How do you handle bullies?

[Manic Overkill]

If he's much bigger than you the violence option is probably not a good idea (trust me . Though if it seems you have a chance go for it, otherwise he'll keep picking on you because he thinks your too afraid to strike back. Also make sure you have some of your freinds around you if you do attack even if they don't help, you never now.

 

[slevin8989]

With excessive and often inappropriate levels of violence.

I say this. People used to give me crap all the time I don't really care, There options don't mean a thing to me, One of them went too far talking about crap he really doesn't know about. I have a hell of a temper just I never lose it, Yeah Wall + Face = Satisfying.

Seriously.

And OP, if you can't beat him in a fair fight, don't.
Fight dirty. Kick him in the groin. Punch him in the throat.
Do whatever it takes to make sure the other guy doesn't get up.

Yeah, but then there's the problem that he, like many, will cry for the teacher at any threat. And then they'll yell at me like I'm the bad guy. Someone told me to be able to take some shit from the teachers. But in the kind of school I go in, real violence rarely occurs, so I'll get the yell that'll reach Minnesota.

If it's that just escalate it a bit make him so angry he throws the first punch so you're not fighting you're just protecting yourself or if you really don't want to fight him just make him throw a punch at you while a teacher is looking

 

[aww yea]

size isnt a problem, being small just makes it easier to go for the shins and being big just makes it easier to win at everything all the time.

i second the whole big friend idea but have you ever thought about befriending your bully?

then you can use your bully to bully other bullies

bullshit

just get your friend whos bullys friend on him it'll either sort him out or sort out the problem of them being friends..

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

Nothing wrong with fighting dirty, do whatever it takes to win. Pair of brass knuckles as well, nice and easy to hide afterwards.

Go for the eyes, OP!

I might, under some circumstances be considered a bully, but not in the tradition al sense of beating people up and taking their things. What I do ranges from joking verbal abuse to (NOT SERIOUSLY) uttering death threats.

If that's bullying, I guess I'm a bully too.
Because I do that kind of thing all the time.
To my friends.
Maybe I'm a bad friend..

All friends do that, its only natural. I do it all the time.
I don't know why, but me and my mates are always making gay jokes about eachother.
My mates brother came down from scotland and i was introduced as the gay fascist emo, lol.

Guess which one of hose is true

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

A fist in the face generally works for me. Also:

I'm not stronger than him. I'm very short, around 155 centimeters ( I think that's 5 feet, I'm from Sweden where we don't use that kind of measurement) and I'm not strong, at all.

You don't necessarily have to be bigger or stronger than your opponent, it certainly helps in a fight, but it's certainly not the deciding factor. Remember, it's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog. I don't have a clue where I heard that from, but whatever. Good luck to you man.

 

[ExodusinFlames]

I have a bully at school, who keeps kicking me, poking me, annoying me, and being a generally unlikeable f*ckhead. Whenever I try to tell him to stop, he says that it's my fault cause I used to kick him, but that was cause he was already annoying me and I was stressed out. So I can't tell the teachers cause he will use his stupid circle logic. And ignoring him doesn't help. Although I'm seriously starting to consider telling the teachers, cause I don't give a shit anymore about what the teachers think, it's not like they can lower my grades for it. I'm really starting to lose it and I've seriously though about changing school just because of this guy. And I can't avoid him, cause he's friends with my friends and he has the doggy determination to make my life shitty. My favorite moment would be when he's alone and I can kick him in the nuts with a cinder block shoe. My brother gave me a tip to hit hi in the spine so his back will twitch. Says that's a good way to annoy someone back. Or hit him in the face with a book, claiming he had a fly on his face.

EDIT: To clear things up, I'm not stronger than him. I'm very short, around 155 centimeters ( I think that's 5 feet, I'm from Sweden where we don't use that kind of measurement) and I'm not strong, at all.

