Sorry for this wall of text, but you have to read all of it to understand any of it. I'm very tired but I will try not to make any mistakes.
I'm 15 living in England and I just finished year 11 4 days ago. My 16th birthday is in 12 days. After school finished, most of us went to the park and got drunk. I went too, but me and my 2 friends who I was with most of the time didn't drink any alcohol. After about 2 hours, 2 girls walked up to us and one of them started talking to me, saying we should be friends and the other girl said that she fancies me and I should be friends with her. This girl who was saying we should be friends is the topic of my question. She's called Ellie and there are 5 girls called that in our year group of ~250 people (important detail later on). Quite a few girls have told me I'm handsome, but I suppose that is just personal opinion which rests only on the eye of the beholder. Me and Ellie are both white and I'm taller than her.
In year 8, we got put into sets in maths based on ability. Me and her were both put in the top set. I don't think I ever spoke to her in year 8 because we didn't sit near each other and I've never been a very sociable person. I had no reason to talk to her. We weren't in any other classes together.
In year 9, we got put into sets in science as well as maths, and we were both put in the top set for that subject too. I didn't speak to her at all until we got a new seating plan and we had to sit at the same table opposite each other after a few months. She likes to talk to people much more than I do and at the beginning she tried being friendly with me when it was convenient. She would start conversations with me about things not related to science work. Gradually, we started talking more and more, but only in science lessons, and she was very helpful even though I never returned any favours for her and she was normally the one who started our conversations. We still didn't talk outside of science lessons.
One science lesson, half of the groups go outside to do some experiment and we wait for them to return before we go and do it. They all leave their tables with all their books and pens out. Our crazy teacher tells me, Ellie and the other guy at our table to go and sit at the vacant table at the front of the room for some stupid reason I still don't understand. Ellie and the other guy go and sit there without bringing their things with them. I pick up all my things in a pile, book open and pens out of their case, like it's a dying child and I walk carefully to my new temporary seat. The other guy sees me carrying everything like this and points and laughs because he's a fucking dickhead and always has been. Some people find my situation hilarious and join in with him. Ellie sees me and pushes all the stuff at the position next to her out of the way for me to sit down. She does that really quickly so I can sit next to her and someone's book falls on the floor. She doesn't laugh at me like other people are even though that is something she would definitely do to anyone else. I thought this was nice of her so I started being friendlier to her for the next few weeks...
... And then we got a new seating plan after having that one for about 3 months and I had to sit next to a ***** for the rest of year 9 science. I mainly stop talking to Ellie because it is not convenient and we've never talked outside of lessons before. We were always in completely different social groups and only had a few mutual friends. She still says hello if she sees me in a maths or science lesson sometimes.
Our head teacher decided we should start doing our GCSEs a half term early to improve GCSE results. I get put into lots of new classes with lots of people I've never met before. I choose to study French at GCSE (and eventually do very well in it). In this last half term before the summer holiday of 2010, I get into an argument with a boy at the other side of the French classroom over something silly and it lasts for a few seconds. Immediately afterwards, a girl who I've never met before lifts up her head and says to me "I know someone who fancies you" and gets back to work. I don't think about it or say anything because I knew instantly that you can't pursue things like that. This girl is very good friends with Ellie but I didn't know that at the time.
Over the next 2 years, me and Ellie are both in the top maths and science sets but in opposite halves of the year group, and we have no other lessons together, so we never get to see each other in lessons. It doesn't matter to me, me and her both had our own groups of friends. She very rarely says hello to me in the playground but I never greet her unless I feel obliged too (ie because she has said hello). Over these 2 years, she goes from being 14 to being 16 and becomes one of the more slutty girls. There are a lot of photos of her on facebook making out with boys at parties while drunk, nothing too serious though, I'm almost certain she's still a virgin now. She hasn't actually had any boyfriends yet.
Near the end of 2010, Ellie sent me a friend request on Facebook but I deleted it because I don't like having lots of unnecessary friends on Facebook (I only have 32 now). I mainly just look at the funny pictures some pages post instead of using Facebook to interact with people.
In February 2011, in a maths lesson (without her because we are in opposite halves of the year at this point) one of our few mutual friends taps the shoulder of the girl sitting in front of him to get her attention and she turns around. He says "guess who Ellie fancies...", she says "who?" (she is also friends with Ellie) and he says my name which I will not reveal to you. I have exceptionally good hearing and I'm certain this is how the conversation went. I asked him about that in October 2011 and he giggled a lot and said he couldn't remember it.
