How far should "It's my body, I can do what I want" go?

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gmergurl

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Radelaide said:
Until a baby is born, it is a parasite that feeds off a host. The "It's a living human being" is bullshit and made to guilt mothers into carrying full term when maybe they shouldn't. True fucking fact.

"It's my body, I can do what I want" applies to anything and everything. You should THINK about what you're doing to your body, especially in cases where you're pregnant and such but it's still your own body. People can pass whatever judgement they want too but it's not going the change the mind of that woman or whoever has that mentality.

Ummm no. Sorry, a baby human is not a parasite. It is not an infection, it is not a disease. I don't know how you came to that conclusion, but it is not in anyway a parasite. You know how I know? The mother had a choice whether or not to get pregnant unless she was raped. End of story. She had a choice and if that choice ended in unwanted/unplanned pregnancy she's got no one to blame but herself. There are MANY effective birth control methods that are available out there, the most effective being ABSTINENCE! Just in case you didn't know that.

That being said, I don't know how this woman ended up with a baby, but just by looking at the scenario, I'm assuming my guess was right. She had a choice, she chose poorly, and continues to choose poorly.
 

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Bakuryukun said:
You SHOULD be able to do almost anything you want with your own body. But when you pregnant, it's not just YOUR body now is it?
This is wisdom. Only one correction; while it's only your body you're effecting, you should be able to do anything at all.

As a rule of thumb, your rights are your own until you begin to encroach on someone else's. In this case, the 'someone else' is the kid in her belly.

AgentDarkmoon said:
I almost feel as though situations like this fall under child abuse.
That is an excellent idea. Who else is for making abuse of a fetus count as Child Abuse?
 

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Bakuryukun said:
You SHOULD be able to do almost anything you want with your own body. But when you pregnant, it's not just YOUR body now is it?
totally agree if its your body you can do what you want with it but if your pregant your caring for someone elses body aswell.I wish people would think abit more before having unprotected sex if you know you arent going to be a good parent dont have unprotected sex how hard is that
 

Chrono180

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Okay, pet peeve time.

You people saying that it should be illegal to drink while pregnant disgust me. The unborn have no rights. If you say that you shouldn't drink alcohol while pregnant, that opens up a HUGE can of worms about what other behaviors should be forbidden to pregnant women. How about smoking? How about dieting? How about exercise? If you make a fetus more important than a woman carrying it, you basically are taking away the woman's right to be anything more than a incubator- a "machine for producing babies".

A FETUS IS NOT A PERSON! It has no more rights before being self-aware than a animal does, or a rock, for that matter. It can't think, it can't feel, it can't produce anything, so it does not deserve human rights. The fact that it might be sentient in the future is irrelevant.
 

Eri

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Chrono180 said:
Okay, pet peeve time.

You people saying that it should be illegal to drink while pregnant disgust me. The unborn have no rights. If you say that you shouldn't drink alcohol while pregnant, that opens up a HUGE can of worms about what other behaviors should be forbidden to pregnant women. How about smoking? How about dieting? How about exercise? If you make a fetus more important than a woman carrying it, you basically are taking away the woman's right to be anything more than a incubator- a "machine for producing babies".

A FETUS IS NOT A PERSON! It has no more rights before being self-aware than a animal does, or a rock, for that matter. It can't think, it can't feel, it can't produce anything, so it does not deserve human rights. The fact that it might be sentient in the future is irrelevant.
You seem to be ignoring the fact willfully drinking is endangering what will be a future human. Regardless of it being classified as human or not inside the womb, it will still be damaged from drinking and other idiotic behavior. If you choose to have a child, you should have to give these things up for the duration.
 

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Eri said:
You seem to be ignoring the fact willfully drinking is endangering what will be a future human. Regardless of it being classified as human or not inside the womb, it will still be damaged from drinking and other idiotic behavior. If you choose to have a child, you should have to give these things up for the duration.
I am ignoring that because it is IRRELEVANT! The mothers right to do what she wants with her body is more important than protecting fetuses from damage. "Future" humans don't have rights, only "present" humans do.
If you outlaw drinking while pregnant, where will it end? Will women be prevented from eating fatty foods? From driving? From holding a dangerous job? All those things have risk of damaging a fetus. If damaging a fetus is so bad, why should we permit the mentally ill to breed? Or how about political extremists, such as Neo-nazis? How about the religous, such as Catholics, that believe in things that aren't true? You seem to be arguing for a eugenics policy,
Also, you are assuming that people who are pregnant "choose" to have children. In reality, many children are accidental or caused by rape.
 

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Its someones body they can do what they want to it, its not "gods" like idiots would say and its not their parents like the law would say before their 18, its theirs, if they want to glue bits on and chop bits off and power to them.
 

Eri

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Chrono180 said:
Also, you are assuming that people who are pregnant "choose" to have children. In reality, many children are accidental or caused by rape.
She didn't abort it. Therefore, she chose it. Even if she had been raped (she hadn't) choosing to not abort, means you're choosing to have a child.

Chrono180 said:
The mothers right to do what she wants with her body is more important than protecting fetuses from damage.
You're sounding like someone who would try to justify just about anything to avoid having personal accountability.
 

