How do I introduce myself to a girl I like?
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Sorry you're screwed mate. It's a case by case problem with no correct solution 
What makes one woman jump you will make another slap you.
What makes one woman jump you will make another slap you.
Ask her about D&D, then surreptitiously smell her hair.
I don't know. Witty observations about the situation you happen to be in seem like a good starting point, as long as you don't come off as whiny.
I don't know. Witty observations about the situation you happen to be in seem like a good starting point, as long as you don't come off as whiny.
I got my girlfriend from killing alot of people (in a game *wink*) having good intresting conversations with her but with her friends too oh and having a english accent dont know why but american girls love the accent oh but dont fake it cause you will only make a fool of yourself.
Hate to say it, but this actually works. Just talk to girls; they tend to like that sort of thing.drbarno said:
And if that fails, just wait till you find someone else who goes on the Escapist. I know of at least three people at my school, not of my direct acquaintance, who go on here, two of whom are female. Doesn't really matter who they are, it's a decent conversation starter.
3 pieces of advice:
1 Don't look for a girlfriend. Treat guys and girls the same and just socialize with everyone around you and be open to activities you normally wouldn't do. Being socially active will get you invited to parties, concerts, clubs, whatever as part of a group. This makes meeting new people much easier since you have friends to fall back on and help you relax if you get tense, and you will inevitably be introduced to girls in a context that makes conversation very easy. For example you and a few buddies go to, say, a curling match (or whatever, something new to you) and someone brings his girlfriend. That girlfriend brings a friend, the friend brigs her sister. You now have 3 girls to interact with - the girlfriend, safe and easy since you shouldn't feel the pressure of trying to impress her (you shouldn't really try to impress anyone, people should like you for you, you can't hide who you are for long anyway), good for building up your confidence; and the friend/sister. Just discuss the activity you are involved in to break the ice ( just tell them you've never been to a curling match and your opinions on what you've seen so far. Probably best to be honest about it, just don' go calling it plain crap. Have some arguments ready). If you really can't seem to strike up a conversation, don't force it too much. It will bore them, and make you more uncomfortable. Enjoy the game since there's always next time.
2 First impressions are VERY important. While it may seem vain or shallow, people ALWAYS judge your appearance first and then they decide if they want to get to know you or not. You might be truly charming, intelligent and funny, great company and whatever else you like, it's all for nought if people won't even return your helloes because you look like a hobo (exaggeration for comedic effect). So good grooming and a bit of care choosing your outfit are very important. Try to get in shape, get some new clothes, get a cool new haircut. Again, vain though it may be, looking good WILL make it easier for you.
3 Don't skulk in the back of the classroom, and don't try to butt in every conversation. Get noticed without trying to be the focus of attention (I'm assuming here you are usually not the life of the party, if you are, then disregard the previous). Try to be honest about who you are and what you like. You are a person, with opinions, likes and dislikes, don't try to change that just to please others. In the long run, being honest might land in you fewer relationships(friend, work, or more), but they will be better quality ones.
Also be very open to new stuff (music, activities, sports, anything). That will get you in even more social situations with new people and you never know who you will meet or what you might end up enjoying.
1 Don't look for a girlfriend. Treat guys and girls the same and just socialize with everyone around you and be open to activities you normally wouldn't do. Being socially active will get you invited to parties, concerts, clubs, whatever as part of a group. This makes meeting new people much easier since you have friends to fall back on and help you relax if you get tense, and you will inevitably be introduced to girls in a context that makes conversation very easy. For example you and a few buddies go to, say, a curling match (or whatever, something new to you) and someone brings his girlfriend. That girlfriend brings a friend, the friend brigs her sister. You now have 3 girls to interact with - the girlfriend, safe and easy since you shouldn't feel the pressure of trying to impress her (you shouldn't really try to impress anyone, people should like you for you, you can't hide who you are for long anyway), good for building up your confidence; and the friend/sister. Just discuss the activity you are involved in to break the ice ( just tell them you've never been to a curling match and your opinions on what you've seen so far. Probably best to be honest about it, just don' go calling it plain crap. Have some arguments ready). If you really can't seem to strike up a conversation, don't force it too much. It will bore them, and make you more uncomfortable. Enjoy the game since there's always next time.
2 First impressions are VERY important. While it may seem vain or shallow, people ALWAYS judge your appearance first and then they decide if they want to get to know you or not. You might be truly charming, intelligent and funny, great company and whatever else you like, it's all for nought if people won't even return your helloes because you look like a hobo (exaggeration for comedic effect). So good grooming and a bit of care choosing your outfit are very important. Try to get in shape, get some new clothes, get a cool new haircut. Again, vain though it may be, looking good WILL make it easier for you.
3 Don't skulk in the back of the classroom, and don't try to butt in every conversation. Get noticed without trying to be the focus of attention (I'm assuming here you are usually not the life of the party, if you are, then disregard the previous). Try to be honest about who you are and what you like. You are a person, with opinions, likes and dislikes, don't try to change that just to please others. In the long run, being honest might land in you fewer relationships(friend, work, or more), but they will be better quality ones.
Also be very open to new stuff (music, activities, sports, anything). That will get you in even more social situations with new people and you never know who you will meet or what you might end up enjoying.
I would just like to point out, if there is one girl then she is "every ones type" lol.Renegade-pizza said:
But honestly? Engage her inclass or about the class at first. Just be natural and charming. Give her your name, don't ask for hers.
