Just so that we're clear, it should be remembered that there are quite a few anatomically correct male body mods other than AlienSlof's. I use one, and it works quite well.
That said, obviously the harassment of this modder is completely out of line. I will add that I personally never liked AlienSlof's mods myself, though. I found them insulting, degrading, and objectifying. That is, they were exactly as bad as the torrent of equally insulting, degrading, and objectifying mods that fetishise female characters in-game, and I see no reason to discriminate based on the gender that's suffering objectification. I say this as someone who likes the vast array of female clothing mods around for Oblivion, but who wishes he'd not had to spend so many hours searching for armour for a female character that doesn't make her look like... well, you know. I found it quite depressing that there were hardly any decent clothing mods for dressing up male characters, and when I found AlienSlof's work was disappointed to see that it was every bit as disgusting as that which had been created for female characters.
That said, though, the reaction to her work is absolutely unacceptable. While it would be quite acceptable and indeed morally upright to criticise objectifying mods on feminist grounds, whether those mods target women or men, that sort of personal attack, and evident hypocrisy as regards the objectification of women, is horrible.
No, I didn't like her mods and I will not mourn them, but there should be a minimum level of respect given to all human beings. That this behaviour is a blatant double standard only makes it worse.