How do you explain bisexuals?

[Proverbial Jon]

Well I have a strong preference for women, but decided i was bisexual a few years ago, (i'm a teenager, btw) and by now I'm sure, I'm sexually attracted to men as well as women. but i think deep inside a good percentage of people *could* be bisexual if they opened their mind a bit. hell, we're all just people
EDIT: in response to the 'bisexuals are sex-crazed' thing, I'm quite a sexual person inside but aren't we all? I'm quite introverted until you get to know me

How's it greed? I'm no sex-crazed freak, i just happen to be attracted to both sexes,
I'm an introvert, not going for men and women at the same time, i just dont mind which i end up in a relationship with -_-

lol, bloody bisexuals, coming over here, stealing our women... and men

I'm with you on these points...

I don't officially consider myself bisexual, having been strongly heterosexual and attracted to women for the majority of my life. However my mind has opened of late and I'm starting to find myself attracted to some men, including the various naughty thoughts that go with that! :3

I'm unsure if I would want to have sex with a man, but then I'm not sexually active with women either so it's hardly a fair assessment! I don't really see much difference in being attracted to either sex, which is odd because I'd thought I would be more apprehensive about finding men alluring. I just see... an attractive person. Women... I'd take any kind, but men, my men would have to be pretty. Yeah, I'd be a real shallow gay!

As for people calling bisexuals greedy... that just doesn't make any sense. I mean consider male and female people as two different foods (forgive the metaphor.) Heteros can only eat one food, but the bisexuals can have both. Why would you be jealous of the bisexual just because they like something you don't? Chances are they'll have the same amount as you, just with more variety. They're just jealous that they're minds aren't quite so open, that's all!

 

[holy_secret]

I mostly look at things like a smile, the eyes, ass and personality. Someone who's funny and capable of having hour-long conversations are very attracting to me.

The gender don't really play into the attraction. If you're hetero, you don't think "oh man it's a female. Wow that's so hot". Well...maybe if you're desperate.

Hope it made sense to you guys

 

[aenimau5]

Well I have a strong preference for women, but decided i was bisexual a few years ago, (i'm a teenager, btw) and by now I'm sure, I'm sexually attracted to men as well as women. but i think deep inside a good percentage of people *could* be bisexual if they opened their mind a bit. hell, we're all just people
EDIT: in response to the 'bisexuals are sex-crazed' thing, I'm quite a sexual person inside but aren't we all? I'm quite introverted until you get to know me

What he (she?) said.

 

[masticina]

Bi sexuality like homosexuality, heterosexuality trans sextuality pan sexuality

You know.. it are labels that try to make sense of things. Because we like labels

BUT labels are limited really is a guy who likes girls but once in a while that certain special guy.. is he heterosexual or bi sexual. But the meaning of labels he is bi, and that is good! But lets be fair mostly he is going for the girls.. so really is bi sexual the best label.

And really that is the story there is so much more to sexuality then these labels. In the basis yes the help make things understandable but also kinda don't work.

It is just a definition really...

Not a choice obviously not but the words we use are our CHOICE of words we use.

 

[DefunctTheory]

I mostly look at things like a smile, the eyes, ass and personality. Someone who's funny and capable of having hour-long conversations are very attracting to me.

The gender don't really play into the attraction. If you're hetero, you don't think "oh man it's a female. Wow that's so hot". Well...maybe if you're desperate.

Hope it made sense to you guys

Not really..

Heteros find the characteristics of the opposite sex attractive, which is a direct result of sex.

I find boobs attractive. I love fat booties. A feminine face really gets me going, along with that slender neck and that sultry voice.

Flat chest, wide shoulders and vein riddled balls do not inspire the same feelings.

 

[Communist partisan]

What goes around in their mind? are you bisexual? what is the thought process when you get attracted to someone?
for instance a hetero , would think of a boy as sweet..
do u think a vulnerable person could be manipulated at a sensitive stage into believing he/she is gay?

I am bi, and it's the same shit as being attracted to a woman, what did you expect anyway?