Just try to act casual,start with a nice hello and try make friends with her first. Don't take things too fast but try to get close with her.
Very true. Though keeping the 'objective' in mind isn't much of a neccessity I've found. The more you talk, the easier it is to talk. Once you've tried a few tricks, like the good old fashioned compliment, you get more brave and are willing to be a bit more direct and there can be some truly well inspired things you end up saying without having thought about it. The whole friendzone thing is a nightmare. However it's not all bad. Even if it happens, on a University campus there are 100 other girls so if you get friend zoned, you simply learn from the experience and know to try something bolder, sooner and smoother.laststandman said:
In essence, spend a lot of time learning. Then you would not believe how easy this whole venture gets.
Also, the little lies can work from time to time. But it's easy enough to get caught out. Especially when alcohol is involved. You may end up forgetting saying that you thought Kurt Cobain was an awesome guy then end up saying, whilst under the influence, that he was a massive prick. But deffinatley exagerate the truth. That's a good one, especially if the girl you're after likes games.
Heh! I remember telling my missus that I once shot three people with one sniper round in COD4. Sure enough she liked it, but I actually shot one guy, blew up his claymore and a team mate happened to be infront of it.
Dude, why the hell are you coming here for advice? The best thing for you to do is not be a pussy.... Not saying you are one but I am a gamer and I dont have problems speaking to women. Your best bet is to just introduce yourself its that simple, say hi, im (insert name). usually it takes off from there. If you get shot down you get shot down its not that big a deal. If you make woman into this big monster than you will never meet one! just be yourself but dont freak out and start drooling or stuttering or sweating like a pig. All I can say is good luck my friend and GO FOR IT!!!
Thats like less than an inch... A is first key on the second row and Z is first key on the third row with a half key offset. That is an interesting conversation starter, and she would probably be curious about one so small but I doubt it will be good for you.innocentEX said:My penis is super big, some would say it could stretch from a-z on the keyboard... But I let the women do the deciding
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Its not rocket scence and you dont need to be scared of rejection because you are not asking her on a date or to marry you.
"Hi my name is ******, Ive seen you around in class/library/social place/wherever what do you think about *****?" Plain and simply strike up a casual conversation about whatever thats relevant to where you see her most often. look her in the eyes when you AND she is speaking but dont stare. keep the eyes above the boobs lol Dont tell her you think she is good looking, atleast not the first time you talk to her, she will know you are interested in her the second you start talking because you will be showing it with body language and pheremones.
If the conversation goes well, then its a good time to give her a way to contact you and say you would enjoy talking further with her about whatever it was you were talking about. You never know she could give you her number as well. But then again she may not have any interest in you at all and that will be quite obvious when you first say hello.
Hell kid, you need a lot more help than we can give you. And I don't mean any offense by that. You're just going to have to try talking to girls for yourself and learning how. I want to say the right girl for you will like you no matter who you are, but then again you could scare a good girl away by being awkward. Just don't over think things. That's all I can say.Renegade-pizza said:
While I'm happy to see similar opinions, I will still summarize my own:
If you haven't been introduced to a person yet, you really shouldn't be romantically interested and attempt to get to know the person with that already in the background (Trust me, it won't end well. Personal experience).
Your question might be better rephrased as: How does someone like you with limited experience in dealing with girls introduce himself to new girls? (with possible consequences of romantic interest growing always being a possibility). Easy. The same way you would introduce yourself and start to get to know guys (I'm assuming you have some friends, and that they are male). Treat women like you would treat any other human being, don't psychologically prepare yourself as if you're about to try to interact with a new species (Because you're not.).
Make sure to introduce yourself and maintain the friendships of as many ppl as possible, girls and guys alike. Eventually you'll realize that you're romantically interested in one of those female friends, and by then, hopefully, you'll be comfortable enough with each other to discuss it, and both mature enough to accept whatever outcome comes out of such a discussion without having to make too much "drama" out of it (Basically, always be ready with a plan B, if she's not interested. You don't want to lose a friendship over something like that).
If you haven't been introduced to a person yet, you really shouldn't be romantically interested and attempt to get to know the person with that already in the background (Trust me, it won't end well. Personal experience).
Your question might be better rephrased as: How does someone like you with limited experience in dealing with girls introduce himself to new girls? (with possible consequences of romantic interest growing always being a possibility). Easy. The same way you would introduce yourself and start to get to know guys (I'm assuming you have some friends, and that they are male). Treat women like you would treat any other human being, don't psychologically prepare yourself as if you're about to try to interact with a new species (Because you're not.).
Make sure to introduce yourself and maintain the friendships of as many ppl as possible, girls and guys alike. Eventually you'll realize that you're romantically interested in one of those female friends, and by then, hopefully, you'll be comfortable enough with each other to discuss it, and both mature enough to accept whatever outcome comes out of such a discussion without having to make too much "drama" out of it (Basically, always be ready with a plan B, if she's not interested. You don't want to lose a friendship over something like that).
''Hey Baby, what's up! KNOCK KNOCK Who's There? Sex! Sex who Sex With me!*puts on sunglasses* BOOM!''
joking aside, i let the girls come onto me. and it's getting a TEENSY bit out of control for me.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YaGszzUVI-s
joking aside, i let the girls come onto me. and it's getting a TEENSY bit out of control for me.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YaGszzUVI-s
