How has society shaped you?

[DrgoFx]

I got to thinking after some childhood dumpster diving with my girlfriend, and I realized why I stopped being a nice, sweet guy and became...well...an asshole. Aside from my closest friends and my soul mate, I am probably right up there in the rudest of people. I have boundaries though, respecting those of higher authority to me and I try not to start anything. But once someone starts it, I'm not just going to let it slide.

But, going back to the sudden shift in personality, I used to be a really sweet kid. I didn't wrong anyone, I was nice to whoever I met and always tried to stay positive. But from how my life was, all that did was present me with "friends" I couldn't count on, got me picked on for being a "gay-pussy-******" and no girl wanted to go out with me. With that kind of treatment, it's really no wonder I turned out how I am today.

But what really ticks me off is how I'm trying to change for the better, just for the sake of my girlfriend because as it is, I can't be with her when she's with her friends without either of us being judged or ridiculed. Even her family disapproves of me. But to those that know me, she's the perfect girl for me. The problem is, every time I attempt to be that nice sweet guy I am under the hardened shell of rudeness, I'm shown exactly why that shell is there in the first place. No matter how nice I am, no matter how polite I am, no matter or respective I am, they just try to tick me off. I put up with it, just absorbing the blows they take, but at times I do just snap.

I honestly wanted to vent this out right away, but after thinking through this post I figured why not get the escapist's input? We're all fairly diverse people, why not see how the world has shaped us? How it made us different and how we have adapted to what we've been shown.

 

[pilouuuu]

I can understand your point of view. I have always tried to be polite and kind, but society makes it hard for you being like that. If anything society made more scared of people, especially after being bullied as a child for being from another country and not liking sports. I think the influence of society is mostly bad, but I have tried to not let my surrounding influence me too much, so I got to learn English on my own and I try to have more independant thinking and a richer imagination than most of the people that surrounds me. I think that what society tries to do is to make all of us the same and identical, with no personality whatsoever and it's our personal duty to fight against that.

My advice to you is that if the place that you live or the people that surround you makes you become rude, try to fight it, by being extra polite or if you really want to be rude, be rude, but only because you decided, not because other people forced you to be like that. If it doesn't work out, then try to move to another place that's not full of idiots, if possible. Always try to be a better person for you, your girlfriend and the people that is worth it.

 

[Keoul]

I hate everyone

Society has certainly shown it's "true colours" to me and it's definitely made me a very hateful person. Fortunately being the strange person I am, I just bottle all this hate and masquerade around as a generally nice guy all the time. Helping strangers and friends alike even if I secretly hate their guts.

It's mostly relationships that made me so hateful, never been in one myself but just hearing those stories of human betrayal and all that junk just makes my blood boil

 

[White Lightning]

I hate everything everywhere at everytime.

 

[Eddie the head]

People suck. Individuals don't. Seriously as a group I hate republicans but my best friend is one. As a group people form my high school sucked, but on there own merits they where alright. As a group star wars fans are the most annoying thing on the planet, by them self's they can be fun.

 

[FalloutJack]

Society doesn't shape me. I shape me. Proven by the fact that I did NOT go on a murderous rampage in middle school.

 

[Vault101]

society...hmmmm

well society certainly didnt break me, due to me having alot of provalige in life..
...perhaps I tend to keep to myself...but to be hoenst thats just me probably

honestly you can only blame/get mad at society to a certian extent, your still in control of some things

 

[Thaluikhain]

Impossible to say, I've got no non-societied me to compare with.

People love pretending that society only affects everyone that isn't them, which obviously isn't true, but then again, they love using it as an excuse for what they do.

This is always and awkward issue, leads into discussions of blame and censorship and so on.

 

[Frybird]

I didn't care much for the things around me, and as such society moved away while i wasn't paying attention and only now i feel like i'm being locked out.

Then again i don't really feel like rekindling with it either.

I guess we are on good speaking terms, but we only contact each other rarely.

 

[NoeL]

It's mostly relationships that made me so hateful, never been in one myself but just hearing those stories of human betrayal and all that junk just makes my blood boil

Stop living vicariously through others. Never has the phrase "get a life" been more appropriate.

 

[Keoul]

It's mostly relationships that made me so hateful, never been in one myself but just hearing those stories of human betrayal and all that junk just makes my blood boil

Stop living vicariously through others. Never has the phrase "get a life" been more appropriate.

Let me elaborate a bit more. Having to help friends calm down after a bad relationship and hearing all the crap people do has made me pretty pessimistic on the whole relationship thing. Not to mention I don't see how getting a life is relavent? Simplifying "living" into just getting a girlfriend seems extremely shallow

 

[Keoul]

It's mostly relationships that made me so hateful, never been in one myself but just hearing those stories of human betrayal and all that junk just makes my blood boil

Stop living vicariously through others. Never has the phrase "get a life" been more appropriate.

Let me elaborate a bit more. Having to help friends calm down after a bad relationship and hearing all the crap people do has made me pretty pessimistic on the whole relationship thing. Not to mention I don't see how getting a life is relavent? Simplifying "living" into just getting a girlfriend seems extremely shallow

Also, society makes me realize that I cannot tell this person what they might be doing wrong without me once more becoming a target and said person being a victim.

speak your mind as long as you have some form of reasoning behind it don't feel victimized >.>

 

[OldRat]

No man can claim to have not been shaped by his surroundings. The society shapes you, either by attraction or repulsion, and much of anyone is the product of his time and place. I won't give any examples of myself, since that feels like trying to explain a lake by describing drops of water.

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

Society has made me realise that I don't really like socialising all that much. It's made me rather cynical and pessimistic, while simultaneously giving me a kind of 'Que Sera, Sera' attitude that puts me a bit more at ease with it.

People suck. Individuals don't.

Also that, society has definately taught me that.

 

[Keoul]

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Now you're having a biased opinion, I always try to get both sides of the story and act/react with reason, relationships is just one of the main reasons why I dislike people, probably since it's all my friends talk about (society) these days and it's shaped me like this.