How has society shaped you?

[sora8021]

I would say that Society has shaped me for the better actually. When I was a child I lived with my mother for a good 5 to 7 years, during that time I lived in slums, where I was taught to deceive, cheat, and manipulate my way through life. But then when my father and mother moved back in, I lived three years with both of them, then we moved to a different state. When we came back, my father wanted my mother to work so she could help pay bills, but she could never keep a job. During this time she also called me out of school a lot and offered to pretty much everyday. I was starting to knotting she wasn't the best role model for me, and over time I grew to detest her for her corruptness ways on me and her bad influence. After that I started to get a real nice group of friends who are friends, where I can be myself and state my opinion on anything, and not fear them hating me for it. A kind, accepting, and funny group of friends. I also am really kind , nice, helpful, and all that. But outside of being helpful, seeing as how I was 'evil' in my past, I have gotten a infamous labeling in my school. Pretty much everyone in my grade at least knows me, and I can do and say what I want without fear of being bullied. But I choose to live a good life, and I rather help others, fix problems, learn, have good deep conversations with others, and generally have good fun. Oh yeah, I also have firm believes in equality, fairness, and everyone is equal and have a burning hatred for, well, hatred, or more to say prejudice.

 

[sora8021]

I would say that Society has shaped me for the better actually. When I was a child I lived with my mother for a good 5 to 7 years, during that time I lived in slums, where I was taught to deceive, cheat, and manipulate my way through life. But then when my father and mother moved back in, I lived three years with both of them, then we moved to a different state. When we came back, my father wanted my mother to work so she could help pay bills, but she could never keep a job. During this time she also called me out of school a lot and offered to pretty much everyday. I was starting to knotting she wasn't the best role model for me, and over time I grew to detest her for her corruptness ways on me and her bad influence. After that I started to get a real nice group of friends who are friends, where I can be myself and state my opinion on anything, and not fear them hating me for it. A kind, accepting, and funny group of friends. I also am really kind , nice, helpful, and all that. But outside of being helpful, seeing as how I was 'evil' in my past, I have gotten a infamous labeling in my school. Pretty much everyone in my grade at least knows me, and I can do and say what I want without fear of being bullied. But I choose to live a good life, and I rather help others, fix problems, learn, have good deep conversations with others, and generally have good fun. Oh yeah, I also have firm believes in equality, fairness, and everyone is equal and have a burning hatred for, well, hatred, or more to say prejudice.

 

[sora8021]

I would say that Society has shaped me for the better actually. When I was a child I lived with my mother for a good 5 to 7 years, during that time I lived in slums, where I was taught to deceive, cheat, and manipulate my way through life. But then when my father and mother moved back in, I lived three years with both of them, then we moved to a different state. When we came back, my father wanted my mother to work so she could help pay bills, but she could never keep a job. During this time she also called me out of school a lot and offered to pretty much everyday. I was starting to knotting she wasn't the best role model for me, and over time I grew to detest her for her corruptness ways on me and her bad influence. After that I started to get a real nice group of friends who are friends, where I can be myself and state my opinion on anything, and not fear them hating me for it. A kind, accepting, and funny group of friends. I also am really kind , nice, helpful, and all that. But outside of being helpful, seeing as how I was 'evil' in my past, I have gotten a infamous labeling in my school. Pretty much everyone in my grade at least knows me, and I can do and say what I want without fear of being bullied. But I choose to live a good life, and I rather help others, fix problems, learn, have good deep conversations with others, and generally have good fun. Oh yeah, I also have firm believes in equality, fairness, and everyone is equal and have a burning hatred for, well, hatred, or more to say prejudice.

 

[Queen Michael]

My mom, grandmother and aunt (both maternal) taught me to be generous towards my friends, and my horrible dad made me hate men and become a cross-dresser.

 

[Phasmal]

Frankly I'm a little disappointed, I thought we got past this whole "I hate society and I'm a jaded cynical intellectual" phase months ago. More often that not it seems that hating society is way for people to cover up their insecurities and feel superior to other people. Generally once you get know them most people are awesome, everyone has their flaws of course but that just keeps it interesting.

I dont know, quite a few people are saying while they recognise the impact their surroundings have made, it's not an excuse. I dont really think society makes you act in a way, but it can make you react in a way, and its your (I'm using a general you, not you you, I always get people misunderstanding this) job to change or control aspects you don't like.

 

[krazykidd]

Society has turned me into a asocial shut in . I hate dealing with people ( as individuals and as a group). I see people as sheep following what ever trend that is all the rage. I can't say society has turned me into an asshole , because i am an asshole , but society has turned me into a hypocrite.

