How do you go about telling someone your feelings?
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oh yeah.. nothing shows a girl you're interested and confident like a text message. Also, he already knows this person.. sending a text about hanging out is just going to continue to keep them in the "friendzone" since they probably text and hang out all the time already.DividedUnity said:
The possibility of rejection is part of growing up and life.. if you can't express how you feel about someone face to face then you're not ready to have a relationship.
Op.. Just do it..If you're harboring feelings for this person but afraid of ruining things or being rejected so you stay "friends" because it's better then nothing.. then you're a horrible friend and you're friendship is a sham. You're going to end up resenting them and be one of those people who go around to forums complaining about how all she dates are jerks and you've been so in love with her for X amount of years.. or how girls never want nice guys blah blah blah.. I've been in this situation twice over the past year or so.. They weren't interested in me that way and we're still good friends in both cases.. but there's a chance that they could of ended up weird or ending the friendship. With out risk there is no reward
It really depends on the kind of relaionship you have with that person, and her personality. I have written poetry before, with varied results. I'd say your best bet is to do one of two things. 1-Just tell her outright how you feel, don't over dramatize it. You will probably be nervous, but if she likes you then that will not matter anyways. 2-If you are a hopeless nervous wreck about approaching said person, a short note describing your feelings is a good idea too. Same as talking, do not over-dramatize. Keep your letter simple and too the piont, do not beat around the bush, and make sure you actually give the persone the letter. Regardless of which route you take, when you do bring up your feelings make sure you are mentally prepared to hear things you may or may not want to. And if she ask's for time, give her time, the wait is worth it.
Oh I know then he can spill all his feelings to her at once because nothing gets you out of the friends zone than a verbal spew of feelings, too bad it will get you straight into the stalker zone but hey, at least youre not in the friend zone. You're basically telling him to tell his friend how he feels but for all we know he feels very strongly. It's not as simple as firing away then hoping she feels the same. There is a high possibilty that she would feel the same if he gradually made his feelings aware to her but she might have the shit scared out of her if he told her this all at onceower013 said:
It may be dangerous to do that. Try to really consider if this person is "out of your league." People generally really don't want to date someone unless they are as attractive as they are.
If that seams like a go then just tell them when you are hanging out. Don't be overly poetic or anything like that. Just tell them.
Be warned though, like some people here have said if it backfires it will likely be the end of your friendship. Things just never get back to normal. It's like when someone refuses a proposal for marriage. The relationship seldom survives.
If that seams like a go then just tell them when you are hanging out. Don't be overly poetic or anything like that. Just tell them.
Be warned though, like some people here have said if it backfires it will likely be the end of your friendship. Things just never get back to normal. It's like when someone refuses a proposal for marriage. The relationship seldom survives.
I usually try to hint at it.
If that doesn't work, I will get over that person eventually.
EDIT: Besides, if I told anyone my feelings it would probably ruin my relationship with that person, professional or otherwise.
If that doesn't work, I will get over that person eventually.
EDIT: Besides, if I told anyone my feelings it would probably ruin my relationship with that person, professional or otherwise.
I just don't, they have to come up to me. It would suck if I get turned down. I have had some success with that tactic.
Uhhhh... What are those?
Seriously though, I've had feelings for like 2 people ever. Dated and slept with the first chick, never calling her again. I didn't go beyond being a friend with the second because I didn't want to hurt her. In retrospect I wonder why I cared. On topic, I rarely have any feelings except for hate so aside from that I don't express my "feelings".
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Seriously though, I've had feelings for like 2 people ever. Dated and slept with the first chick, never calling her again. I didn't go beyond being a friend with the second because I didn't want to hurt her. In retrospect I wonder why I cared. On topic, I rarely have any feelings except for hate so aside from that I don't express my "feelings".
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I lol'dtahrey said:
If I can, I try to tell them in private, but other than that, I just tell them. There really isn't much else to it for me.
If they're ammusing me, I laugh at them.
if they're annoying me, I argue with them.
If they're boring me, I yawn at them.
if they're annoying me, I argue with them.
If they're boring me, I yawn at them.
Why are there so many people asking love advice on this site? Seriously, why would anyone think this is a good place to do that? You just lost all your man-cards.
In the end you just gotta have balls, you know? Cojones. Do you expect to be spoon-fed tough answers to life's questions from the internet?
It's your life, there's nothing we can do about it, and there should be nothing you take from these suggestions.
But to answer the original question. Ask if he(she) wants to spoon, then ask, if he(she) wants to be the big spoon or the little spoon. Spooning says more than a thousand words.
In the end you just gotta have balls, you know? Cojones. Do you expect to be spoon-fed tough answers to life's questions from the internet?
It's your life, there's nothing we can do about it, and there should be nothing you take from these suggestions.
But to answer the original question. Ask if he(she) wants to spoon, then ask, if he(she) wants to be the big spoon or the little spoon. Spooning says more than a thousand words.
chozo_hybrid said:So you're a straight shooter, I'll keep that in mind, thanksMarter said:
Sounds like you would have put a lot of thought into that then, so you recommend being creative perhaps?InnerRebellion said:
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didn't work for me. probably never will.
i say nay to just flat out telling them, unless you've known them for however many years and you've both just grown on each other like a fungus on a lawn tended to as often as a trailer park on Mars.
i say nay to just flat out telling them, unless you've known them for however many years and you've both just grown on each other like a fungus on a lawn tended to as often as a trailer park on Mars.