How do you handle bullies?

[traceur_]

Can't hit him, I'm much smaller and weaker. It would be nice to get rid of his bullying by telling the teachers. Too bad I can't get any revenge on him, cause he deserves to know what it feels like to be hurt and degraded every day. Thank God that my summer break starts soon. 10 weeks away from that hellhole.

It doesn't matter if you're weaker. I got a guy to stop hassling me by chasing him with a saw and booting him in the face. If he ever bends down to tie his shoelaces or something, kick him in the face, just do it, trust me. Blitz attacks are the best way to deal with anything like that. Violence is the answer.

 

[Biek]

Just hit him with your backpack. Hell cry to your teacher but itll teach him not to mess with you. If your afraid hes gonna bring friends, carry a brick in your bag for a while. If your not strong, you have to be crazy.

Once you let bullies mess with you, youll never see the end of it.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

yeah, id say tell the teachers, although it really depends on what your teachers are like

i told mine, and they hardly did anything, until 2 year after when a new teacher came, i told her and she scared the crap outta them for a while XD it helped a lot

also, do your other friends know he's being a dickhead towards you? if they dont, tell them too, see if they can talk to him about it

They know that he's a dickhead, but I'm not that close with those particular friends, and they know they can't do anything about it.

hmm, its a toughie, do you have any other friends at that school? because you said "those particular friends"

I have some other friends, but the big issue is the fact that we go in the same class, so either way we're all gonna be outside waiting for class to start, and that's where he takes his shot.

umm, im stuck XD i mean if thats true then even if you tell the teachers they might not see him doing anything
only thing i can think of now is psychological warfare, basically try and find out his mental weaknesses and use them against him?
good luck with it though XD sorry i couldnt help much

It's okay, don't expect anyone to come with a giant revelation. Tried to find some weaknesses, but I can't think of any possible.

 

[Hamster at Dawn]

If you haven't done already then just try making friends with him. Some people are just straight out douchebags but I used to get bullied a lot and now I've found that the best solution is to be just a bit more sociable. It works in my case at least.

 

[Captain Pancake]

*sigh* bullying talk depresses me. At least this is the escapist, so there are other people who have been through or are going through the same thing as you.

I was bullied once, by this contemptible little excuse of a human being. But i couldn't do anything about it, because the teacher's methods were, to be frank, quite shit, and most of my "friends" thought he was "sound as a pound.", and the only one that didn't was also bullied by the guy. the sad fact is, i could have physically broken him, as he was the one guy in my year who was smaller than me, but he had so many friends who would jump at the chance of a fight that i would lose out, big time. eventually, he left town and moved to aberdeen. I always made a joke that, "He was so small, the sheep fucked HIM."

 

[countwiggles]

*punch to face* *knee to balls*
*laughs*
*gets cake*

 

[slevin8989]

When i was young i got bullied. Teachers really didn't help much all they did was make the situation worse. What helped me out in the end was just fighting him and not once or twice I fought him a couple of times. I usually didn't win but I think he noticed that I wasn't gonna stop fighting back, and You don't have to be stronger to beat him in a fight just smarter use anything around you I used a chair a couple of times and if you do fight him keep a cool head I lost a lot of times because I lost my cool.

 

[l33tabix]

Just tell the teacher. You used to kick him, he's affecting you now. Either that, or hit him really, really hard. Please note, I neither endorse nor encourage the latter option. Because it's not like it would be fun or satisfying to do, nor could you apply his circle logic back on him...

Can't hit him, I'm much smaller and weaker. It would be nice to get rid of his bullying by telling the teachers. Too bad I can't get any revenge on him, cause he deserves to know what it feels like to be hurt and degraded every day. Thank God that my summer break starts soon. 10 weeks away from that hellhole.

You know what, I'm happy to see a 15 year old is man enough to consider these thing AND admit he is weak. I salute you. I'm 18, I've never had to deal with bullies, nor am I one myself. I used to do kickboxing though, so when I was 15 (I was in an all boys school) I would have kicked the living shit out of him.