 

[wintercoat]

Since society deemed several decades ago that fat people, people with glasses, and the poor are to be ridiculed and made fun of, and I fit into all three categories, it has taught me to hate pretty much everyone and that the human race should be nuked from orbit, as it's the only way to be sure.

 

[JoJo]

Frankly I'm a little disappointed, I thought we got past this whole "I hate society and I'm a jaded cynical intellectual" phase months ago. More often that not it seems that hating society is way for people to cover up their insecurities and feel superior to other people. Generally once you get know them most people are awesome, everyone has their flaws of course but that just keeps it interesting.

I dont know, quite a few people are saying while they recognise the impact their surroundings have made, it's not an excuse. I dont really think society makes you act in a way, but it can make you react in a way, and its your (I'm using a general you, not you you, I always get people misunderstanding this) job to change or control aspects you don't like.

You're right, my post was a little bit of a slowpoke. I'm writing an assignment while flicking back to the Escapist every now and again and since I hadn't refreshed the thread for a long while before I got around to actually finishing up the post, SamuelT's post was the last one I saw before I hit the post button. It's refreshing to see that after Sam's post the tone of thread changed to a more positive note, constant misanthropism can get really annoying after a while.

 

[Kiyotaki]

I wouldn't really say that society has shaped me into the human I am now, maybe I'd go with "influenced"
Since Living happens to everyone and its "Challenges" tend to change people into who they are today a little bit or too much.
I'm sure that I can say wholeheartedly that society had some sort of impact on everyone in some terrible or wonderful way.
This is considering that by "society" forms of media counts as well.

 

[Verzin]

There was a time where I was something of a romantic. I seem to remember that I was a disturbingly sweet kid, though painfully shy. It's odd looking back. I'm so uncomfortable around people now Its hard to believe I used to enjoy it.
Most of my 'shaping' came from high school. I started watching the people around me who I most disliked and trying to relate to them. I found that I could relate, but I hated what I saw of them in myself: glamorized stupidity, willful ignorance, and gleeful cruelty.

the more I watched them, the more I started to understand 'truly' judging others was a pointless and completely ridiculous fallacy. We all have these aspects to us. under different circumstances, We're all capable of doing things we hate or hold in contempt now.

Eventually, I just got sick of it. Did everything I could to ignore how much this disturbed me.

I became a misanthrope. I just hated everyone. there was a period of about 2 years during my junior and senior years of high school where I was so sick of everyone around me, I didn't talk to anyone unless they talked to me, and then I'd verbally Rip them apart.

Still do, really. Hate talking to people physically, and I tend to punish those who try. there has been one notable change in the last year since I graduated. Most of the hate I used to have for others has been internalized, and I find I see myself with a similar, if not more profound disgust.

 

[Keoul]

You missed a d.

haha thanks I didn't see that XD

Ah, but if I believe you or not is irrelevant. What (for lack of a better term) should be important to you is the WHY. And yes, I'm talking about romantic relationships, as we have been doing so the entire time and you know this.

It's an irrelevant topic because it's something I can't discuss with you since you'd just assume I'd be lieing and we wouldn't really get anywhere.

Essentially, I don't believe that you want to know how I have come to my conclusions so that you can look at this small piece of your being and perhaps understand me. Your reactions thus far lead me to believe that you want to know as to defend yourself, to be able to argue against what I am saying. It's simply the difference between realizing something about yourself and defending yourself from criticism that you know to be valid. Not that I'm saying that I am really critizing you or that it is valid, that's just how your reaction is coming across to me.

I may have come off a bit aggressive but this is just how I act like in discussions when I don't agree with the other person. The whole defending myself is pretty silly . If there is something wrong with me then I'm willing to change it, right now you're just saying that I'm (forgot the word but) "living through someone else's eyes" and letting their experiences change my opinion of things. I'm just taking their experience of things into account though it may be playing too big a part in my decision making around this.

could be a form of self defense. In other words, I think that maybe you have other, related, reasons to think so. Maybe you lack self-esteem, maybe you have problems talking to women or men (whatever floats your boat) and are looking for a reason to avoid it instead of working on the actual issue.

