How does your girlfriend cope with your gaming?

[Neuromaster]

She probably plays as much as I do. We've spent countless hours discussing the finer points of Metal Gear Solid & Dragon Age. WoW was a source of tension for a while, but that was honestly my fault. We both played, but while raiding at a high level I was prone to paying too much attention to the game and not enough to her (or my classes, for that matter). I pretty much phased out WoW after landing a full-time job. I only have time for one.

She doesn't understand why I like "spreadsheet" games though. I get into the numbers & theory a lot more than she does, which she's never understood. Why I enjoy tuning my empire's economic might or micromanaging terraforming in Alpha Centauri is a mystery to her. I on the other hand can't understand how anyone could have the patience to play platformers.

So we don't like all the same kinds of game but there's quite a bit of overlap. We'd both identify as "gamers". Honestly I don't think I'd get along well with a non-gamer. Isn't being in a relationship about enjoying things together? Like, more than each other's physical company? Being with someone who couldn't care less about one of my biggest interests sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.

 

[brucelee13245]

shes likes watching and when i teach her about the game. she wont play much except roller coaster tycoon tho which i find cute.

 

[WhamBamSam]

Gaming is a small part of my life, much like coming on here when I'm bored.

In short, it causes no problems and everything is peachy in the homestead.

Pretty much this. Though she and I spend most of a given week about an hour's drive apart, so she doesn't encounter it that often, even when I do have enough free time to be gaming. I think that the shyer, geekier side of my overwhelming manliness is sort of what endears me to her to be honest.

I'd been working up the courage to ask her out for a while (without petitioning the internets for backup I might add) and was a little stressed and nervous for a few days immediately following doing so. I used Prototype to help calm myself down, though she doesn't know that.

 

[Blitzkreg]

She told me she played wow years ago... kinda made me sad... Turned on my wow addict friend tho

 

[CrashTestZombie]

Hmmm, I would know if I had one. All the girls I know are either stupid or taken. [small]Or both...[/small]

 

[Ph33nix]

she games as much as me. er well did when we were still going out.

 

[Chiater]

I'm with the people who game together. I always found gaming to be a nice activity to do with friends and bfs (i being the gf). For single player you take turns and then you can do the 2 players together. The only thing i have a problem with is when someone starts dissing my skills in a game i never play on a system i dont own.. Give me a break

 

[MiracleOfSound]

It never interferes.

She always comes first, therefore never has a problem with it or asks me to stop.

She actually finds it comforting sometimes to nap behind me while I'm gaming.

 

[katsa5]

My girlfriend plays video games, apparently. I say "apparently" because the only hardcore game she plays is L4D. She does ***** me out for playing D&D, even though she has never played it before in her life. She's one of those people who believe everything they have heard from rumor AND one of those people who don't ever try anything new. I don't want to be with her anymore...

^^ Tell her that your group has to perform a Dark Ritual Blood Orgy in order to restore someone's dead character. And currently she's the only one that fits the requirements for a sacrifice. That'll scare her off forever.
My mother made that comment that that's what she heard people do in DnD. >< Ridiculous. So, your girlfriend is bound to believe it. Oy, the things people can concoct out of ignorance.

 

[Markthis]

Meh, my girl has her own stuff to get done and has no interest in games whatsoever...I'm talking card games, board games, you name it. So while she's watching her Grey's Anatomy, I head back to my apt and play. We eat dinner together and have weekends for fun. It works for us though. =D

Somehow I think I wouldn't get along with a gamer girl as well. It would be fun, but could be trouble.

 

[Nuke_em_05]

We play together. My wife has an Xbox Live account and a WoW account.

 

[aaronmcc]

i played sonic unleashed with her....for her. as far as i am concerned she owes me, not the other way around.
we do have great fun playing beatles rock band together

 

[jono793]

Hopefully most people will have the presence of mind and social aptitude to do something other than sit on their backside playing Dragon Age while their neglected other half weighs the pros and cons of the relationship! I've learned that being a "Gamer" doesn't mean you have to be a one-note hybrid of man and console. Just as well, because it isn't a paticularly attractive motif to adopt!

The best advice I can give is to keep the controller out of the relationship; find things she enjoys and do them together. If she's also into gaming then all the better, but don't use that as an excuse to avoid doing other things too.

 

[Shenanigans176]

She plays with me all the time...
She can actually kick my ass in Super Smash Bros on the N64... Yeah, I know, I've got myself a keeper =D

Other than the N64, we play some stuff together on my Xbox, but eventually it turns back into the N64... or something else...

 

[Pegghead]

Don't have one, ask me again in five years I might have an answer.

 

[jboking]

My latest is a gamer. An actual gamer too, she plays everything from FPS to RPG. She doesn't have to cope, because she completely understands.

 

[Red Albatross]

My wife likes to either watch me play games or play with me if it's something she likes, although she tends to only play RTS games. Or Time Crisis. Either way, I can't complain, it's nice to have someone who at least understands my hobbies.

 

[Supreme Unleaded]

My girlfriend knows that i play games but i know that she's alot more important then games. So unless im in a really important game ill drop everything to talk to her.

And by that i mean through AIM and stuff, if we're in person i don't touch the games.

 

[Ghostkai]

As long as I make time for her she's cool with all my gaming antics.

 

[Kungfu_Teddybear]

My Girlfriend is a gamer herself, shes a big fan of World of Warcraft, the zelda games and the final fantasy games, so she doesnt care that i spend loads of time on the computer as she's playing games just as much, if not more than me...although when i go out drinking with my mates she goes mental :|