Growing up, I was in your shoes. I know what you're dealing with. Before you declare war outright, there's a bit of leg work you'll need to do.
First things first, going to the teacher isn't always the best idea, in most cases they'll ignore it entirely, or the reprisal for it (from the bully) will be signifcantly worse.
The second thing you'll need to do is make a detailed list of greivances. Basically in depth as to wha's been happening.
Third would be digging for weaknesses. Everyone has them, learn it. But be prepared to use it.
Make someone authoritarian aware, parents being the most likely candidates. In alot of those circumstances, your parents will always have your back.
The last part of it, is to begin utilizing that weakness. Whether it be a direct attack on their fears or emotions, go into it without remorse.

Once its all said and done, however, there may be worse reactions but thems the breaks. But you have to do something, not reacting will cause you to brood and then to hate, and that is the sort of thing that causes school shootings.

Perhaps, rather than a teacher, go to the principal. But stress that if this matter isn't handled appropriately, that there will be legal implications. Its their job to ensure a safe learning environment, and as it stands, you don't have one. If there's no response, take matters into your own hands, like above.

 

[Animated Rope]

Yeah, but then there's the problem that he, like many, will cry for the teacher at any threat. And then they'll yell at me like I'm the bad guy. Someone told me to be able to take some shit from the teachers. But in the kind of school I go in, real violence rarely occurs, so I'll get the yell that'll reach Minnesota.

Then don't do real violence. The important part is that you actually fight. I got into a fight once, all that happened was that I got wrestled to the ground, but the bully was still made to apologize to me and I got left me alone for a few weeks.

I have never heard of a case of bullying where the bullied fight back every time. I imagine he would grow royally tired of poking you if you make poking synonymous with picking a fight.

EDIT: And I still say you should tell the teachers FIRST, no matter your course of action. If you end up in trouble, they might see your position and go easy on you, instead of treating you like a psycho who randomly assault people. Saying "he started it" when you are already accused will look like a petty excuse.

 

[rwstiles]

Remember your martial arts. As opponent strikes toward you you shift back while pulling on his thrown arm or leg. With leg, merely kick him hard in base leg which has all his weight with it. Kick in knee if you want permanent damage. For arm blow, slide to side, grab and extend offending arm, drive through back of arm to demolish elbow joint. Alternatively, pull out arm, break floating ribs with counter-strike. Peace may be made only after exhibiting superior force. Sun Tzui or one of those Japanese philosopher samurai. Good luck and happy hunting.

 

[PhantomCritic]

Trick them into creating unwanted attention. Essentially make them destroy their own reputation.

 

[SamLowry]

I have a bully at school, who keeps kicking me, poking me, annoying me, and being a generally unlikeable f*ckhead. Whenever I try to tell him to stop, he says that it's my fault cause I used to kick him, but that was cause he was already annoying me and I was stressed out.

Hello? Someone at home? [Classic bully line from "Back to the future", SCNR ]
He is acting (e.g. kicking) and your response is TALKING?
He is one step ahead on the escalation ladder, my friend.
If he is talking, your response should be talking, too.
But he is already far behind that point.

So I can't tell the teachers cause he will use his stupid circle logic. And ignoring him doesn't help. Although I'm seriously starting to consider telling the teachers, cause I don't give a shit anymore about what the teachers think, it's not like they can lower my grades for it. I'm really starting to lose it and I've seriously though about changing school just because of this guy. And I can't avoid him, cause he's friends with my friends and he has the doggy determination to make my life shitty.

...and I always thought Sweden had a far superior school system compared to the USA, but also compared to many European countries like Germany...

My favorite moment would be when he's alone and I can kick him in the nuts with a cinder block shoe. My brother gave me a tip to hit hi in the spine so his back will twitch. Says that's a good way to annoy someone back. Or hit him in the face with a book, claiming he had a fly on his face.

Please. Stop your pipe dreaming. You don't have to meet him alone, you don't have to be superman, you don't have to have tools or weapons or anything.

You have to do it ON THE SPOT, not 3 months later. Your RE-ACTION has to be quick, swift, prompt and lightning fast.

When I was younger, I knew some bullies. They were 2 guys, their target was only 1 guy (you see, real cowards). Please have a guess why that special guy was their favourite target? BECAUSE HE DID NOT FIGHT BACK! There were no repurcussions for them. Just the fun of kicking/beating someone, but no pain on their side. That's why they came for him again, again, again AND FUCKING AGAIN.

