How important do you consider sex?

[LogicNProportion]

As a 17 year old boy with a hormone disorder where my body lets out more testosterone than it rightly should, I think about sex ALL THE TIME. However, due to what I like to think of myself having a strong will, I am able to control those urges, and outright kill them when need be. Case and point, I don't masturbate. EVER.

Sex appeal or the sexual culture we live in can be fun, but it can also be overly annoying. It's unfortunately spawned many a neanderthal who only thinks about it, and many a slut who has it control her lifestyle. Do I like to see some leg? Sure thing, whether it be in TV, real life, movies, etc. However, when ti gets too skimpy, I just feel a bit odd. Sex to me is intimate and for private moments with your beloved. Advertising all around town, male or female, is a surefire way to get away from my good graces.

Finally, for how much sex is important to me in a relationship? While it's fun, and damn is it so much fun...nothing beats a movie night while she's wearing a shirt and sweatpants, as we cuddle.

 

[SimuLord]

As a 17 year old boy with a hormone disorder where my body lets out more testosterone than it rightly should, I think about sex ALL THE TIME. However, due to what I like to think of myself having a strong will, I am able to control those urges, and outright kill them when need be. Case and point, I don't masturbate. EVER.

Sex appeal or the sexual culture we live in can be fun, but it can also be overly annoying. It's unfortunately spawned many a neanderthal who only thinks about it, and many a slut who has it control her lifestyle. Do I like to see some leg? Sure thing, whether it be in TV, real life, movies, etc. However, when ti gets too skimpy, I just feel a bit odd. Sex to me is intimate and for private moments with your beloved. Advertising all around town, male or female, is a surefire way to get away from my good graces.

Finally, for how much sex is important to me in a relationship? While it's fun, and damn is it so much fun...nothing beats a movie night while she's wearing a shirt and sweatpants, as we cuddle.

You're a mighty mighty man, you're young and you're in your prime...

 

[Koroviev]

Sexy time is good. However, I'm severely allergic to long-term commitment.

 

[Koroviev]

I don't think sex is important at all. Actually, I think it's overrated.

Also, I can't miss what I'll never experience.

Okay, I'll bite. Why?

 

[default]

Well, sex is a beautiful, beautiful thing. It is SO badly represented in Western society. Sex is called 'dirty'...

How the fuck is physically expressing your love for someone dirty?

I always want to keep my sex meaningful. No one-night-stand drunken ruts for me. I like to actually love and deeply care about the girl, otherwise the sex is just for chemical spurts.

Sex without romance is meaningless.

Sex + Romance + The Right Time = The best feeling in this life. Ever.

Sex for us humans is so much more than to just continue the species. It's a way of exploring and deepening this concept of love almost all of us have.

Western society, especially the media, act towards sex like 13 year olds these days. 'OMG LOOK, sex!!!!' They all scream in unision. 'Think of the children!' We all scream back.

And it gets lodged in our socialisation, then our perception of sex is screwed. Ignore the pun.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

I'm decidedly "Meh" about the issue right now.

If a hot girl jumps in my lap, then sure, I might... but I wouldn't go chasing after it either.

In the same boat at the moment.

 

[Tdc2182]

I enjoy it. I can survive without it and generally don't care about the "social teen" aspect behind it, but I do like it.

 

[Tetranitrophenol]

Sex= the generator of will to continue doing anything that I do in my miserable life.

no sex, no life

 

[blue.blink]

Now is this topic "How important do I consider sex" to what?

Continuation of the species? Obviously there is not enough laboratories to replace the amount of people dying to have enough test tube babies. So I would say it is important if you have the stance of wanting humans continuing to exist. Which I for one am for. (Go team human!)

Importance in relationships? I don't believe men and women can have any sort of relationship without sex being involved or at least one or the other thinking about having it with the other. I've been on both sides of that issue.

I'm not going to comment on the number of sexual partners I've had since I lost my virginity (would feel like bragging). For myself when I meet a new girl that is even remotely attractive to me I will make a move to have sex with her, sometimes for fun, sometimes for more.

To me, sex is fun. Sex brings more to my relationships with women. Sex to me feels amazing and I'm damn good at it.

 

[Whitenail]

The act of sex, well I'm sure it's a good, fun way to express your love to someone and not terrifically important. Casual sex I can't really see the appeal in, I mean aren't fireworks better when they're rare and in celebration of something?