Anyway, tell the head teacher of your school, say exactly what you've said to us, it'll be sorted out.

How hard is kickboxing, cause I've been thinking that I need to learn self-defense, and most of my siblings have trained it and says that it's hard, but a great way to defend yourself and get some well-deserved muscles.

It doesn't give you any muscles, you gain flexibility and stamina, oh and of course techniques. These day I climb, it's the shit.

 

[DraftPickle]

ADVICE: If you get angry enough at him, adrenaline and sheer rage will take care of the rest, just make sure that anger gets channeled into violence, sounds crazy but I've seen little guys maul bigger guys by just going animal, but remember he ahs to really piss you off

 

[BGH122]

Do you have money or connections? Get someone bigger and stronger to hurt him.

Or if you want to be sensible just ask him why he persists in attacking you. Apologise for the way you treated him in the past. It sounds to me like you're reaping what you sowed so I can't really be of much more assistance because, in my opinion, he's justified in acting like a dick since you set the precedence.

 

[Evilbunny]

I know a way you can win a fight, even if he is much bigger then you. IF you are interested, pm me.

I know a way too. Bring a knife.

 

[Robz_Defheadz]

kill em

 

[Kevvers]

yeah, id say tell the teachers, although it really depends on what your teachers are like

i told mine, and they hardly did anything, until 2 year after when a new teacher came, i told her and she scared the crap outta them for a while XD it helped a lot

also, do your other friends know he's being a dickhead towards you? if they dont, tell them too, see if they can talk to him about it

They know that he's a dickhead, but I'm not that close with those particular friends, and they know they can't do anything about it.

hmm, its a toughie, do you have any other friends at that school? because you said "those particular friends"

I have some other friends, but the big issue is the fact that we go in the same class, so either way we're all gonna be outside waiting for class to start, and that's where he takes his shot.

umm, im stuck XD i mean if thats true then even if you tell the teachers they might not see him doing anything
only thing i can think of now is psychological warfare, basically try and find out his mental weaknesses and use them against him?
good luck with it though XD sorry i couldnt help much

I would suggest avoiding confrontations with this person, if at all possible. In your situation, I would probably find somewhere to disappear to until that class starts. If it helps, when you grow up you will be able to completely avoid these people altogether, unless you are unfortunate enough to get an arsehole of a coworker, or work in some kindve retaily customer-facing type job. But even there, you still have much more control over your situation than at school which is probably the worst thing about it.

 

[Mackinator]

You know I swear this said bullets for a moment.

Same...

Personally I would give them verbal abuse back. And if they get angry just say "You can give it but you cant take it" because this really annoys them and in many cases stops pr*cks from doing it. I know a guy who acts like a real pr*ck sometimes but when you say that you know he knows he is a pr*ck and he should stop being such a pr*cky pr*ck. Ahhh for pr*cks sake.

PS. If he runs after you I advise you to bring a bat or have a getaway setup

 

[Mackinator]

yeah, id say tell the teachers, although it really depends on what your teachers are like

i told mine, and they hardly did anything, until 2 year after when a new teacher came, i told her and she scared the crap outta them for a while XD it helped a lot

also, do your other friends know he's being a dickhead towards you? if they dont, tell them too, see if they can talk to him about it

They know that he's a dickhead, but I'm not that close with those particular friends, and they know they can't do anything about it.

hmm, its a toughie, do you have any other friends at that school? because you said "those particular friends"

I have some other friends, but the big issue is the fact that we go in the same class, so either way we're all gonna be outside waiting for class to start, and that's where he takes his shot.

umm, im stuck XD i mean if thats true then even if you tell the teachers they might not see him doing anything
only thing i can think of now is psychological warfare, basically try and find out his mental weaknesses and use them against him?
good luck with it though XD sorry i couldnt help much

I would suggest avoiding confrontations with this person, if at all possible. In your situation, I would probably find somewhere to disappear to until that class starts. If it helps, when you grow up you will be able to completely avoid these people altogether, unless you are unfortunate enough to get an arsehole of a coworker, or work in some kindve retaily customer-facing type job. But even there, you still have much more control over your situation than at school which is probably the worst thing about it.

