how do you feel about being judged on your looks?

[DanielBrown]

I'm close to two meters tall, look pretty strong in spite of being the opposite, got really long hair and a somewhat bearded face. Also tend to look pretty aggressive, so people often stare at me. Some even look terrified.
Got mixed feelings towards it. Got social phobia, so I'm very self concious when I'm outside, but the old narcissistic part of me still loves the attention.

 

[Candidus]

Most other people are dull eyed, bovine, semi-sentient obstacles. I can't say that their judgement affects me at all, whether it be judgement of my apparel or attractiveness or attitude or anything else.

You rarely meet one fit to make a sound judgement on anything.

 

[Rawne1980]

I have to admit I am quite vain.

It takes me longer to do my hair than it does my wife, and it's relatively short, but if it doesn't look right I can't leave it alone.

Other peoples opinions on how I look don't matter to me, i'm not trying to get a woman I already have one i'm extremely happy with. It's just old habits from when I was single.

I liked to look good and it's habits I haven't got out of yet.

I don't judge others on their looks though.

In fact there are only 2 things i'll look at in a woman before I talk to them (when I was single obviously), eyes and smile.

After that it all came down to personality.

I made the error of dating women purely based on looks in my younger years and conversation was .... well .... it was more comfortable smashing my face into a wall.

I'm not syaing all attractive women are shallow, i'm lucky enough to be married to an attractive lass with a wicked sense of humour and personality, i'm saying looks alone do not work all the time.

 

[Spinozaad]

I wouldn't mind being judged positively on appearance.

I'm an all-around average guy. Not ugly, just average. I'm okay with being judged on my intellect and sense of humour, but really... A girl thinking I'm being sex-appeal, we all want that.

 

[Phasmal]

I don't know how I would do being judged on my looks because I have no idea if I am nice-looking or not.
I guess I'm a bit insecure, but I automatically go `no` when my boyfriend tells me I look nice. To be honest I would probably want to know what other people thought of me, but if it was nice I would think they were just trying to be nice and if it was mean I would go into a shame-spiral. So I would never ask.

I know I'm not super hot. I would just call myself average I guess.

 

[The Night Angel]

I don't mind one way or the other. Everyone does it anyway, try as they might not to. It is just how humans are, we make decisions very quickly, so we decide what kind of person someone is on looks, within seconds of meeting them. I have never thought myself good looking, but was recently told that the some of the girls on my course were rating the guys on attractiveness and I was one of the top 3. I would rather be judged for my personality, but it isn't a realistic thing to hope for.

 

[SckizoBoy]

I don't put much effort into how I look aside from the demand to wear monochrome clothing (even formally). However, people are generally quick to judge my personality seeing as how I have a nigh perpetual sneer on my face...

And, like most here, I'd say I'm average at best...

 

[Starik20X6]

I don't mind one way or the other. Everyone does it anyway, try as they might not to. It is just how humans are, we make decisions very quickly, so we decide what kind of person someone is on looks, within seconds of meeting them. I have never thought myself good looking, but was recently told that the some of the girls on my course were rating the guys on attractiveness and I was one of the top 3. I would rather be judged for my personality, but it isn't a realistic thing to hope for.

Pretty much nailed what I was about to say.

Personally I think judging people on looks is a kind of survival instinct; being able to tell if the person across the room is going to want to share his food or kill you for yours. I'm not saying it's right, nowadays with our (so called) civilised world, but it's hard to escape a few million years of survival training.

I don't mind being judged based on my looks. I've been more or less cultivating a look for myself for the past couple of years for that exact purpose- so people can get a feel for who I am and what I'm about at a glance. Obviously it'd be harder for some people than others to do that, but it's working pretty well so far for me.

 

[smithy_2045]

Regardless of whether they judge me for my looks or my personality, I have no chance.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Hottness really depends on personal taste. For the longest time I thought I was ugly and a lot of girls treated me that way. The sort of adorable in his own clunky way, lets humor him. Seem to be much of my high school. Granted with 2 or 3 invitations to dances or relationships. (maybe my unattractiveness was in my head?)

Anyway it wasn't until I found this girl who absolutely found be angelic. She said I was beautiful that I felt like I was worth looking at. Then my confidence grew and other girls started to like me too.

Confidence, the way you dress (don't wear dirty smelly clothes), personality, facial structure, weight, build, and height seem to be factors. I am a 5'11" 145lb skinny boyish guy. Not every woman is into that and they express it. But some do. Just like some prefer the "teddy bear" guys.

When it comes to women I do think they are worse off, men tend to judge a woman by looks because from what I understand men see them as status symbols?
Personally I'd prefer someone with just a good head on their shoulders.

 

[S.N.N.]

Indifferent as well, like most others have said. I know it's a rather big deal in the early years of our life (middle/early high school, caring way too much about what others think), but that mindset really dissolved once you graduate and enter the realm of post-secondary education or the work force. Most people smarten up, and the ones that continue to judge probably aren't worth your time anyway.

(of course, that's not to say we don't all subconsciously judge each other at least a little bit, but that's more of a human nature thing.)

 

[TehCookie]

I hate being judged on my looks because mien aren't good. If I wear make-up and take time I can look average but then I get this:

Besides, if I suddenly started making an effort regarding my appearance it will be really noticeable (since at the moment I'm making none), and I don't want to have to deal with people who already know me saying "Oh my god, are you wearing make up??!?!?!?!"

Oh the other hand my cousins is extremely attractive and pretty much looks like barbie and can get away with anything. Worst part is she knows it and uses it to her advantage. probably because I'm at the lower end of the spectrum I'd say don't judge my looks. I don't care if she's hot if she lights your halloween mask on fire when you told her to stop smoking you shouldn't let her get away with that (true story at a haunted house).

 

[Vault101]

When it comes to women I do think they are worse off, men tend to judge a woman by looks because from what I understand men see them as status symbols?
Personally I'd prefer someone with just a good head on their shoulders.

I wouldnt go "that" far

but it is a bigger deal for women.....their looks are considered a bigger asset, they cant get away with looking "averge" as much as guys can (generally speaking of coarse...its not like theres the "ugly woman" brigade hunting them down,)

like our prime minister who is a women...peopel talking about her dress sense for crying out loud...I garuntee they wouldnt give to fucks if it was a man

 

[Lionsfan]

I'm pretty confident with how I look, I've had my moments but overall you gotta be happy with who you are

Here's a picture of me in a suit:

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

When it comes to women I do think they are worse off, men tend to judge a woman by looks because from what I understand men see them as status symbols?
Personally I'd prefer someone with just a good head on their shoulders.

I wouldnt go "that" far

but it is a bigger deal for women.....their looks are considered a bigger asset, they cant get away with looking "averge" as much as guys can (generally speaking of coarse...its not like theres the "ugly woman" brigade hunting them down,)

like our prime minister who is a women...peopel talking about her dress sense for crying out loud...I garuntee they wouldnt give to fucks if it was a man

I see, so its more of a social requirement that women look their best?

 

[laggyteabag]

I know I dont look good, and i never have been. Im relatively weighty, im ginger, my eyebrows are practically invisible, and there are freckles EVERYWHERE on my face and arms.

So people (Especially girls) tend to avoid me on these grounds, but over the past school year I met a few girls who have got to know me well, and have said that im a REALLY nice person talk to and be around, and that has really reassured/helped me in an attempt to talk to girls more.

 

[Auron225]

I often wonder how I rate on other people's scales. I dont think Im too bad looking but I have a feeling I give myself too much credit based on the fact that Ive yet to have a girlfriend and Im 20.

Wow - that sounded pathetic on my part =S