Having Children...yes or no?

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DemonicVixen

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Got it planned.

I find that looking after other kid is tedious, but mostly because you lack control over them, even when your related you have only basic control. However if its your own, you can control them better... Needless to say, yes i want my own, and we already have an idea when we'll start as long as nothing crops up to say otherwise =D
 

slayer542

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REDUCE WORLD POPULATION! Theres WAY to many people in this world and Im not about to encourage anyone to have kids. More people just means more things that will drink our water, eat our food and pollute our world.

No kids. Kids are bad. Aside from what I stated above, kids also suck up your money.
 

NotSoNimble

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If you are married, and are financially stable, then it can be an option in theory.

So many children are in foster care now a days, that's it's sad young people breed without regard to the world. Adopt a child before you spread your seed. You will get a +1 and a cookie.
 

zombiesinc

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Eventually, yes. How many? No more than two.

Adopted or my own? Well, we'll see about that one. I have a real issue with people who have more than a few kids (like 5+)of their own)), just seems selfish or stubborn or... something considering how many kids there are without parents or families.

Now, the one thing I'm sure of is that I do not want to bear the child(ren). My girlfriend/wife/lover can do that. :/
 

minimacker

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I'd have a kid when I'm financially stable.
... And have a girlfriend.

I like children, but I could find myself raising one instead of splitting it all to many.
 

PrototypeC

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The danger is that someone will say, "oh, I don't know, probably, maybe" and then accidentally have them when they're not ready, IE not having a big enough house, money, etc.

I want to balance two factors; how much I can accomplish (money/house/vehicle) vs. how little I want my kids (2, no more) to have birth defects (increases exponentially after 35). Whew! So, yeah, a lot to figure out. I still have time.
 

Spectre39

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That's a big negative there. I'm even a card carrying member of the "Childfree" movement.

Reasons Incoming:

1. I'm at the age where many people make that fateful decision to burden themselves with all that commitment and obligation. That's cool for them, but I've barely even begun my life. I feel so unfulfilled, and I can't self actualize that my life has been thus-far worthwhile. However, I fail to see how spawning descendants is going to solve that problem. I choose to live vicariously through myself, rather than through children who have no say in the matter.

2. I don't believe in an afterlife. Some religious families like to breed way past their means because of the belief that they can all be together in heaven, when limited resources of time, food, and attention are supposedly a non-issue. I don't believe this to be true. In fact, I prefer to treasure the relationships I have with my colleagues over those I have with blood relatives. Getting off subject here, ah yes. Because of my lack of faith, I choose to live my life to the fullest of my finite existence. If I felt a sense of duty to my species, I may reproduce out of obligation to ensure the survival of the race as a whole, but that's not the case as our numbers are way above the extinction level. Therefor, I intend to live out my days providing for my own survival, and hopefully accompanied by a foxy lady who travels with me out of her own free will, instead of commitment to raising our descendants.

3. I am patient with adults, but intolerant of children. I threw away immature behaviors and ideals when I grew up. To quote that troublesome book, When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things." Now that I've just briefly inherited the summit of rationality and intelligence, I refuse to so suddenly throw myself back down into the pit of feral humanity. I have many cousins on my mother's side and been exposed to their many small children. Each and every time I am around them I cannot feel more uncomfortable. While I have in the past thought of what having a daughter would be like, I do not think I would make it past their formative years.

4. I have no intentions of having dominion over another human being. A forced source of unconditional love, a source of cheap unpaid labor, and a life and mind to be molded and shaped by you... well it all wreaks of trying to play god. The notion that it is my responsibility to raise a child that is well adjusted and healthy is too great of a responsibility. Most people try and use the reasoning that "I had a shitty childhood, so I'll do better with my kids". And thus the cycle continues of raising imperfect children. For better or worse, I don't want it to be on my conscience that I am the architect for someone's life. Much better that I try and better myself, than run the risk of trying to pave the road for my enthralled prodigy.

5. Life without kids is great! Most parents burn out their youth, money, energy, and relationships all as sacrifices. I don't have to pay such a toll. I'm free to live out my life in any way I see fit. It's like having a blank check really. All those things you like doing, but think you have to "give up" to fulfill your procreative duty? You don't have to surrender those liberties! It really is a choice you make. Take a gamble of unknown variables, or take charge of your life. The decision was really quite simple for me.

Parents seem to believe that it's all worth it in the end. Naturally, I'll leave that judgment up to them. As for me, I've got an open road full of whatever I make of it.
 

God's Clown

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I already have several names picked out, now I just need to find a woman willing to breed with me.
 

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Julianking93 said:
I don't particularly care about other people having kids. The only time it irks me is when I see those people with 10+ kids and they're all theirs.

I don't really understand why someone would want to do that....

As for me, I personally want children...but just one. And not till I'm round 30. That's enough for me.
Epic this. Epic epic this.
So, I've got a while to wait... and I'm COMPLETELY indifferent about that.
 

BringBackBuck

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octafish said:
I have a little girl, and on November 1st (unless sooner) I will have a son. Then I am done.
I'll race you.

I have a little boy (11 months old) and on October 22nd or thereabouts I will have another child - don't know if it is a boy or girl yet.

I want 2 or possibly 3 kids, though once you go over 3 it's either minivan or vasectomy. And I really hate minivans.
 

PurplePlatypus

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No, it doesn?t appeal to me. I?m not interested in the good bits about it, and the bad bits and the ew bits are seriously off putting. I don?t see this changing, I have things I wish to do with my life and children never came into it. Plus pregnancy, no thank you.
 

3lva

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Hmm... I generally percieve children as scary, since I'm unsure of how to communicate with them. I think it's going to take a few years (about 15 or so) before the concept even starts to not seem repulsing. (Not to mention I'd be a horrible parent.)

I understand the people who don't want kids. It is a daunting responsibility, and if you feel that you're not up to the task, odds are you're probably right. I don't see how it could possibly be selfish, unless you're together with someone and they want kids. That's where discussions come in handy. :)

If it's selfish to want children... hmm... I suppose generally no, but if you don't take care of them properly the option really shouldn't have been contemplated in the first place.
 

Hairetos

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SimuLord said:
Mimssy said:
Not sure I'm into the idea of breeding. Maybe some adopted ones? I'd have to meet a family person to make me want to be a mother.
You're still young. Kids are something you really start wanting once you're so world-weary that domestic bliss presents a more attractive option than adventuring.
You know what's not domestically blissful?

Screaming children.

My dad tells me that kids don't cry because I didn't cry. 5 minutes at his church cleared that notion right up. I can't handle screeching or diaper changing or just taking care of living things in general. Not to mention that I don't find them adorable.

I'd only EVER want one for the sake of raising a prodigy. I'd think of it like an RPG character-building experience, which doesn't sound like the right approach to parenting.
 

thylasos

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At some stage I'd like to have children, yes.

As everyone does, I'd imagine, I have concerns about whether I'd be a good parent, but I'm resolved to at least have a good degree of stability in my life before I embark down the road of parenthood.
 

ldbmikey86

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I kinda cringed at the thought of having kids since I'd never really been around them. That was until I got an awesome nephew that brought out the kickass uncle in me. I'd say having kids is definitely worth a shot, given the right person to raise them with 'n all that. But for now, I'll just be immature with relationships and continue the band thing.