Maybe you have confidence issuses, maybe you're a closeted homosexual

Haha let me just say I'm straight and let's keep it that way no swinging over to the assumption I'm gay please XD
I don't really have problems talking to people, I mean I use to be ridiculously shy when I was kid but I'm pretty confident now. I can talk to girls without getting all blushed and embarrassed even if they're complete strangers, but that doesn't mean I go out looking for a relationship.
Personally I don't want a relationship right now :L It's nice n all with all that companionship, having someone to talk to, etc etc. But right now I have other things to focus on such as work and school, It just doesn't seem so appealing when I hear these stories of how badly they went and right now I just don't think they're worth the trouble. But hey the heart wants what the heart wants to despite all that I'm still pursuing someone, not that it'll matter much but if you've been in a relationship you'd know how you get all stupid and think emotionally when you're with someone you like.
Incase you use this to say "oh yes he made a contradiction thar score one for me!" I meant that logically I don't want a relationship, too time consuming and risky. However there is someone out there that just makes me forget about all that the instant we talk.

Also, if you really are interested in this, then I do have to ask why you are now trying to take my focus off of you.

I was just curious as to why I was the focus of your supposed wrath when there were plenty of people around with similar problems to me.

So, if your buddy says his Girlfriend was always just a insufferable ***** for no reason whatsoever, why would you believe that?

Actually, it's the girls I have to talk to. Most of the time it's about them trying to pursue someone(generally a stupid guy) and it not working out well or something like that since the guy is being an idiot.
A buddy of mine(guy this time) had his GF cheat on him before breaking up, meeting him in person and giving him a letter apologising. Everyone in our little group of friends read the letter. What's the point to go through so much effort to talk about someone behind their backs? The handwriting was different from him as well(incase you say he forged it :3) It was ridiculously neat and tidy which you'd know is the complete opposite of the handwriting of most guys.

And I am certainly not a perfect person and there would be plenty to say about myself, you however have neither asked, nor would I talk about it until we have atleast come to some kind of conclussion with what we have already been discussing.

I never asked because I didn't want this discussion too personal for the both of us and start sharing these things on the internet, the land where everything is never really deleted.
I just don't come to the same conclusion as you because you're generalising me with everyone else you "treated" (lack of better term <.<). You never asked about my confidence or self-esteem, You just assumed these things and never asked for the facts.

hoo boy this discussion is getting pretty big XD

 

[C F]

Since I was a very shy child, I cleanly dodged most social interaction through elementary and middle school. I started to open up through the seventh and eighth grades. Skipped 'proper' (lawl) high-school in lieu of a blend of home-schooling and dual-enrolled college courses. As a result, I remain largely untouched by society and am very much an optimistic little kid at heart.

 

[RustlessPotato]

Well i have become bitter and disillusioned with society over time. But i'm still amazed and in awe that we have had the chance to exist in this amazing Universe. I'm bitter because I see where we are now and where we could've been were it not for the stupidity of people. I am bitter that in the grand scale of things, we don't matter, why not make it pleasant for us as a tiny species ? Make things matter for us.

I love my earth and my society, but with the recent things such as Pipa/Acta, when I look at other countries that don't have the same level of comfort that I have, hell even in my own country people are homeless, when I see people being corrupted by money, when I see people not caring about other people, when acts of generosity and kindness are news and exception instead of something common that all people do, when people kill other people for reasons such as money, religion, I just don't recognise my earth anymore.

And then i play some blues and have a beer.

 

[Necron_warrior]

Its shaped me to think of people as things, instead of better than any other thing.

I now wear psychological masks to hide the truth and use charisma to win people over, combined with the facts and statistics to persuade them to my point of view.

So, yeah. I think I'm doing better

 

[370999]

Impossible to say. How has society not shaped me? And this goes for everyone in this thread, you are made into what you are now you were not born that way, very very very little is genetically decided. Culture and Society have much more influence then you can imagine. Even those chanting that they are different from those "sheeple" are wrong in that how they determine what is the norm i.e what is it that they are rebelling against, is based on society.

At it's most basic level, what did people get changed into this morning when they went out? Jeans and t-shirt probably? Most of us didn't even think about it but that is a societal norm which we follow without question

 

[BlumiereBleck]

Todays? society never shaped me. It is always a society of the past that shapes me and who I am.

 

[Hyper-space]

I lived in Denmark, Copenhagen to be precise, among a neighborhood with a sizable muslim-minority (along with some Buddhist folk). This shaped my perception of religion in a way that lead me to skepticism, for how was I to tell which religion was the right one when they both claim to be so?

This also shaped my perception of race and immigration, as I quickly learned that idiots and shit people come in all forms and colors and that a good upbringing is more important in determining how the individual will grow up to be.

When I look back, I am grateful that I grew up in this situation, as its colored my perception of people and how brushing everyone off as an "idiot" or (ugh) "sheeple" is incredibly stupid.