Chrono180

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Eri said:
Chrono180 said:
Also, you are assuming that people who are pregnant "choose" to have children. In reality, many children are accidental or caused by rape.
She didn't abort it. Therefore, she chose it. Even if she had been raped (she hadn't) choosing to not abort, means you're choosing to have a child.

So, you are okay with aborting fetuses but not with letting the mother take risks while pregnant?

Chrono180 said:
The mothers right to do what she wants with her body is more important than protecting fetuses from damage.
You're sounding like someone who would try to justify just about anything to avoid having personal accountability.
No, but I am willing to justify just about anything to prevent women from being treated like property. Thats what this will lead to you know, women being unable to take any risk for fear of harming the baby.
 

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Meowshi said:
Yeah that kid having a terrible life is totally worth it just to give this woman a lesson!
Obviously if she's a god awful parent (bookies are already giving favourable odds) then the state should remove the child, my point was that if the kid is born disabled she shouldn't be able to pawn off her responsibilities because looking after her child would cut into her drinking time. It'd be her fault if the child was born with alcohol related problems so she should not be allowed to take the easy road out.
 

Bakuryukun

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ChaoticLegion said:
Bakuryukun said:
You SHOULD be able to do almost anything you want with your own body. But when you pregnant, it's not just YOUR body now is it?
Actually, by law yes it is just YOUR body. The fetus legally has no rights until it is born (the current legal deffinition of when life begins eg. killing of the fetus in the womb is not actionable as murder or manslaughter.

OT:
"It's my body, I can do what I want" is an argument for autonomy. I personally believe autonomy is one of the most valuable things in life and it is not up to the state to play the part of a paternalistic entity.

Now I will agree that this does become somewhat of a more complex debate when you bring into the equation an unborn child (which does not meet the legal deffinition of having life). The debate tackles the moral dilema of when life should be deemed to have started and, in that respect, when the fetus shall have rights of it's own enforcable over those of it's host (mother).

As I have stated, the current legal deffinition (in the UK) of when life begins is upon the birth of the baby, so as such, until this point, the fetus has no rights enforceable over the actions of it's mother. So whilst it may be a moral wrong for the mother to drink to excess, there is nothing, currently, illegal with regards to doing so.
The Law is not the issue, the fact that there is no law against drinking while pregnant, shows to me how painfully obvious it is to me that it should not be done. I should think it's a given. regardless of what the law says you are biologically a single entity with that baby up until conception, and so you should react accordingly, also once the baby IS born the mother can indeed be brought up on charges and have the child taken away.
 

Ca3zar416

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That definitely is taking it too far. That's causing harm to someone else not just yourself.
 
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distended said:
I've always loved this latter opinion. As though there's some magical life-endowing miracle that takes place in the seconds it takes for the baby to move a whopping foot and a half out of the womb...
I actually mentioned [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.271761-How-far-should-Its-my-body-I-can-do-what-I-want-go?page=4#10469836] (see under Biblical Personhood) the very magic that some presume takes place. The flip side is the magical life-endowing miracle that so many presume happens at conception (and then promptly fades out most of the time, usually due to implantation failure). This is why I prefer defining personhood as beginning with higher brain activity. But until people on both sides are willing to debate rationally the advantages of defining personhood at given points, the conversation is not going to progress very far.

Bakuryukun said:
You SHOULD be able to do almost anything you want with your own body. But when you pregnant, it's not just YOUR body now is it?
AndyFromMonday said:
It's no longer her body, is it? That body now houses another human being...
XxRyanxX said:
Exactly. You can do whatever you'd like for your body but since you're carrying a baby, you are endangering its life which can be very devastating.
tzimize said:
Basically this. While I support the womans right to drink herself into an early grave, I do not support slavery. She does not own the child, she is simply its caretaker. And she is not taking care of it.
MrDeckard said:
...if what you are doing to your body is effecting someone else, (like your unborn child) you should either abort it, or take care of it.
MikeOfThunder said:
[Quoting Bakuryukun, above] Word for word. Exactly right.
Eri said:
...willfully drinking is endangering what will be a future human...
etc, etc, etc...
The idea that we are responsible for the consequences of how we use our own property and how that affects others seems to be a common theme here, as is we are responsible for citizens of the future as well as the present.

So why should industry be allowed to exploit our natural resources, to pollute our air, strip our land and change our climate, knowing this creates immense a problem our future generations will have to resolve to survive? Similarly, how can we burn the credit of our nations knowing our children, and their children will have to pay them back? Here in the US, we were still paying for the cold war when the cost of the Iraq war and the federal bailout were heaped on. I didn't have any part in the cold war.

Vehicles are a statistically frequent cause of death (as well as polluting the environment). Should we not be regulated from using our cars when other forms of transit are equally effective (if less convenient)?

People who have authority over children (parents, teachers, emergency responders, etc.) can not only affect those children profoundly, shaping the outlook of their own futures, but also of their children and their futures. Abuse and dysfunction tends to be multi-generational. Should these not, thus, be the number one priority of our nations? Why should parents in abusive households be left to transfer the problem to the next generation? Why do we fail to recognize teachers of our children as one of the most profoundly long-reaching positions in our nations?

