He broke my jaw, what should I do?

[Bourne]

It's family man, you do dumb shit and forgive each other for it.

I couldn't disagree more. I believe you make your own family, and in today's modern age, nothing could be thinner than blood. If you have to constantly take shit for, make excuses for, and bail out family members who abuse you and don't learn any valuable lessons, I am of the mind that you should far away as quickly as possible.

 

[Frequen-Z]

I'm quite surprised at the amount of forgiveness this thread proposes. I'd be out for blood if it was me. Family or no family, he fucked up big time and you're the one who is suffering for it. Make him wish he'd never done it, how you do that is up to you.

 

[Proteus214]

Years down the line when he asks you to do something really important for him, just point at your jaw and say "no."

 

[soilent]

Laxitives in every meal,drink etc you can spike that belongs to him.

I done this to my brother for about a week (give them a day reprieve so they can recoever trust me on this one)

The constant shitting and the pain is like hell. And if you are good at lieing, no one will know its you. Just buy laxitives put it in his food drinks etc and enjoy the show.

that will kill someone, they will starve to death, and starving whilst shitting liquid is a terrible death for your own family.

 

[Cabisco]

It's family man, you do dumb shit and forgive each other for it.

I couldn't disagree more. I believe you make your own family, and in today's modern age, nothing could be thinner than blood. If you have to constantly take shit for, make excuses for, and bail out family members who abuse you and don't learn any valuable lessons, I am of the mind that you should far away as quickly as possible.

I just come from a family with good bonds I suppose. We take shit from each other, we get very angry and of course we actually fight but the love is still their and so we are more than willing to take flak for each other. It's hard to explain really, it's just something that as a family we do. We look out for each other and console each other in times of woe. I'm not sure why, but I feel you might be getting the impression we are some sort of thuggish bunch of idiots who beat up people who one of us don't like, I want to point out we are the opposite. We are in fact, mostly cowardly and middle class .

 

[RelexCryo]

He is you brother so forgive him.
If my brother did something like that, I would forgive him instant.

Edit:

some interesting idea's but just forgiving him isnt an option, its not like were constantly fighting about it it, i mean most of the people who found out about it were more pissed off with him than i was. Him and me just sort of went back to normal, which is drinking buddies, not really brothers. But its was extremely painful, it fucked up my a-levels and most importantly i can't eat solid food and it got to the point where even the sight off food was making my vomit. I should probably mention this isnt exactly the first incident, there was the time a narrowly avoided him getting me in th face with a hammer, there is the time he beat the crap out of our little brother (including standing on his neck) and a fair few more

I must admit he do not behave like a good brother, all I can say is you will have him as you brother for the rest of your life, best to make it work.

Letting him physically assult you isn't "making it work." Try to avoid him in the scenarios where he is likely to be dangerous, and get self defense lessons in case he attacks you again. I won't encourage vengeance, but the dude sounds dangerous, and you should be able to block a punch if he tries again, from drunkeness, rage, or pure stupidity. Some martial arts, such as Aikido, are designed to stop an attacker without hurting them.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

Call the police, explain the situation, and let them deal with it.

What he did contitutes a ABH which the usual sentence is 6 months in prison and a £5000 fine. Seems a little bit mean although we did consider if it would be worht it because of the police compensation

If you have a little brother there who is being subjected to this kind of abuse, then the six months are too short. You know those stories we read about all the time? Where there has been a catalogue of abuse and nobody did anything and everyone is outraged and demanding answers? This is one of those stories in motion. If your brother actually stood on your little brothers neck he could have really killed or paralysed him.

You have to stop this. If you can't call the police, take your little brother and get out of the house.

 

[BrightDeathFriend]

My suggestion would be to give him the cold shoulder untill he confronted you to try and apologise. If he doesn't seem genuinely apologetic then dont listen to it. His misjudgement put you through some tough shit (i sympathise about that as I know it can be painful and a general pain in the preverbial). You're still family so dont turn your back on him 100% ...but send him signals about how this has affected you.

If he cares about you then He will apologise and buy you a beer....or a few =P

 

[bam13302]

Make fun of him for it for the rest of his life.

 

[Rockman900]

Ahhh..Good to see real Escapees opinions on this matter.

Well..if I were you..I dont know your age and his, but you got to set the record straight. You're both alcoholics, I dont want to judge or anything, but thats something that stands in the way here. If your drunk you cant make a well-thought decision. If the rage/need for violence your brother has runs in your family, I would stay away from you too when you drink!

My solution: TALK. Dont do stuff you normally wouldnt do. Do it in a moment when your both sober. Just say to him that you are not okay with him beating you to the hospital, and while you are at it, say you also dont like his previous actions. You let it go what happened in the past, but the jawbreaking was the final drop. Its gotta stop. If he cant get that..well...eh its been suggested to convince your parents to do something. If they wont..avoid him till he changes his behavior.

But, seriously, next time something happens, call the police and let them handle it. Say that to him.

 

[Ithos]

break his

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Put a device to his face that can break his jaw, then threaten to set it off if he pisses you off.

 

[mayney93]

my brother once stabbed, me just move on and forgive, but hold it against him for the rest of your life, bring it up in every argument , it's a really good trump card

 

[RoutineEnvelope]

Just tell him how angry you are about it, and you have every right to be!

 

[anthony87]

Take a free swing at him. It's only fair.

Then afterwards stuff him full of laxatives.

 

[FWL_MeRc]

Human body can live for up to a month without food, Its de-hydration you have to be concerned about with my method, ergo the day reprieve.

Research before critisizeing a deliciously evil plan.

Also the human body can Absorb with great speed what it needs, the assumtion that you would kill someone with too much laxitive (it can happen but frankly if I got a face plate, surgeroy, missing money because my brother was a jerk and nothings being done. Payback, as they say is a *****)will be extreme doses and long term use. A week isn't "long term". It is longer than most people would use it yes.

Its torturious, creul and mean yes. But leave it at a week with a days break inbetween and all should be good. He would just think he has a bad case of the runs.

 

[kakan]

Hey Sir_jackington, I think you should take a piss on him while he sleeps.

 

[Danny Ocean]

SO any ideas on what i should do?

Everyone's acting normal because this isn't a big deal. He didn't mean to break your jaw (I assume), it was an accident that just happened. Yes, it inconvenienced you, but there's nothing anyone can do about it now, so you just need to get on with it like everyone else around you is.

But then I would say that, I'm a very laid back kinda guy.

Plus you can use it to gain the moral high ground in later arguments, or if he wants something of yours.

Escapees

Escapists*

Escapee implies an escaped prisoner, and Escapist implies a person who indulges in escapism, which is what this site's all about. Plus it's always been Escapists.

Excuse if that seems like overreaction.