A few months ago or about a year after the event I just mentioned, every year 11 in my school who applied at a certain sixth form had to go there at the same time and queue up for interviews before getting places there. I sat at the back of the waiting room by myself and all the popular kids were gathering at the front. Ellie is one of the popular kids. She walks in and sees us sitting there and walks towards me a little bit away from the popular kids at the front and very quietly says "hi" to me. I was daydreaming, it was a noisy place and I wasn't looking at her but I heard the whisper and looked around. It took me a few seconds and I saw her standing there looking at me smiling a little bit and I said "hi" back, very quietly too. She keeps standing there watching me for about 20 seconds but then goes and sits at the front with the popular kids and keeps looking back at me every now and then.
I hadn't thought there was anything unusual about her until Friday last week when we finished school and went to the park. I was chilling out with 2 of my friends and Ellie and one of her friends who I vaguely know from a long time ago approached us and started talking to us. They were only a little bit drunk. Ellie was talking to me really calmly and looking deep at my eyes. She said she missed when we sat together in science and we should become friends again. She asked me why I didn't become her Facebook friend (which was a year and a half prior) and I said that there was no reason for me to accept it because we would undoubtedly never talk on Facebook. I asked her why she didn't speak to me for 2 years in the playground and she said "I was scared you would reject me" which is unusual for someone to use in that context. The fact that I had deleted her friend request over a year ago hadn't reached her and she told me again to accept it so we could be friends and I said there was just no point. Then her friend said "[Oolong] She fancies you!" but I took no notice of it because she had been drinking and you can't trust someone in those circumstances. Ellie clearly heard it but didn't stop making eye contact with me and didn't say anything. She asked me what sixth form I was going to and it turned out we were going to different sixth forms. I said to her that I have nothing against being friends with her but we can't realistically be friends because we will probably never see each other again. A boy in our year group who is friends with her and all the girls walked up to us, listened for a few seconds and said "you two should make out now" and walked away but we both ignored him. Ellie said she understood my reasoning and her and her friend walked away.
I went over to one of my friends who had stood a few feet away watching the whole conversation develop. He shouted at me "you fucking idiot!" and I asked what I did wrong. He said that I should not mind what I did wrong because it could achieve nothing at this point. I thought about it and realised I was going to delete my Facebook account in 3 weeks anyway so I should have agreed to be her Facebook friend. I told my friends I was going to go and speak to Ellie and say that we can be friends on Facebook if she sends me a request. He said I should wait a little while because Ellie was in front of all her popular friends and they will tease me, even though I get along well with most of them. I ran up to her later and sat in front of her (she was laying down) and I said very quickly that if she sends me a friend request I will accept it and I ran back. She was screaming, shouting about how I was going to accept her friend request for a few seconds for everyone to hear. Later I went home without talking to her again.
The next day, I sent her a friend request instead and she accepted it a few hours later. The day after that I tried to have a conversation with her about what happened at the park but I didn't know how well she remembered it because she was intoxicated to a degree at the time. I opened Facebook chat and asked her if she still wanted to be my friend. She said yes and sent a smiley face. I asked her again why she hadn't spoken to me for 2 years. She said she never got to see me because we moved to different halves of the year group and had no lessons together, whereas before she said she was scared I would reject her. Both answers are plausible though when taken together. I pointed out that we weren't going to the same sixth form so her situation is even less ideal than it had been over the last 2 years and she had forgotten what sixth form I was going to. I told her where I was going and she said we should stay friends on Facebook just to stay in touch (or to check if I get a girlfriend at sixth form?). I asked her if she thinks we would be friends if we had lessons together and she said yes. The conversation lasted about 1 hour and 30 minutes, just because I was taking a long time to respond to her. She was responding to my messages very quickly.
A little while after she went offline, I sent her a message saying that I was going into school on Wednesday (tomorrow) to finish my IT coursework and she could meet me there after I finish it and have a conversation with me if she was going to school for any of the revision sessions (we have a few tests next week). She went online the morning of the next day (yesterday) and added a friend but didn't answer my message. I haven't seen her online at all and I spent most of yesterday at my computer with Facebook in the background, occasionally checking to see if she's online. Now it's 9:01, 2 days after I sent it and still no response.
The reason I care if this girl likes me is because I would love to have a girlfriend as beautiful, nice and clever as her, but only as long as she agrees not to do anything sexual with other boys. I also don't want her to be upset that she has possibly liked me for nearly 3 years and not even got a hug from me.