I really don't understand why people think it's different because it's to the same sex... Jesus, will these threads stop soon?

 

[DefunctTheory]

Bi sexuality like homosexuality, heterosexuality trans sextuality pan sexuality

You know.. it are labels that try to make sense of things. Because we like labels

BUT labels are limited really is a guy who likes girls but once in a while that certain special guy.. is he heterosexual or bi sexual. But the meaning of labels he is bi, and that is good! But lets be fair mostly he is going for the girls.. so really is bi sexual the best label.

And really that is the story there is so much more to sexuality then these labels. In the basis yes the help make things understandable but also kinda don't work.

It is just a definition really...

Not a choice obviously not but the words we use are our CHOICE of words we use.

Labels are not meaningless, arbitrary, or limited. The only thing limiting such things would be a small functional vocabulary, or a lack of understanding.

And the scenario you speak of would be labeled 'Hetero with an Exception.'

 

[Nieroshai]

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

This guy hit it right on the head. It's a sexual attraction to both sexes, determined at birth just like every other sexual preference.

This has never been proven. I have a friend who was not gay, but after years of being made fun of for his lisp, he was societally pressured into becoming his image. Also, I was bi but I don't even think about men that way anymore.

 

[Dethpixie]

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

Why does this thread persist, clearly it's been defeated?

 

[C_Topher]

I've always seen this as a matter of biology. Sex, gender, and sexuality are separate and unique components. Sex is your chromosome composition, mostly XX (female) and XY (male). However, it's possible to be XXX, XXY, XYY, XXXX, XYXY,or X due to non-disjunction mutations during meiosis. Next, gender is usually defined by genitals and secondary sexual characteristics like breasts. Again, this isn't always as simple as "boy" or "girl", as certain mutations can case an individual who is XY to develop as a female (technically our "default" gender developmentally). Finally, sexuality has a heavy basis in pheromones. Although we're not as sensitive to them as other animals, pheromones still have a huge impact on sexual arousal. There have even been experiments where heterosexual males have shown an arousal response to male pheromones.

TLDR: It's mostly biological.

 

[norwegian-guy]

Pretty much the same position as a homosexual. Only atracted to both genders.
It's not a choice. And most likely people become bisexual just like people become homosexual: As a foster, in the womb. (There are some other theories, but this is the one I find is the most likely.)

 

[Davey Woo]

Pretty indecisive is how I'd describe them.
I don't know really I don't really understand why anyone would be attracted to people of the same sex, but I don't have anything against those that are.

 

[Woodsey]

Bisexuals are people who are attracted to both genders.

I'm not really sure why people on this website seem to have such a difficult time wrapping their heads around that, or why there's such a fascination for it.

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

This guy hit it right on the head. It's a sexual attraction to both sexes, determined at birth just like every other sexual preference.

This has never been proven. I have a friend who was not gay, but after years of being made fun of for his lisp, he was societally pressured into becoming his image. Also, I was bi but I don't even think about men that way anymore.

So your friend is now ignoring his real sexuality because people took the piss out of his speech impediment?

Of course.

 

[masticina]

Labels are not meaningless, arbitrary, or limited. The only thing limiting such things would be a small functional vocabulary, or a lack of understanding.

And the scenario you speak of would be labeled 'Hetero with an Exception.'

Oh really labels are not limited? I mean I get it that human mind and human existance is based upon subjective insights. Hell the fact that he religion of a person usually is the one of the parents/society.. is one of those causal factors.

I agree that we are STUCK with labelling! We as humanity haven't yet breached through another level another method another way of thinking. Even those who study in the path of understanding these matters.. even they are bound the words and the limitations of words. Even if they understand them!

So what I see a new label "Hetero with an exception" what a delight. A new label..

Sexuality is well big part of our survival has huge effects on how our brains are wired! Unbeknownst to our conscience our body is filtering out information. Who is a decent mate who is NOT a decent mate. When we look at someone we automatically judge their fertility, the possible mating match. Now that would go against homosexuality EXCEPT that happens in nature and us.. so it is natural. Not to mention I think that we should be treated like individuals and everybody has their own personal sexuality.

