how do I tell my girlfriend I play videogames and how get her to enjoy them with me

[LadySnip3r]

My boyfriend and I are probably the nerdiest couple I've ever met. But we didn't start out that way.
I was always a closet gamer, and was ashamed of being a nerd. My boyfriend opened my eyes to different kinds of games. He would play occasionally (note: occasionally) and I would watch. I would get really into the stories of games, and he started to buy me games he knew I would like as stocking stuffers, etc. Just small little presents. I started to play and love the games he gave me, and the gift gave back to him lol. We started to play co-op games together, play online, and basically just talk games.

Here are a few we would play together:
- guitar hero (chances are she's probably played it before)
- Resident Evil 5 (easy shooter, you don't have to use both sticks at the same time...walk, stop, shoot)
- Mass Effect (play apart but talk. If she's into stories this could be a great starter)

 

[Dylan Bonnett]

thank you all for the advice (note that next time i will post something like this on the 'advice forum') and the advice worked better than id hoped it turns that she said that she wasn't involved with games for the same reasons that i did. when i said "i play games" she almost immedately lookked relived and confessed that she has been playing games for 7 years now celebretid with wine and shooting zombies in the face. now i call that a double win with 0 bad effects

 

[Thamous]

"Hi, my names Joe and I...I... play videogames."
"Hi Joe"
"Good job Joe, now take your seat."
But in all seriousness, just tell her. She shouldn't have a problem with it, if she does she isn't for you.

 

[Nouw]

Try Mario Kart.

Nobody doesn't like Mario Kart.
Nobody.

You could point out that the controller vibrates.

I like how you think.

 

[Android2137]

What got me into video games was Pokemon. What got my sister into video games was Golden Sun. Try your luck with either and see how it goes. If it doesn't though, is it really necessary for her to play games with you?

 

[CheckD3]

Start with something small. Introduce her to some co-op games that are good. Or when you get her some of her first games, get her Kingdom Hearts. It's a good game, strong story, fun characters, and not a bad learning curve.

If you want her to evolve into a gamer you can't thrust her into the lifestyle, you have to ease her in. If she resists, she may not be a gamer. And if she isn't, shouldn't make her any less special. While having the perfect co-op partner is good and all, sometimes it isn't someone whom you are in relations with. Sometime it's your family member, sometimes it's a friend, sometimes it's someone online you've never met in person and you just click.

No matter what, she should not be forced into the role, and the only thing that she should accept is that YOU play games and that you enjoy it. If she can't accept that then I'm sorry but that's NOT going to end well

 

[StormShaun]

Try Mario Kart.

Nobody doesn't like Mario Kart.
Nobody.

You could point out that the controller vibrates.

I like how you think.

Haha loved that comment...vibrates...

FOr me, tell her that you do and if she hates you for it Id say dump her and get a better girlfriend or a gamer girl...friend...Im trying to get one >_<

 

[Alexnader]

I found a new girlfriend (yay) sadly she doesn't videogames (crap).Thruogh she's nuetral on the subject gaming is a BIG part of my life and I want her to be a part of it.So simply answer the questions above and hopefully i'll have a girlfriend next week.

Umm.. If she doesn't agree with the fact you're a gamer, it's not going to last long. Be up front. If she breaks up with you, she's a shallow, small minded moron.
You can't build a good relationship on a lie (if you don't tell her/hide it). But hey, if all you want is to get experience in what not to do, or you just want to get laid, hide it.

Sure you can. Remember, only show the crazy bit by bit. That way they'll be eased into it and can't dump you for it.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Don't! It never works! They cannot coexist!

 

[Communist partisan]

I found a new girlfriend (yay) sadly she doesn't videogames (crap).Thruogh she's nuetral on the subject gaming is a BIG part of my life and I want her to be a part of it.So simply answer the questions above and hopefully i'll have a girlfriend next week.

Just say it, it isn't rocket science you know?

And it will work out as long as you don't make her feel like you are giving the games a bigger priority than her.