Till one day.
That one day the bullied guy kicked back. I'm quite sure he didn't know any martial arts, he wasn't the fitness sporty type (in fact, he was fat), but he just KICKED BACK. If they want to phyically harm you, they have to come close - and that's your kicking range, my friend.

And guess what?
Those 2 cowards were immediately impressed, because hurting someone else isn't half as funny, if you get hurt, too - do you understand? If you don't, you better read this paragraph twice:
HURTING SOMEONE ELSE QUICKLY BECOMES A SOUR SPORT IF YOU GET HURT YOURSELF.

In fact, they did try it again one or two times, I don't recall. I guess they did this in order to see if the bullied guy fell back into his victim behaviour, but he kept kicking back. And very soon after they realized that their nice easy prey had vanished, their bullying stopped and they never tried it again.

Mark my words.

EDIT: To clear things up, I'm not stronger than him. I'm very short, around 155 centimeters ( I think that's 5 feet, I'm from Sweden where we don't use that kind of measurement) and I'm not strong, at all.

A kick from a fat dwarf is still a kick. What are you are doing here is limiting yourself by bevlieving that you will lose and bringing up an excuse for not fighting at all. Which makes you the perfect target. The only one with circular logic I can spot here is you - limiting yourself. Because you BELIEVE that you can't fight back, you don't. Because you don't, you get bullied upon. Because you get bullied upon, you believe you can't fight back, etc.

See? Stop that shit! Now!!
He can kick, you can kick, everyone can kick.

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[SecretTacoNinja]

I stare them dead in the eye, stay silent, and give them a look that says; "Honestly, I don't give a shit".

I don't react to bullies, the most I gave them was telling them to go away, and they didn't, they sat near to me and giggled, but I still didn't react. Those kind of people aren't worth getting riled up for.

I honestly don't know what to suggest for you OP, I'm kind of a big, scary gal so I don't get bothered much. A couple of stiff punches to the solar plexus and nose would do, but that would prolly get you in trouble...

Maybe one of these is in order...

http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/TroperTales/CrowningMomentOfAwesome

 

[wewontdie11]

I used to just ignore them when I used to get bullied. It kinda worked but has given me a whole host of lovely self-esteem issues that I have to deal with now.

Now my advice to my younger self and you would be to punch him in the face. Lots.

 

[SamLowry]

@152:
That's good, when it is starting.

But as far as I have understood the OT, this kicking has already become a regular sport. A daily pattern of behaviour, if you so will.

 

[Triple AD]

--SNIP--

Gerazzi you Charismatic Stallion, you!
This is your best course of action right here.

Aaah I love thats 70s show


Any just talk to him and if all else fails Block him from your life using some of your freinds

 

[SecretTacoNinja]

Double post...

 

[Flytch]

I used to get bullied, it only ended when I retaliated and got the crap beaten out of me and thrown out of a bus, it sucked but people were forced to take notice afterwards. Ironically I hit my growth spurt just afterwards and no-one has tried anything since then.

 

[Fruitloops89]

Fuckhead, see was that hard?

All I can say is don't do what my cousin did and wail on a kid with a text book in front of the principals office when the Vice Principal and the Principal are just coming out of the office.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

if your gonna fight then do it in public and make sure he starts it and the bully is not near any friends, however dont just run up to him if he insults you from far away. if he does something to your face then smack him and dont lets him get a hit in, it sounds like im the same as you (people are always bigger and stronger). if you get hit, then take the pain! dont show that you are in pain! and use speed to your advantage (size doesn't matter in a fight), this wont solve the problem and should only be used as a last resort (after telling, teachers, partents and friends about it), if nothing is done after a few week then this will show that the bully is realy hurting you and sends the message that you are sick of it

I have had the problem in the past, just because your shorter doesnt make you a push over

 

[dontworryaboutit]

I haven't been bullied in years. The trick is to have everyone either loving you or terrified of you. Maybe both.