Yes there are things like "Well I like guys" or "Well I like girls" and "Guys.. well no not sexually" and "Girls I am just not attracted to them sexually". The basic labels are good starting grounds and within our limited understand probably as good as we can do for now. But it is obviously there is more to sexuality then just these basic labels. Hell we haven't even gotten in preferences..

 

[Nanaki316]

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

Sorry to quote you for the millionth time but yeah that's pretty much it.

I'm bisexual, I find both women and men attractive. However I couldn't imagine spending my life with a woman as I'm pretty tied down living with my partner and our kids.
I've had girlfriends though, and I'm still the kinda woman who will compare hot girls with him.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Bisexuals are people who are attracted to both genders.

I'm not really sure why people on this website seem to have such a difficult time wrapping their heads around that, or why there's such a fascination for it.

They're all closet cases, trying to figure out their feelings.

Thats my theory, anyway. But I always assume everyone I know is sleeping with everyone else I know, so I may not be a good source on this.

Why do I do that, you ask?

It makes life so much more interesting when everything around you is a giant soup opera.

 

[Gigano]

"Those who have twice the options I do when it comes to choice of potential romance options".

...Actually, I don't really care about "explaining" them; they do not affect my life adversely in any way, nor give rise to any general ethical considerations whatsoever. So I'll happily leave explaining it to the sociological, psychological, and biological experts who have a general professional interest in and basis for an informed opinion on the subject.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Bi-sexual - Someone who is SEXUALLY attracted to both sexes.

And you can't be fooled into BEING gay, only into gay acts.

I have slain this thread.

Sorry to quote you for the millionth time but yeah that's pretty much it.

I'm bisexual, I find both women and men attractive. However I couldn't imagine spending my life with a woman as I'm pretty tied down living with my partner and our kids.
I've had girlfriends though, and I'm still the kinda woman who will compare hot girls with him.

No problem. It just solidifies my role as King of this thread (HAHAHAHA!)

SNIP

Okay, you're getting into human nature, and how we 'can't define everyone.'

Guess what: we can. It merely would take thousands of labels to do so (And that would be awkward as hell).

We're talking about sexuality here, not the entirety of the human condition. And despite your claim that we 'all have our own sexualities,' they all fall pretty nicely into the terms and labels we have created.

The rest of your post... is... well, beyond the scope of what this thread is about, and beyond my capabilities of typing on a NetBook keyboard.

 

[DracoSuave]

I try not to weigh in on the 'biological' or 'genetic' debate on bisexuality (or homosexuality) for that matter. It's a dangerous slope there. The genetic debate especially. Homosexuality is not transmitted geneticly because homosexualily does not breed... so you enter in the argument that it's a mutation. That then introduces the argument that it is therefore a genetic disease.... do you see how this can be bad? Plus, science hasn't come to any solid theories about this yet. It's hard to claim a scientific result like 'biological' or 'genetic' when science hasn't.

I instead actually embrace the moral argument. Is homosexuality or bisexuality a moral choice? Well... if it is, then it's a personal moral choice. Does it cause harm to others? Does society hurt because of it? Well... in a society pursuing ZPG, then no it does not. So, as a personal moral choice without any societal harm... how is it any of my business to decide someone else's morals for them? Personal moral choices are just that: Personal. It is not the business of a secular society to decide people's morality for them. It's job is to enforce rules that when broken are negative to society. Murder? Rape? Theft? Anti-social behavior, and should be curtailed. Having sex with your own gender? Should not be society's concern.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

Personally I think it's an excuse for people with severe commitment issues, but what the fuck do I know?

On an slightly unrelated note: Sex changes. How the fuck does that work? Sure you could hack off your dick, get some ovaries installed and take a boatload of estrogen, but you'll still be carrying around a fucking Y-chromosome. ...or going the other way, I guess you'd still be lacking in said Y-chromosome.