How do i get friends?

[DesiPrinceX09]

What are you so depressed about? If it has to do with death in the family then I understand since I've been there. If it's because you can't make friends then stop being a miserable crybaby who just generates and feeds off of negativity because people don't like you when you act like raincloud on a sunny day. I personally am emtremely introverted but people came to me naturally because of being an open and fun person with good charisma and a generator of positive feelings. High school is rough but at least you are not a Pakistani/Indian Muslim who immigrated from Africa to America (like me) and get discriminated and hate crimed so you have nothing to complain about.

 

[TheEndlessSleep]

I wish I could say I empathize, but I just started talking to people and well... I have friends

Thanks for reminding me how much of a fucking failure at life i am.

not meant in that way dude. I'm just saying these things happen and we don't know how or why.

 

[BlueCollarTweaker]

If you have to ask, it's probably not going to happen for you. You're probably being a jerk without realising it.

 

[shootthebandit]

just go up to someone and say "how much does a polar bear weight?", then when they say "i dont know", you reply with "i dont know either but it broke the ice"

 

[Anstrup]

Talk to people.

Nobody talks back to me.

Say something interesting

I don't know what interests them, seeing as how they won't talk to me.

You can't get friends unless you try. Maybe they won't talk to you because you act to depressing believe me ive been there atleast fake a smile or to and maybe they'll care

Im not trying to depress other people, im just keeping to myself until i muster up enough courage do be fucking denied again. All people in high schools are fucking twats and i hope they get what is fucking coming to them.

True people ARE twats at that age, but not all the time. Freindships don't just fall into our laps, we have to make the effort. Alot of tmes you won't know if that effort will pay off in the, but you have to make it on faith. Keep trying and learn from youre mistakes, that'll get you there eventually.

 

[Benny Blanco]

This exact same ting happened to me when I went to secondary school I had a couple of friends but we didn't really like each other, I just didn't have anyone else to hang out with anyway I was lonely for about a month but when I joined the school musical one of these people introduced me to this other person and then we became best friends, he also had this other friend and we became friends too and just a year ago there was someone new in the class who also became friends with me so now I have three very good friends and I only hate a couple of people so I hope this helped somehow, I guess you should join the school musical or some other club.

Must...resist...Glee...reference...

The club thing is a start. Unfortunately, non-sport clubs often attract the less popular kids in a school for this reason, so it's easy to get pigeonholed unless you build some diversity into your extra-curricular activities. If you see the same faces in more than 2 of your clubs, it's likely that this is a problem.

Speaking as someone who was both fat and nerdy in school (part of the pen & paper RPG crowd in the 90s) I found that just getting involved with diverse stuff like debating, volunteering and representing the school in areas where you excel (inter-school science competition year 7) you get to know people. Don't be a dick and eventually people will warm to you.

Also, these days with Facebook etc. so it's a lot easier than when I was at school. Find a friend or 2 with common interests then social network up from there.

Most importantly, don't let it get you down too much. People who are super-popular in school have a tendency to peak early and you have a good chance of overtaking them later. It cheered me no end to see that someone who gave me shit about my weight at school is now a proper fatty because he stopped doing anything more athletic than golf and his metabolism slowed down, whilst I have lost a lot of puppy fat through MMA training and walking everywhere.

I'm only in regular (i.e. more than once a week) contact with 1 friend from school, mostly because we shared a lot in our outlook (angry loners put up a year for a combination of high intelligence and disciplinary problems with similar musical tastes). Everyone else just fell by the wayside, but they still added me on Facebook for some reason.

 

[Lineoutt]

I am depressed. No one at my new school wants to talk to me, and nobody responds when i try to strike up a conversation. It is not like i had any friends before going to my school, but i hoped to turn over a new leaf at the beginning of high school. Since that has gone to shit, how am i going to manage making friends ever?

Ok this may seem like hard advice but here we go.

1) DONT act desparate
If you seem like you need friends you will come off clingy and weird

2) DONT talk to much
Seriously, this is a big problem with a few people at my school. Sometimes you need to stfu.

3) Efficiency is key
Some people describe being cool as being not caring, this is not true. Being cool mean you are efficient with your conversation and time.

4) Self confidence
Fake it till you make it. I know that talk is easy and faking it is hard but you gotta try. Remember you are important and if they dont want to hang out with you its thier loss (im not kidding if you outwardly look this way then you will come off more desirable, but dont overdo it unless you wana be the arrogant asshole)

5) You aren't a failure
I lived what you are facing now, it sucks nuts and you feel like a shitball. PM me if you need some help.

6) Don't overthink!!
If you want to be happy you have to get out of your head. Focus outward and not inward. This is perhaps the hardest piece of advice but don't be worried about how many friends you have.

Good luck!

 

[Mcupobob]

Be attractive looking.

But really I don't know all the friends i've gotten have just came over and started talking to me, I said a few funny things and bam friends for life.

EDIT: Sorry if i'm not helping and other people aren't but really I and nobody else can intill you drop the attitude. I serioulsy suggest talking to lineoutt, anyone offering to reach out and help you is not something you should snub.

 

[Mr. Google]

I literally go up to random people and say Hi My names *Insert name* nice to meet you and shake there hands. Im in highschool so this like freaks people out in a good way cause theyre like whys this guy so polite and seeing as i can always hold up my end of the convo i make tons of friends. So uhm...wow i didnt really help did i...sorry

 

[The Bum]

Talk to people.

Nobody talks back to me.

Then they are most certanly robots.

Serously? They don't even say "fuck off" cause i can usally ring out atleast that.

 

[Sacman]

Go hang out with the loner kids at lunch it's not like they have anyone else to be with...

 

[Dango]

Well you don't sound like you're doing anything wrong...

And according to your profile, you're a freshman, which means you have lots and lots of time still left in high school, just strike up conversation every now and again, and people will gradually become friendly towards you. Just make sure you're talking to the right people.

 

[SimuLord]

Level up, put points into Speech, and take an Intense Training perk or two and put the point into Charisma. Or just shoot everyone in the head.

Spoiler: Improve your charisma

Or poke around Vault 108, but watch out for Gary.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Take note of who the quiet kids in your class are, then reach out to them. Either they just don't have much to say, or they're in the same position as you. Oddballs make the greatest friends, since you're not as disposable to them as you would be to somebody that's friends with just about the entire school.

 

[HerrBobo]

I am depressed. No one at my new school wants to talk to me, and nobody responds when i try to strike up a conversation. It is not like i had any friends before going to my school, but i hoped to turn over a new leaf at the beginning of high school. Since that has gone to shit, how am i going to manage making friends ever?

Simple, find a common intrest. That will get you "mates" for sure, ture friendship is harder to find.