While we're at it, neonates, infants and toddlers are often left to the care of young adults who are generally uncertain of their own futures, let alone the best means to care for the next generation. The lives of these adults can be profoundly altered by shifts in the economy, which can cause their employment and incomes to change, and for which these people are unprepared. Should not their children be placed in institutions, in which lifestyle and routine are much more likely to remain consistent, and unaffected by tragedy and circumstance?

Eldarion said:
She felt comfortable having sex didn't she? She made the choice to get pregnant. She has no right to drown her child in alcohol because she is "feeling uncomfortable" about that choice. That child does not deserve to be born damaged because some dumb bimbo cannot use protection like a responsible adult.
That's pretty brutal. We actually do not know the circumstances of her conception, whether it was coerced, whether she is promiscuous, whether she is intelligent, whether she used protection. As far as we know, she was raped by her priest at confession and lives in a Catholic family. You don't know, Eldarion, but you presume, because that's what you imagine young women with unwanted pregnancies look like.

Here in the US, there are countless legal devices to obstruct a woman from having an abortion, not to mention an active and violent activism community who implement propaganda, intimidation, battery, terrorism, arson and assassination to deter procedures. We don't know what she has tried and was thwarted from doing.

Besides which, the human sex drive is compelling. If it wasn't, the human race would have died out millennia ago. It's only in our misogynistic, Abrahamic-influenced society that we pretend it is otherwise, and then we only blame the woman because she suffers the natural consequences of a coupling, regardless of who all were consensual participants.

238U.
 

Daverson

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What you're really touching on here, is the issue of:
"At what point does the a zygote become human"
So, how far from conception do we view the child as a member our of species, or, in laymans terms, how pregnant do you need to be before human rights apply to unborn child?

I mean, if you go with the "as soon as it could possibly be human", then that suggests that for men at least, masturbation is equivalent to murder. Likewise, if you go with the "as soon as a complete genetic structure is formed", then a lot of contraceptive methods are "murder".

Call me heartless, but I don't remeber it was like before I was born, so I don't think there's any real consciousness before birth. If someone wants to drink, smoke, do drugs and all that jazz before they give birth, let them. The hatred of their potential child, or the guilt of having killed them should be punishment enough.

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Xanian

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Seems fair to me. She'll be the one who has to raise the child...she'll be the one who has to cope with her own alcoholism.
If only, LOL.

Chances are if the child is born with FAS, the child will be abandoned by the mother or has to be taken away by the state, ending up in an institution or adopted. And then, of course, Mommy will be free to boink some more people, grab some more drink, and plop out more children that she has permanently fucked up before they even open their eyes (*). Even if she stayed with the child, she is not likely to pay any significant portion of what the child's health care will end up costing.

The estimated cost of an average FAS person to the taxpayers - that is, how much we pay for Mommy's god-given right to drink while having sex without birth control - is in the region of $1 million USD. I did a quick search and saw estimates between $800,000 and $1.5 million.
Sure, the kid could have a better life if it isn't born with a malformed brain, but I don't think it will truly understand the difference either way.
Wrong. FAS causes a wide range of disabilities. The most high-functioning people with FAS are even able to hold jobs. Most of them will understand what their mothers did, and what kinds of things they are unable to do that are expected of a normal person.

http://pregnancy.emedtv.com/fetal-alcohol-syndrome/living-with-fetal-alcohol-syndrome.html

(*) Not hyperbole. Women really do get themselves pregnant and drink even after having already birthed one or more FAS children.
I understand what FAS is...I've worked with people with FAS. I'm not saying they don't understand anything is wrong, I'm saying they don't really understand that their quality of life is less so than others. I've met some who were quite happy...actually. And of all of them I worked with...they were almost all cared for by their parents or family members. Yes, they got federal aid...but a lot of people get federal aid for being crippling alcoholics and drug addicts too.

We can strongly discourage what she does...just like we can strongly discourage binge drinking and having unprotected sex. People will still do it to the detriment of themselves and others. We can't protect people from themselves without causing a very dangerous line...and we can't keep ever addict/ alcoholic from procreating.
 

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Nigh Invulnerable said:
Valiard said:
oh everyone just calm the hell down, seriously people have been drinking for ages if something is gonna go wrong then its gonna go wrong irregardless, maybe you guys wouldnt freak out so much if you read a bit more history. >.>
Maybe you wouldn't use the "word" "irregardless" if you studied English some more. Because people "back then" did it we can justify doing it now? Bring back the witch burnings and racial lynchings!

OT: I think she deserves some kind of punishment. Have CPS take the baby away at birth, prosecute the mother for willful endangerment, something. At 6.5 months that baby could potentially survive outside the womb (not with good odds) so I figure she's harming another human being by her actions.
1. Irregardless is the nonstandard form of regardless, deal.
2. Slippery Slope much?
3. If the lady wants to drink let her if somthing goes wrong thats on her, if you are so concerned about FAS read up on it. Here i will even give you a link http://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/arh25-3/168-174.htm

also stop wasting the govts time with this bs they are not here to babysit us.