I'm 15 living in England and I just finished year 11 4 days ago. My 16th birthday is in 12 days. After school finished, most of us went to the park and got drunk. I went too, but me and my 2 friends who I was with most of the time didn't drink any alcohol. After about 2 hours, 2 girls walked up to us and one of them started talking to me, saying we should be friends and the other girl said that she fancies me and I should be friends with her. This girl who was saying we should be friends is the topic of my question. She's called Ellie and there are 5 girls called that in our year group of ~250 people (important detail later on). Quite a few girls have told me I'm handsome, but I suppose that is just personal opinion which rests only on the eye of the beholder. Me and Ellie are both white and I'm taller than her.
In year 8, we got put into sets in maths based on ability. Me and her were both put in the top set. I don't think I ever spoke to her in year 8 because we didn't sit near each other and I've never been a very sociable person. I had no reason to talk to her. We weren't in any other classes together.
In year 9, we got put into sets in science as well as maths, and we were both put in the top set for that subject too. I didn't speak to her at all until we got a new seating plan and we had to sit at the same table opposite each other after a few months. She likes to talk to people much more than I do and at the beginning she tried being friendly with me when it was convenient. She would start conversations with me about things not related to science work. Gradually, we started talking more and more, but only in science lessons, and she was very helpful even though I never returned any favours for her and she was normally the one who started our conversations. We still didn't talk outside of science lessons.
One science lesson, half of the groups go outside to do some experiment and we wait for them to return before we go and do it. They all leave their tables with all their books and pens out. Our crazy teacher tells me, Ellie and the other guy at our table to go and sit at the vacant table at the front of the room for some stupid reason I still don't understand. Ellie and the other guy go and sit there without bringing their things with them. I pick up all my things in a pile, book open and pens out of their case, like it's a dying child and I walk carefully to my new temporary seat. The other guy sees me carrying everything like this and points and laughs because he's a fucking dickhead and always has been. Some people find my situation hilarious and join in with him. Ellie sees me and pushes all the stuff at the position next to her out of the way for me to sit down. She does that really quickly so I can sit next to her and someone's book falls on the floor. She doesn't laugh at me like other people are even though that is something she would definitely do to anyone else. I thought this was nice of her so I started being friendlier to her for the next few weeks...
... And then we got a new seating plan after having that one for about 3 months and I had to sit next to a ***** for the rest of year 9 science. I mainly stop talking to Ellie because it is not convenient and we've never talked outside of lessons before. We were always in completely different social groups and only had a few mutual friends. She still says hello if she sees me in a maths or science lesson sometimes.
Our head teacher decided we should start doing our GCSEs a half term early to improve GCSE results. I get put into lots of new classes with lots of people I've never met before. I choose to study French at GCSE (and eventually do very well in it). In this last half term before the summer holiday of 2010, I get into an argument with a boy at the other side of the French classroom over something silly and it lasts for a few seconds. Immediately afterwards, a girl who I've never met before lifts up her head and says to me "I know someone who fancies you" and gets back to work. I don't think about it or say anything because I knew instantly that you can't pursue things like that. This girl is very good friends with Ellie but I didn't know that at the time.
Over the next 2 years, me and Ellie are both in the top maths and science sets but in opposite halves of the year group, and we have no other lessons together, so we never get to see each other in lessons. It doesn't matter to me, me and her both had our own groups of friends. She very rarely says hello to me in the playground but I never greet her unless I feel obliged too (ie because she has said hello). Over these 2 years, she goes from being 14 to being 16 and becomes one of the more slutty girls. There are a lot of photos of her on facebook making out with boys at parties while drunk, nothing too serious though, I'm almost certain she's still a virgin now. She hasn't actually had any boyfriends yet.
Near the end of 2010, Ellie sent me a friend request on Facebook but I deleted it because I don't like having lots of unnecessary friends on Facebook (I only have 32 now). I mainly just look at the funny pictures some pages post instead of using Facebook to interact with people.
In February 2011, in a maths lesson (without her because we are in opposite halves of the year at this point) one of our few mutual friends taps the shoulder of the girl sitting in front of him to get her attention and she turns around. He says "guess who Ellie fancies...", she says "who?" (she is also friends with Ellie) and he says my name which I will not reveal to you. I have exceptionally good hearing and I'm certain this is how the conversation went. I asked him about that in October 2011 and he giggled a lot and said he couldn't remember it.
