How do I convince her games have merit?
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Truth, and according to some psychological studies using CT scans, while watching television, an idividual's level of brain activity is about the same amount as being unconscious. I have no idea about video gams, but considering you have to stay aware of surroundings and listen to what's going on in the game and sometimes read, then that should actually have heightened brain activity.hurfdurp said:
LOL My mom loves the old pacman so she's ok with the whole me playing a game, unless it's GOd of war 3 XD
BUt yeah, try playing a few older games with her.
My dad loves playing madden
My mom loves playing old atari games
and I love playing masterpieces of gaming
Just try to find some common ground in the genre in games with her
BUt yeah, try playing a few older games with her.
My dad loves playing madden
My mom loves playing old atari games
and I love playing masterpieces of gaming
Just try to find some common ground in the genre in games with her
You could always state that your inadequacies are the result of a stifling and over protective mother who removes your independent thought and emasculates you. That because your peer group is distant that this is the only form of social interaction you are gaining with people you genuinely care about.
tell her you have met a girl on line, or just start buying her Freudian analysis for every birthday and Christmas up until she realises that to (misquote) Philip Larkin "They fuck you up your mum and dad!"
tell her you have met a girl on line, or just start buying her Freudian analysis for every birthday and Christmas up until she realises that to (misquote) Philip Larkin "They fuck you up your mum and dad!"
Try to see it from your mum's perspective. If she never played videogames or was exposed to them when she was younger (like, her siblings played them or something), then she probably just doesn't understand that this is just one of your hobbies and a way for you to interact with your friends.
It would probably help (as others have mentioned) if she saw you playing something that looks more 'intellectual' sometimes. My mum never really liked the games where you 'just shoot things all the time...so violent...', but she actually joined in with LittleBigPlanet and she never minded my sister and I playing SimCity or Lemmings or anything puzzle-related back in the day. She appreciates beautiful graphics (like Assassin's creed) and good dialogue in games. Halo probably reinforces the worst stereotypes that she's heard falling off the back of the news media wagon. You don't have to stop playing Halo, but showing her that you enjoy less 'violent' games might reassure her a bit.
Try asking her (politely and non-confrontationally) exactly what it is that worries her about the games you play, and see if you can allay some of her fears. One thing that perennially worries mothers of sons (especially teenage/early20s ones) is that they have 'lost touch' with them and that their sons 'don't talk to them' any more. She may just be reacting to games as something that has taken you away from her. There are plenty of ways to reassure her that this is not the case, and talking to her about games (your hobbies) is a good way to start.
It would probably help (as others have mentioned) if she saw you playing something that looks more 'intellectual' sometimes. My mum never really liked the games where you 'just shoot things all the time...so violent...', but she actually joined in with LittleBigPlanet and she never minded my sister and I playing SimCity or Lemmings or anything puzzle-related back in the day. She appreciates beautiful graphics (like Assassin's creed) and good dialogue in games. Halo probably reinforces the worst stereotypes that she's heard falling off the back of the news media wagon. You don't have to stop playing Halo, but showing her that you enjoy less 'violent' games might reassure her a bit.
Try asking her (politely and non-confrontationally) exactly what it is that worries her about the games you play, and see if you can allay some of her fears. One thing that perennially worries mothers of sons (especially teenage/early20s ones) is that they have 'lost touch' with them and that their sons 'don't talk to them' any more. She may just be reacting to games as something that has taken you away from her. There are plenty of ways to reassure her that this is not the case, and talking to her about games (your hobbies) is a good way to start.
Hey, just because I quote selectively to clarify what I'm responding to doesn't mean I ignored your post in it's entirety. If that were true, all the replies I didn't quote at all would be totally unread. I hear all your feedback and appreciate it greatly.LordNue said:
Have you tried any of the advice? If so, how'd you fair? I know I posted at least one comment on this subject.cairocat said:
I'm asking out of curiosity. Also, would like to hear that it went well to affirm that my faith in humanity as being generally reasonable is not misplaced. Ok, so it is, but I'd hope that at least your mom is.
Have her sit down somewhere comfortable, give her something nice to drink (soda, coffee, wine) then find your favourite game, be that of beautiful scenery, story, or simply mechanics. Explain to her, without letting her speak before you are finished, why you do not have a disease that she needs to cure, you just socialize easier with your friends that way, since they live so far away, and that it is simply something you enjoy doing. Probably good to mention other things you like doing too. See if it helps. Remember, you can always compromise