Avoiding the situation does not help, and it just deepens an already present weakness. During your lifetime you should try and build on weaknesses as well as strengths. If you REALLY want to get rid of this bully, you can do it. No im not gonna say "omagawzorrrz use a knife/gun" if you put your mind to something as simple as this you will get results. You can work it out yourself, just think out the possibilities.

 

[Animated Rope]

tell the teachers. If that doesn't work tell your parents and have them yell at the principle. If that doesn't work charge him with assault (If the law applies in that case. It does where I live, not sure about Sweden.).

While there are laws supposed to stop bullying, they are actually not enforced in the schoolyard. There was this person who had bullied me for years, then I heard he smashed someone's teeth in seemingly without consequences. His parents got phone calls though, justice have been served! /sarcasm

OP:
My suggestion is that you start with diplomacy. By the sounds of it, the chief excuse for doing this to you is because of an old and childish dispute. If you can really get to talk with him, or get parents or teachers to do it for you, tell him that you consider the dispute to be over and all you want is peace. Specifically point out that you don't harass him anymore and wish him to stop as well. Whatever medium you chose to give the message, make sure he actually listens. If you want to talk to him face-to-face, approach him, don't wait until he return to pick on you again.

I think you should try this approach before going violent, because it's harder to do after beating someone. You got along with him once, so I'm convinced you can do so again.

 

[meece]

I've only ever retaliated when someone took a joke waaaaaaay too far or starting trying something physical. People trying to snub me I just find either childish or kinda funny.

It's amazing what you can do when you're in a really, REALLY violent mood even against people larger+stronger than you.

Trust me on this ^_^

Actually maybe I'm not as weedy as I think I am, I'm actually quite good at endurance contests.... hmm. Well whatever.

 

[Daveman]

We've been half friends over periods. Half a year ago, he stopped teasing me, but then he started again for no fu**ing reason. He's not bullying me for payback or anything, he does it cause he's a tw*t.

Yeah, well, just make it really clear how annoying you find it. I had a friend who I used to tease loads but then after about a year he just had a massive rant at me for it. I had never realised I was annoying him so much.

 

[Darkmark44]

Try to ignore him, and if that doesn't work, fight him. Even if your not stronger, learn to use your environment to your advantage. If you land a couple good hits on him, or at least hurt him, well, he is less likely to go after someone that can fight back.

 

[PurpleLeafRave]

I have a bully at school, who keeps kicking me, poking me, annoying me, and being a generally unlikeable f*ckhead. Whenever I try to tell him to stop, he says that it's my fault cause I used to kick him, but that was cause he was already annoying me and I was stressed out. So I can't tell the teachers cause he will use his stupid circle logic. And ignoring him doesn't help. Although I'm seriously starting to consider telling the teachers, cause I don't give a shit anymore about what the teachers think, it's not like they can lower my grades for it. I'm really starting to lose it and I've seriously though about changing school just because of this guy. And I can't avoid him, cause he's friends with my friends and he has the doggy determination to make my life shitty. My favorite moment would be when he's alone and I can kick him in the nuts with a cinder block shoe. My brother gave me a tip to hit hi in the spine so his back will twitch. Says that's a good way to annoy someone back. Or hit him in the face with a book, claiming he had a fly on his face.

EDIT: To clear things up, I'm not stronger than him. I'm very short, around 155 centimeters ( I think that's 5 feet, I'm from Sweden where we don't use that kind of measurement) and I'm not strong, at all.

I got my best friend to call my bully and say "ive got people watching you and you dont know where...theyre all around you...make one move on [insert your name here] and theyll be on you, with knifes...etc." Basically scare the shit out of him with people he doesnt know It worked!