a viable romantic partner. So I don't really connect with anyone emotionally.

The only person I'm somewhat interested in on a romantic level - and the only person I'm comfortable with emotionally - is my ex-girlfriend/best friend/on-and-off friend with benefits, and even that might just be dying down now that we have nothing to fight for/about any more. So in answer to the question: yes, I've fought for the girl and won her before, it's the point where I don't have to any longer that I just get massively bored.

Also a protip: Many women just seem to swoon at the sound of a British accent. Not getting enough action? Practise yours now!