HELP! Is this 2 early?

[Sven und EIN HUND]

Not trying to sound bitter or anything, but it seems like you're not too interested in our opinions, and just want to spread the word; this is something that only you can decide... You love him, he loves you, if you can see it working, jump in.

 

[BonsaiK]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

I have answered this in the Relationship Problem Thread, which is at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=14#3807569

 

[Skuffyshootster]

It's not cause he knocked you up, right?

I'm sorry, that was mean.

But, why are you asking an internet forum? If you really want my opinion, I would say no. You should wait at least a year, but 2-3 would be better.

EDIT: Holy shit, your eighteen? What the hell are you thinking? Couples married that young almost always divorce. You could go through with it, but put some serious thought into it first.

 

[seious]

If it's true love then go for it!

my freind "true love" is the rarest trasure you will ever find they say there is someone out there for everyone the only problem is finding that person so my freind its very unlikly this person has found true love

too bad then. I'm already engaged and only 16

i dint say it was impossible just very hard congrats

 

[skywalkerlion]

I say wait till the new year. If you love him enough, and you think you guys are right for eachother, then go ahead and do it. But if you don't, try not to make him feel rejected.

 

[TheSeventhLoneWolf]

Give it more time, you'll see.

 

[Danpascooch]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Well, all of these posters are working on an extremely limited set of information on both you and this guy, so if you respect him, you should not make any part of this decision based on any/all of these posts

that said, from just the information you gave, it seems way too early

Actually I know friends who have been through this situation, so I'd think that experience is something worthwhile to listen to.

I just don't think we should make the decision for them when we don't know them at all

 

[Julianking93]

Seeing as I'm against any form of marriage, I'd say don't do it.

 

[Aesir23]

I really don't think you should be asking people on the internet this sort of thing since they don't know you personally. It all depends on how you feel about it. If it feels right, then full steam ahead. If you're hesitant or unsure then maybe wait a little longer.

 

[Fraeir]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays...
Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early...

My mind screams: "Sure as hell it is too early!"

To quote a good friend of mine;
"It takes -max- (read; MAX, not necessarily that long at all) five years for the entire lovey-dovey, fluttering feeling to fade. Once that is gone, and you still enjoy each others' company more than anyone else's, it's a green light for marriage."

Otherwise it's a possible recipe for a money-drain, imo. Wait till the entire fluttering thing is over.
PS: Besides, you're only 18, woman, marriage is like the last thing you should worry about at that age!

EDIT: Sorry coming off as a complete dick, but I stand by that; I'd say no, it's way too early. Then again I've got no belief in marriage to be anything more than a religious tradition purely meant to fill commercial coffers in these days. : /

 

[Danpascooch]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Well, all of these posters are working on an extremely limited set of information on both you and this guy, so if you respect him, you should not make any part of this decision based on any/all of these posts

that said, from just the information you gave, it seems way too early

Actually I know friends who have been through this situation, so I'd think that experience is something worthwhile to listen to.

I just don't think we should make the decision for them when we don't know them at all

That's why the topic is called "Help"...You know, help the girl make up her own mind, not make it up for her, because a bad mistake is one best avoided.

I don't think we should "help" at all, we don't know these people well enough to make an informed decision, and I would rather not influence her choice without knowing what I am doing.

It's like asking some guy on the street to help you keep your nuclear reactor from overloading, the guy doesn't have a f---ing clue how to work one and is just as likely to make it explode as to help

We just don't have NEARLY enough information, and even if we did, this is not something we should influence at all, it is a highly personal decision

 

[Danpascooch]

You're right, lets all step aside and let you set e

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Well, all of these posters are working on an extremely limited set of information on both you and this guy, so if you respect him, you should not make any part of this decision based on any/all of these posts

that said, from just the information you gave, it seems way too early

Actually I know friends who have been through this situation, so I'd think that experience is something worthwhile to listen to.

I just don't think we should make the decision for them when we don't know them at all

That's why the topic is called "Help"...You know, help the girl make up her own mind, not make it up for her, because a bad mistake is one best avoided.

