HELP! Is this 2 early?

[Nuke_em_05]

If you feel the relationship is strong enough and are able to support yourselves without parents. Age is semi-irrelevant, but the length of the relationship is a concern to me. Yes, you haven't argued yet, you're in the infatuation phase. Having arguments or disagreements are not a bad thing. In excess, yes, but if you never disagree or argue, either you are the exact same personality and there's nothing constructive, or one or both of you are repressing things "for the sake of the relationship" which is unhealthy.

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[twistedshadows]

You're still in the "honeymoon" period of dating, so I'd say wait a while longer before completely committing yourself.

Also, if you feel like it might be too soon, it probably is.

 

[Nuke_em_05]

Too early! Live together for a few years first. If your relationship survives that and you're still in love, then I would consider it. As other have pointed out, you already sound hesitant. If you were looking for validation as to whether turning down your boyfriend is the right choice, here it is.

This too, the fact you are hesitant, or at least unsure (and enough so to appeal to the internet), isn't a good sign. On that, appeal to family members of a higher generation, you'll be surprised how much smarter and more reasonable they seem to be as you age.

 

[fulano]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Whoa, way to throw you under the bus by mum and dad. If you're suddenly feeling like you should wait is because you should wait, if you don't, then you definitely should wait.

Batter be sure now instead of ten years down the road when you're pretty sure the ceiling has a leak, you kid doesn't eat enough veggies and your husband is being way too friendly with that *****, even when he says he isn't. One can't help but wonder.

 

[Woodsey]

You're 18 and setting up a home with someone and planning to get married?!


What the fu-

 

[Disaster Button]

I don't think age matters too much, so when you amke your decision try not to take age into account.

All that matters is how you both feel, if you're a little uncertain then maybe it is too soon but don't feel uncertain just because of your age.

And an engagement could last a long time so by the time you actually get married it could be years from now.

 

[ninjapenguin981]

Talk to him about how you feel. If he doesn't understand he's not worth being with.

 

[fulano]

I don't think age matters too much, so when you amke your decision try not to take age into account.

All that matters is how you both feel, if you're a little uncertain then maybe it is too soon but don't feel uncertain just because of your age.

And an engagement could last a long time so by the time you actually get married it could be years from now.

Just...how old are you?

 

[Disaster Button]

I don't think age matters too much, so when you amke your decision try not to take age into account.

All that matters is how you both feel, if you're a little uncertain then maybe it is too soon but don't feel uncertain just because of your age.

And an engagement could last a long time so by the time you actually get married it could be years from now.

Just...how old are you?

Yeah I'm 16. But I figured I'd add as my parents did the exact same thing at like, the exact same ages and they got married and are still together like 30 years later It'd be worth posting that. Although probably not.

 

[Kajt]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Do you love him? If you do, it's not too early.

 

[fulano]

I don't think age matters too much, so when you amke your decision try not to take age into account.

All that matters is how you both feel, if you're a little uncertain then maybe it is too soon but don't feel uncertain just because of your age.

And an engagement could last a long time so by the time you actually get married it could be years from now.

Just...how old are you?

Yeah I'm 16. But I figured I'd add as my parents did the exact same thing at like, the exact same ages and they got married and are still together like 30 years later It'd be worth posting that. Although probably not.

It's not.

Times change, society changes. Things are harder now, there's way more pressure, and people don't mature at the same rate as before.

 

[Spirultima]

1. In my personal opinion, too early.

2. You shouldn't ask these questions to strangers, one reason being, what does that say about your relationship already?

 

[Murlin]

I'd wait. Maybe talk to him about it and tell him the fact that these kind of situation where couples start living together rather quickly after they met often meet undesired ends

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oh and OMG!!!AGIRLONTEHINTERWEBS!!!PICS!!!
sorry I had to do the stereotype in order to mock the people who are actually serious about it

 

[DemonicVixen]

I have friends that got engaged about three months after meeting eachother. They have been engaged for about nine months now, live together and all. (They're both eighteen now. When they got engaged they were seventeen.)

