HELP! Is this 2 early?

[Slashergirl]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

Far too soon IMO.

Also, you're new here and don't know, but there have been a lot of relationship threads lately, and people are more likely to spill hatred than wisdom. Welcome to the Escapist

 

[DemonicVixen]

hmmm. i guess it all depends on your feelings im afraid. Just don't go into the marrige just yet. Wait a while before that because that is going to far too early.

 

[SomeBritishDude]

Hmm...I honestly don't know on this matter. But I will say that this is probably not the best place to ask.

Just to throw in my opinion (but please don't take it to heart, I'm a 18 year old virgin on the internet) I would say this is way, way too early. Can you see yourself with this man in 10, 20, 40 years time? Can you see yourself seeing his teeth in a jar and thinking "I still love this man"? I personally don't think you could have learnt enough about him or him about you in that time to make an informed decision. But like I said, I don't think I've ever been in love so I don't know shit.

 

[dark_taint92]

how old are you that would be good and some info; how olds your boyfriend, do u love him, can u actually live with him for the next god knows how long. i personally think your rushing into things a little to quickly considering youve only been together since the end of the summer holidays.

 

[dodo1331]

Hmm...I honestly don't know on this matter. But I will say that this is probably not the best place to ask.

Girls tell me all the time that gamer nerds are the sweetest. So yes, maybe it is. Unless you're referring to the wave of relationship threads.

Anyway, your age and your boyfriend's age would help. If you haven't finished college yet (which I'm 99% sure you haven't by your post) it is WAY TOO SOON.

 

[Vierran]

My advice is to always move in with each other for at least a few months first. I know you said you are setting up but i am not sure what that means exactly.

 

[Slashergirl]

how old are you that would be good and some info; how olds your boyfriend, do u love him, can u actually live with him for the next god knows how long. i personally think your rushing into things a little to quickly considering youve only been together since the end of the summer holidays.

he is just turned 19 and im 18. I feel comfortable with the idea of living together, just not sure about being engaged...

Welcome to the Escapist

Thanks... won't be on 2 often as my internet keeps cutting me off for days but im hoping to become a regular

 

[Kaboose the Moose]

Hmm...I honestly don't know on this matter. But I will say that this is probably not the best place to ask.

Pretty much this. Advice about personal relationships on a website, let alone a gaming website is a bit pointless..to put it bluntly. I mean the decision you are facing is quite an important one and none of use here know anything about you or him or the history between you two.

Therefore the advice you are likely going to get is generic and probably nothing specific. Besides at the end of the day, it's your life and your call.

 

[CovertCell]

If you had really wanted to go through with it you most likely wouldnt be on here asking for advice. You'd be planning the wedding. But to me 18/19 is too early anyway. You need to "live a little" first, explore things, don't commit too early.

 

[JIst00]

Met my mrs on teh net, ended up livin together after 3 months, got engaged. Been happily engaged for the past 2 ana half yrs.

So it can work. But im 26 she's 21 and we'd been friends for bout 2 yrs before anything happened so it is a little different to ur situation

All the best tho.

Also, as a side note, dont do ur dirty washing on places like the net, unless u have flame retardant gear on. Or like bein flamed. People can be pricks.

 

[The Maddest March Hare]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

While it's entirely up to you, and if you really can see yourself being with him happily in 50 years time then it might just be you've been lucky and found the right person really fast.

But my friend got engaged at the start of this year, her fiance then suddenly got cold feet, left her and severed contact with nary a fare-thee-well.

Another of my friends is engaged to her first ever boyfriend after knowing him a whole 2 months, and his relationship history isn't great either.

If you think it's the right choice, go for it. In my opinion, it can just cause a lot more hurt if something goes wrong and you break up. Give it time, there's no rush to be married. There's nothing wrong with being an un-married couple living together, hell that'll help you learn whether you can really live with them for many years to come.

Good luck in your new home!

Also, welcome to the Escapist. Don't feed our local troll, he's getting really fat as it is and we don't want him to have a heart attack, the body under the stairs is totally not our fault. Honest. Hope to see you around more often

 

[Cabaedium]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

I would advise you to wait a while...no matter how you may feel, you simply can't know someone well enough to make that kind of commitment after just a few months.

 

[JIst00]

Give it time, there's no rush to be married. There's nothing wrong with being an un-married couple living together, hell that'll help you learn whether you can really live with them for many years to come.

Also this.

 

[soul_rever38]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

personally i would advise you to wait for a while longer, just try living together first as that is the first real test then go from there

 

[Rascarin]

If you wanted to marry him, I think you would know already, and wouldn't need to ask the internet what do do.

Wait until you're sure.

 

[Xorghul]

I think you should wait for say, a year. At least. They're expensive. And quite pointless anyway.

 

[Frankydee]

generally my rule of thumb is to at least know each other for a year or more. That and at least wait till you're in your twenties. You find a lot of couples that get married young usually have the higher divorce rates or unsatisfied marriages.

Honestly I would turn the guy down until you got to know each other better. Say you want to take it a little slower. If he's a decent person he'll have the patience.

 

[wooty]

Two of my friends got engaged when they were 16, now 22 and theyre still together, only thing stopping them tying the knot is the cost of a wedding

But its all down to choice I guess

 

[Hazy]

I wish I could offer more insight, but I cannot bring myself to in this matter.
You know him more than I do. And since I know nothing of what he's like and how much you have in common (Quite a bit, I'd presume) I would just offer you to go with your heart. But use your head too.