A few months ago or about a year after the event I just mentioned, every year 11 in my school who applied at a certain sixth form had to go there at the same time and queue up for interviews before getting places there. I sat at the back of the waiting room by myself and all the popular kids were gathering at the front. Ellie is one of the popular kids. She walks in and sees us sitting there and walks towards me a little bit away from the popular kids at the front and very quietly says "hi" to me. I was daydreaming, it was a noisy place and I wasn't looking at her but I heard the whisper and looked around. It took me a few seconds and I saw her standing there looking at me smiling a little bit and I said "hi" back, very quietly too. She keeps standing there watching me for about 20 seconds but then goes and sits at the front with the popular kids and keeps looking back at me every now and then.
I hadn't thought there was anything unusual about her until Friday last week when we finished school and went to the park. I was chilling out with 2 of my friends and Ellie and one of her friends who I vaguely know from a long time ago approached us and started talking to us. They were only a little bit drunk. Ellie was talking to me really calmly and looking deep at my eyes. She said she missed when we sat together in science and we should become friends again. She asked me why I didn't become her Facebook friend (which was a year and a half prior) and I said that there was no reason for me to accept it because we would undoubtedly never talk on Facebook. I asked her why she didn't speak to me for 2 years in the playground and she said "I was scared you would reject me" which is unusual for someone to use in that context. The fact that I had deleted her friend request over a year ago hadn't reached her and she told me again to accept it so we could be friends and I said there was just no point. Then her friend said "[Oolong] She fancies you!" but I took no notice of it because she had been drinking and you can't trust someone in those circumstances. Ellie clearly heard it but didn't stop making eye contact with me and didn't say anything. She asked me what sixth form I was going to and it turned out we were going to different sixth forms. I said to her that I have nothing against being friends with her but we can't realistically be friends because we will probably never see each other again. A boy in our year group who is friends with her and all the girls walked up to us, listened for a few seconds and said "you two should make out now" and walked away but we both ignored him. Ellie said she understood my reasoning and her and her friend walked away.
I went over to one of my friends who had stood a few feet away watching the whole conversation develop. He shouted at me "you fucking idiot!" and I asked what I did wrong. He said that I should not mind what I did wrong because it could achieve nothing at this point. I thought about it and realised I was going to delete my Facebook account in 3 weeks anyway so I should have agreed to be her Facebook friend. I told my friends I was going to go and speak to Ellie and say that we can be friends on Facebook if she sends me a request. He said I should wait a little while because Ellie was in front of all her popular friends and they will tease me, even though I get along well with most of them. I ran up to her later and sat in front of her (she was laying down) and I said very quickly that if she sends me a friend request I will accept it and I ran back. She was screaming, shouting about how I was going to accept her friend request for a few seconds for everyone to hear. Later I went home without talking to her again.
The next day, I sent her a friend request instead and she accepted it a few hours later. The day after that I tried to have a conversation with her about what happened at the park but I didn't know how well she remembered it because she was intoxicated to a degree at the time. I opened Facebook chat and asked her if she still wanted to be my friend. She said yes and sent a smiley face. I asked her again why she hadn't spoken to me for 2 years. She said she never got to see me because we moved to different halves of the year group and had no lessons together, whereas before she said she was scared I would reject her. Both answers are plausible though when taken together. I pointed out that we weren't going to the same sixth form so her situation is even less ideal than it had been over the last 2 years and she had forgotten what sixth form I was going to. I told her where I was going and she said we should stay friends on Facebook just to stay in touch (or to check if I get a girlfriend at sixth form?). I asked her if she thinks we would be friends if we had lessons together and she said yes. The conversation lasted about 1 hour and 30 minutes, just because I was taking a long time to respond to her. She was responding to my messages very quickly.
A little while after she went offline, I sent her a message saying that I was going into school on Wednesday (tomorrow) to finish my IT coursework and she could meet me there after I finish it and have a conversation with me if she was going to school for any of the revision sessions (we have a few tests next week). She went online the morning of the next day (yesterday) and added a friend but didn't answer my message. I haven't seen her online at all and I spent most of yesterday at my computer with Facebook in the background, occasionally checking to see if she's online. Now it's 9:01, 2 days after I sent it and still no response.
The reason I care if this girl likes me is because I would love to have a girlfriend as beautiful, nice and clever as her, but only as long as she agrees not to do anything sexual with other boys. I also don't want her to be upset that she has possibly liked me for nearly 3 years and not even got a hug from me.
