Help me, I've never kissed a girl before and my current girl knows that.

[Mr S]

OK here's the deal. I'm 17 years old and I've never kissed a girl before. Luckily I do have a girlfriend whom is also 17. She however, has kissed tons of guys, she's not a whore though . Problem is that tonight we started talking and she asked me if i ever had been drunk and then kissed a girl. I said i hadn't. She then asked me if I ever had kissed a girl, she probably thought I'd say yes. I tried to talk around it and start a different conversation, but she kept asking me, so finally I said that I hadn't. Then it just felt awkward for me. Now please tell me what to do. I was kinda blunt to her after that, but I also apologized again. What should I do? I was gonna kiss her on our next date, but now I don't think its such a great idea anymore :S

I wanna kiss her, but she'll probably think of this conversation when I try too and think that I'm only trying to kiss her because she found out I haven't kissed anyone so far. She might be offended and I might be lonely again :'(
I also don't know WHEN to kiss her. I don't wanna do it just any time.
Not like, i walk up to her when i see her and kiss her right away.
So what would be a good time?

 

[baddude1337]

How about kissing her when your parting ways or something?

best thing to do is not fret about it too much, when you want to kiss her it will come naturally. She might even make the first move, that's what my first girl did.

 

[Hazy]

First and foremost, cease being so self-conscious. It will happen when it happens, and when it does, it will be glorious.
Don't harp on the fact that she's had more experience than you.

Secondly, timing is everything. I wish I could expound on that more, but it's a case by case basis. Do what feels right.

And now I just sit back and wait for SimuLord to (hopefully) show up, because that guy is a total bro with the aura of a favorite uncle whose "been there, done that, and got X to show for it"

 

[sheic99]

First, of all there is an forum specifically for Advice, conveniently named the Advice forum. Secondly, kiss after a date, or during a dance at school, assuming you go to those. I don't really know what else to tell you, you'll know when the right time is to kiss her, or she may very well tell you when it is.

 

[OliverTwist72]

I think you're putting too much thought into it, it's just a kiss.

 

[Burwood123]

Should you care?
Should she care?
No. no you shouldn't. My first kiss was at 17 too, so what big deal, same situation as you, not awkward just wet, her fault not mine;P (srs)

 

[El Poncho]

Well next time when she's leaving kiss her,I guess it's the least awkward way.

 

[Gxas]

If you lose her because you've never kissed someone before, then she obviously isn't the right girl.

 

[Amethyst Wind]

*Beat*

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

(Did you see that *Beat* panel? It was crucial to the joke)

As for not kissing a girl, who cares? I tend to hear that it's quality over quantity that's valued, so if you suck at it then it won't matter how many you've kissed.

If you're stuck for ideas on when to kiss her, big up the 'reverse cherry-plucker' aspect, get her all excited about claiming your first kiss or something, allow her to do the work.

 

[Holy_Handgrenade]

You have to get all this not kissing someone out of your system if I was you, honestly I would kiss her when I greet her, nothing major just a small kiss, then you don't have to worry about it anymore, because the longer you wait the bigger a deal it will become.

Also she's not going to be offended if you try and kiss her, just because of the conversation, hell, I usualy kiss a girl on the first date, it's a kiss it's no big deal and good luck.

 

[Murais]

A good kiss is less a lip-press, and more a massage using your mouth. Don't be afraid to experiment; go with what feels good. If she's your girlfriend, and she likes you, she probably even finds it a bit endearing. If she drops you because of it... she's kind of a *****.

Just use some balm (prior to for a good amount, so your lips are soft), don't get wet, and don't be sloppy. The rest is kind of just... instinct.

 

[Cyanin]

You're a couple. depending on your relationship with each other, come out to her and say you're nervous. She might want to you to act all headstrong and go a-flying and it to be perfect.

It takes practice though, like remembering to swallow your spit every once in a while.

Not a lesson to forget either..

If you're really good, she'll understand you're nervous about it, and you can make something good of it, you will probably gear your kissing around her particular preferences though. =P

And don't worry about it man, be natural, and loosen up, don't just dart around in her mouth.

Good luck with the issues, hope this's been helpful.

 

[Ickorus]

She knows you don't have experience in that area so the hardest bit is over, you did unfortunately miss a prime opportunity to ask her if she wants to help you learn.

I say you maneuver a conversation back to that subject and then ask the question I mentioned above, if she says no just smile and say it was worth a try if she says yes then jackpot.

 

[TimeLord]

You're only 17, it isn't a big deal not to have kissed a girl at that age. If she thinks worse of you because of that then she isn't the girl for you.

 

[latenightapplepie]

If she likes you, you like her, and you don't make it a huge issue, having never kissed someone before won't matter. If she does reject because of it, she was a shit person and you should be glad to be rid of her.

My advice, just do it when you're saying goodbye or hello. Best times to do it.

That or get really really drunk. That's what I did. (Seriously don't do this. It cheapens this experience a little, I've found).

EDIT: Oh yeah, and being 17 really shouldn't matter. I was 20.

 

[Mr S]

She knows you don't have experience in that area so the hardest bit is over, you did unfortunately miss a prime opportunity to ask her if she wants to help you learn.

I say you maneuver a conversation back to that subject and then ask the question I mentioned above, if she says no just smile and say it was worth a try if she says yes then jackpot.

I might just be crazy, but I think I'll try this.
But if she says no, then could I create an atmosphere for a kiss?
I think hello or goodbye is very cheesy.
And I don't wanna wait till Valentine's Day, or EVEN longer.

 

[biter]

I just registered an account to reply.

JUST KISS HER.

Serous man, kissing involves pressing the lips together, everything from that point is fucking practice and personal choice. I've kissed plenty of girls with differing experience, the ones with the most experience aren't necessarily the best kissers. But... *ahem* they are all pleasurable.

good luck. keep kissing.

PS- yeah, abide by the previous responders opinion's. Keep yer tung a little... coy, until you know she wants it.

 

[nunqual]

OK here's the deal. I'm 17 years old and I've never kissed a girl before. Luckily I do have a girlfriend whom is also 17. She however, has kissed tons of guys, she's not a whore though . Problem is that tonight we started talking and she asked me if i ever had been drunk and then kissed a girl. I said i hadn't. She then asked me if I ever had kissed a girl, she probably thought I'd say yes. I tried to talk around it and start a different conversation, but she kept asking me, so finally I said that I hadn't. Then it just felt awkward for me. Now please tell me what to do. I was kinda blunt to her after that, but I also apologized again. What should I do? I was gonna kiss her on our next date, but now I don't think its such a great idea anymore :S

I wanna kiss her, but she'll probably think of this conversation when I try too and think that I'm only trying to kiss her because she found out I haven't kissed anyone so far. She might be offended and I might be lonely again :'(
I also don't know WHEN to kiss her. I don't wanna do it just any time.
Not like, i walk up to her when i see her and kiss her right away.
So what would be a good time?

Calm down dude. You are overthinking this way too much. Just kiss her.

 

[Mr S]

I just registered an account to reply.

JUST KISS HER.

Serous man, kissing involves pressing the lips together, everything from that point is fucking practice and personal choice. I've kissed plenty of girls with differing experience, the ones with the most experience aren't necessarily the best kissers. But... *ahem* they are all pleasurable.

good luck. keep kissing.

PS- yeah, abide by the previous responders opinion's. Keep yer tung a little... coy, until you know she wants it.

First of all, I am honoured that you registered just to comment on my question.
Second, I'm sorry, but I'm just very nervous.
I'm the kind of guy that believes in Murphy's Law, especially when it comes to love.