In my opinion it's too early for you, since you feel you've got to ask it means you are unsure about the whole thing. But think of it this way, it's just about as easy to break an engagement as it is to just simply break up.

Hope I was any help

Wow that was an early engagement also. I once said to my boyfriend that to me an engagement is merely the promise of deeper commitment in the future. A ring on the finger and the asking of marrige. To be honest i think its no different to just being plain boyfriend and girlfriend, not all that much of a big deal. Your right in that it is simple to break off (hard as it can be) so again, trust your instinct and go with the flow.

OT: Again don't panic and it will be fine, as long as you love him, want to be with him and know you can be together without a hitch.

 

[Disaster Button]

I don't think age matters too much, so when you amke your decision try not to take age into account.

All that matters is how you both feel, if you're a little uncertain then maybe it is too soon but don't feel uncertain just because of your age.

And an engagement could last a long time so by the time you actually get married it could be years from now.

Just...how old are you?

Yeah I'm 16. But I figured I'd add as my parents did the exact same thing at like, the exact same ages and they got married and are still together like 30 years later It'd be worth posting that. Although probably not.

It's not.

Times change, society changes. Things are harder now, there's way more pressure, and people don't mature at the same rate as before.

Doesn't mean everyone's like that. Although at this specific time things are pretty bad but they're already living together and getting engaged won't effect much besides from how they feel about each other, except for maybe the price of the ring.

 

[DemonicVixen]

I don't think age matters too much, so when you amke your decision try not to take age into account.

All that matters is how you both feel, if you're a little uncertain then maybe it is too soon but don't feel uncertain just because of your age.

And an engagement could last a long time so by the time you actually get married it could be years from now.

Just...how old are you?

Yeah I'm 16. But I figured I'd add as my parents did the exact same thing at like, the exact same ages and they got married and are still together like 30 years later It'd be worth posting that. Although probably not.

It's not.

Times change, society changes. Things are harder now, there's way more pressure, and people don't mature at the same rate as before.

Damn just spotted these posts... At 16 im amazed he has a bit of common sense. Yes it could work, it all depends. They just need to establish whether they are right for eachother. If his parents managed it, and severl others on this thread mentioned that they knew someone who has done it and survived so far, give it a chance.

As for maturity, we don't know them to know how mature either of them are. Maybe they are older in mind then their age... You just can't tell.

 

[fulano]

I don't think age matters too much, so when you amke your decision try not to take age into account.

All that matters is how you both feel, if you're a little uncertain then maybe it is too soon but don't feel uncertain just because of your age.

And an engagement could last a long time so by the time you actually get married it could be years from now.

Just...how old are you?

Yeah I'm 16. But I figured I'd add as my parents did the exact same thing at like, the exact same ages and they got married and are still together like 30 years later It'd be worth posting that. Although probably not.

It's not.

Times change, society changes. Things are harder now, there's way more pressure, and people don't mature at the same rate as before.

Doesn't mean everyone's like that. Although at this specific time things are pretty bad but they're already living together and getting engaged won't effect much besides from how they feel about each other, except for maybe the price of the ring.

And the way hey declare taxes, the way they handle their bank accounts, the way they apply for government or job benefits, the way they handle their property, their names (or not, depending on what they like), a hell of a job of legal hurdles like to whose name a particular significant acquisition should go depending on what situation; like a cars, sets of air conditioners, maybe a lawnmower, etc.

I mean, really? Just the price of the ring?

As I said, times are different now. Some things are mundane, and others not so much.

 

[Kruxxor]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

If it's real love then marriage can wait. Don't rush into these things.

I proposed to my girlfriend 2 years into the relationship and we split up 2 years later. If it's meant to be then what's a few years? You'll hopefully be together forever, but lets not chance fate, shall we? She is a cruel mistress.

 

[Numb1lp]

Why would you get your advice on marriage on the Escapist?