Homosexuality in Today's Society

[Otterwuff]

I came out of the closet when I was 15.

I have been harassed twice in my life about my homosexuality. Once by a loudmouth brat who was three years younger than me - I tore him off his bike, then called his mother to apologise for losing my temper. She said it was alright, and that the lad would be spoken to. He never bothered me since.

The second time was a rather public outhanging. In our classroom at high school, there was something akin to "[He] is always seen sucking cock" written on the wall; the teachers interfered and had it removed, but I was crestfallen because it was a low blow. Pun not intended.

But I'm not feminine. I don't have a camp attitude, I don't think I come off as abnormal in sense of generic male behaviour, and even if I do, nobody here cares. I'm just a guy doing groceries and walking about town, nobody stops, points, stares or does any of the kind, and even if they knew I was gay I don't think it would've made a difference. Then again, Norway hasn't ever been homophobic apart from a few stories on the news of the religious county in the south - and seeing as I live in the north, where even old people are indifferent (and religion is not an important part of our culture (I do believe religion has a lot to do with the discrimination, but I blame the individual)), I've never had to care about difficulties. Not in regards of my sexuality.

 

[Emilie Diabolica]

i was raised in a staunchly catholic family and went to an Opus Dei all-girls catholic school. needless to say, it was very fucking hard to come to terms with my sexuality in that environment.

years of depression and self-harm later, i'm finally (mostly) comfortable my my orientation. I've come out to most of my family and friends, besides my father, whose extreme homophobia would see me disowned and kicked out.
it's bloody hard living with it, hell, i know if i had a choice i'd be straight. even though my family knows my sexuality and how hard it's been for me, i still get the religious homophobic barbs thrown at me when i least expect it. my mum still believes it's a phase i'm going through.
bleh..

 

[Caligulove]

first and foremost I would just advise to get to know your gay friends better so you could learn for yourself.

some of my best friends are gay, though- and they say that it really only changes things when it comes to older generations and with their families. When they are there and by themselves nothing is really brought up- but when he brings his boyfriend around... his family just.. doesnt talk much. They love him and want to support him, but you can tell they all arent fully comfortable with it? I'd guess.

Most gay people I know say its hardest to deal with grandparents in families, or just with random strangers who see them with their partners out in public

 

[AgentNein]

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(short explanation, I quoted the wrong dude, and I'm too lazy to finish this)

 

[Snork Maiden]

Why do they have gay bars and such? Why not go to heterosexual clubs?

Because gay bars are better than the straight equivalents a lot of the time?

 

[AgentNein]

Why hate? Because it isn't correct. They destroy cultures, that is why. They create bad examples for our children. Doing what you want is not correct, even if it is nature. Nature tells us to get angry and sometimes to murder and be anarchits, but we have laws agianst it. Why do we have laws agianst drugs? Because they are scientifically bad and spread disease. Hey Aids is a disease! Guess what people, take off the PC glasses and see the truth, these people are not what our society needs or wants. I know I am going to get flamed. I know I may be an extremeist. But I stand firm in my thoughts. That is what I think to be true.

You need to clarify on what exactly you mean by 'not correct'. Not correct in relation to what exactly? In relation to certain religious law? Incorrect in terms of 'normal' human heterosexual nature? Just because a certain act or mindset is not of the majority, or not average does not equate to incorrect. People smart enough to be the physicists and other scientists who move our culture forward are a very small minority of the larger population. Are these people 'incorrect' aberrations as well? And please explain how that necessarily means it's destructive. Destructive how? To which groups of people?

 

[Zeldadudes]

I will only be talking about the male homosexuals, not women.
Homosexual men think about sex every 3 seconds where as Hetrosexual men think about sex every 10+.
The reason i say this is because a large proportion of the Gay community only really want sex, hell they can get it as well! I was once put on a gay website by my friends and suprisingly 7 people messaged me within 15minutes asking for private pictures etc.
I have a good friend who happens to be gay and recently he broke up with his boyfriend, he had been with him for a year and a bit, as he was moving to Japan for a year.
The main reason he broke up with him is because he didn't want to have to wait for him and because he wanted sex.
Ironically he still loves him and even though he has been with 2 other men since they broke up, he's not a slag, he still thinks of his ex everyday and can't wait for him to come back.

This is one part of the gay community that i can be bothered to talk about.

To be rather cliched i will tell you to watch "Queer As Folk". Its a gay tv program that is very very close to the truth.

Hope it helps you.

 

[The Shade of Time]

I dont belive ib gay marrage not because its againts "god" or anything but gay marrage will lead to get divorce and THAT will be bitchy

 

[DemonicVixen]

I have several lesbian friends and worked with one gay guy. I love them all. They are great fun, lively and you can't tell they are gay until you see them with their partners or discuss it with you. I am happy for them, if they love the same sex then leave them to it. Its their life and not mine. For me, ill stick with my lads but still, i have thought about lesbianism and have had the chance but shyed away from it. Im all straight though i can enjoy looking at women occasionally.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I'm not gay, but a whole lot of my friends are and, for the most part, they do ok. Surprisingly well considering that I live in Texas, although, it is San Marcos, and San Marcos and Austin are sorta like the states token blue cities*. It was pretty spectacular actually, some guy told one of them that someone else thought they were gay and he just said in the middle of class (I'm in highschool) "well, I AM gay, so good for him". He then proceeded to show all the girls in the class pictures of his ex-boyfriend.

Some of them don't do as well, as in some of them are still in the closet except to our schools XYZ (like the Gay Straight Alliance, but officially extended to cover all forms of discrimination. But really its just the GSA with a new name), which I am a part of. The others face some discrimination when they're openly homosexual, so a few are too scared to come out. Its sorta sad that people can't just be who they are because something as ridiculous as the fanatical devotion to every word of a several thousands year old book prevalent in society.




- * Going by the logic: blue = democrat; red = republican. I find this funny though because red = Socialist (what I am) as well, and republicans hate us


edit-

just a quick note: Gay marriage predates Christianity. The Romans practiced gay marriage LONG before the birth of Christ. Anyone that says that marriage is "traditionally" a man and a woman because of Christianity is ignorant through and through.

/rant

 

[MikeOfThunder]

Most folks out here are either openly homophobic or they're "all right" with it until it's actually one of their kids.

I'm not gay but without having to bore everyone here with the details, my mother once said to me 'I don't mind if you are gay... I'd just prefer it if you're not'.

What do you say to that!?

Well I'm straight but i know if i were to come out being gay to my parents, they would accept me as who i am... but, i think, also be a little dissapointed. I would NEVER judge them for that though- Different generation and the fact that they may feel that grandchildren would never be an option (Obviously that is not the case as much anymore). But i wouldnt blame them for it, because i know that in the end they would want me to be happy and accept me whatever the case.