I don't think we should "help" at all, we don't know these people well enough to make an informed decision, and I would rather not influence her choice without knowing what I am doing.

It's like asking some guy on the street to help you keep your nuclear reactor from overloading, the guy doesn't have a f---ing clue how to work one and is just as likely to make it explode as to help

We just don't have NEARLY enough information, and even if we did, this is not something we should influence at all, it is a highly personal decision

Well if you have no idea about these topics great, I have experience with these situations however, and you can't be ignorant enough to think that that counts for nothing.
It's actually like asking 100 guys on the street about overloading a nuclear reactor - whereas you think they all know nothing, one may have a degree in physics or something relevant to the question. To prove my point, if you want to keep one from becoming super-critical (I'm guessing that's what you mean by overloading...) you just have to cool the pile with coolant rods, or remove the heatings rods, or even better go for the Indian design pebble bed reactor =)
We have all the information we need - two young people with one wanting to rush into a long term relationship. Can you spell naivety? I can, and it goes something like this: D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

Look, for what it matters, I don't think they should do it this quickly either, but stop simultaneously being an arrogant ass while at the same time stroking your ego by telling everybody how much you know about everything and actually think about this for a second

YOU DO NOT KNOW THESE PEOPLE, you call me ignorant? Hey asshole, wrap your giant head around that one

 

[Danpascooch]

You're right, lets all step aside and let you set e

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Well, all of these posters are working on an extremely limited set of information on both you and this guy, so if you respect him, you should not make any part of this decision based on any/all of these posts

that said, from just the information you gave, it seems way too early

Actually I know friends who have been through this situation, so I'd think that experience is something worthwhile to listen to.

I just don't think we should make the decision for them when we don't know them at all

That's why the topic is called "Help"...You know, help the girl make up her own mind, not make it up for her, because a bad mistake is one best avoided.

I don't think we should "help" at all, we don't know these people well enough to make an informed decision, and I would rather not influence her choice without knowing what I am doing.

It's like asking some guy on the street to help you keep your nuclear reactor from overloading, the guy doesn't have a f---ing clue how to work one and is just as likely to make it explode as to help

We just don't have NEARLY enough information, and even if we did, this is not something we should influence at all, it is a highly personal decision

Well if you have no idea about these topics great, I have experience with these situations however, and you can't be ignorant enough to think that that counts for nothing.
It's actually like asking 100 guys on the street about overloading a nuclear reactor - whereas you think they all know nothing, one may have a degree in physics or something relevant to the question. To prove my point, if you want to keep one from becoming super-critical (I'm guessing that's what you mean by overloading...) you just have to cool the pile with coolant rods, or remove the heatings rods, or even better go for the Indian design pebble bed reactor =)
We have all the information we need - two young people with one wanting to rush into a long term relationship. Can you spell naivety? I can, and it goes something like this: D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

Look, for what it matters, I don't think they should do it this quickly either, but stop simultaneously being an arrogant ass while at the same time stroking your ego by telling everybody how much you know about everything and actually think about this for a second

YOU DO NOT KNOW THESE PEOPLE, you call me ignorant? Hey asshole, wrap your giant head around that one

Asshole? Sorry for clearly having pissed you off, as you seem to be so naive as to think that experience in similar matters doesn't count for anything. Go away and grow up kid, a grown-up is giving out advice on a sensitive topic.

Wow, you really are an arrogant son of a b--ch, and yes, you did piss me off, because you called me ignorant while flaunting your "experience", what is this "experience" you have anyway? Did your parents run into marriage and divorce? Seriously, all of the experience in the world doesn't change the fact that you don't know these people, and thus cannot make an accurate judgment. I never said experience (which you still haven't elaborated on) doesn't matter, that was you putting words in my mouth, and then using the same words you put in my mouth to insult me.

You are acting like a spoiled child, so if it makes you feel better, pretend you matter enough to be able to make a clear judgment when none of us can because we don't know them. Hell, you have to cling to something right? Otherwise you might have to admit you aren't perfect, OH NO!