As for the purpose of sex, I'm physically unable to bear children so I can't really say.

-Snip-

You're a mighty mighty man, you're young and you're in your prime...

He don't pick his jobs he's ready for any old kind...

 

[Tibike77]

I believe that we like to think that there are higher reasons for sex, but I don't believe there are. What we do is not as special as we like to think it is. I'm not even going to adress your points, because your argument is so disjointed that it "fails spectacularly." You basically said that my opinion is wrong because you do not share it.

Who said anything about higher reasons ? Quite the opposite, actually.
Selfish reasons, hedonistic reasons, maybe emotional blackmail ammo or as the reward in a carrot-and-stick approach, to kill boredom, and so on and so forth.
NONE of which are purely "for the perpetuation of the species".

What exactly was so disjointed about my argument anyway ?
If sex would ONLY serve for reproduction and absolutely nothing else, then explain contraceptives and non-heterosexual sex, both of which IMPEDE reproduction, so only somebody that wanted to have sex WITHOUT reproducing would ever even think about any of those things, therefore sex MUST serve some other purpose except the perpetuation of the species.
Unless you go ahead and claim EVERYTHING we do is ultimately for the perpetuation of the species, if you split the hair enough times and omit whatever's not convenient for your argument, then yeah, you might just about manage to almost be right.

 

[SFR]

I'm decidedly "Meh" about the issue right now.

If a hot girl jumps in my lap, then sure, I might... but I wouldn't go chasing after it either.

What if she was fat but had like six tits!

Holy crap, this post was ran-FUCKING-dom. I like posting impulsive made responses. We as a species should do it daily.

 

[ninjajoeman]

whoo were two puzzle pieces that fit together akwardly! go humanity!

 

[Gaz6231]

I like to do things I'm really, really good at, so for me it is about as important as painting or cooking scrambled eggs with onions in them.

 

[SimuLord]

whoo were two puzzle pieces that fit together akwardly! go humanity!

Fit together awkwardly? You're doing it wrong.

 

[imperialwar]

well there lot of self righteous ppl: oh no i dont need sex it isnt important...
im the polar oposite then, i have a biological and psychological need for sex. any longer then 2weeks with out it and my brain turns to mush. I would be interested to participate in a study as im sure my actual IQ drops a few notches without it. I become distracted and moody.
And there is only so many times i can play happy slappy before i need the real thing.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

It's pleasurable. It's also a handy vehicle for giving pleasure to someone you care about. It can be intimate. It can make you feel vulnerable. It can make you feel powerful. It can make you feel sexy and competent. It's also true that a lot of it depends on the understanding that you and your partner bring to sex, not just mechanically, but in terms of patience and empathy.

I'd say sex, when you know what you're doing and trust who you're doing it with, is a good thing. Is it important? Depends on what you mean. Is it essential to a healthy, long term relationship? Eh, probably not. Is it a potentially meaningful, shared experience? Yeah, it can be. I'd say that's important.

I think the problem with the representation of sex in the media is it's portrayed in a very limited, inadequate way. It's often limited to: "Do you think this is hot? Do you? Look! Sex! Sex-sex-sex!" The problem with, say, porn, is that there's more a focus on arousal and titillation of the viewers (which isn't, in and of itself, a bad thing) than the actual emotions and shared pleasure of the participants. It's not very often that sex in media is explored as more than showmanship.

You might remember this quote from Pulp Fiction: "It's unfortunate what we find pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is seldom the same." That's about half the problem.

 

[astrav1]

As a 17 year old boy with a hormone disorder where my body lets out more testosterone than it rightly should, I think about sex ALL THE TIME. However, due to what I like to think of myself having a strong will, I am able to control those urges, and outright kill them when need be. Case and point, I don't masturbate. EVER.

Sex appeal or the sexual culture we live in can be fun, but it can also be overly annoying. It's unfortunately spawned many a neanderthal who only thinks about it, and many a slut who has it control her lifestyle. Do I like to see some leg? Sure thing, whether it be in TV, real life, movies, etc. However, when ti gets too skimpy, I just feel a bit odd. Sex to me is intimate and for private moments with your beloved. Advertising all around town, male or female, is a surefire way to get away from my good graces.

Finally, for how much sex is important to me in a relationship? While it's fun, and damn is it so much fun...nothing beats a movie night while she's wearing a shirt and sweatpants, as we cuddle.

You're a mighty mighty man, you're young and you're in your prime...

Damn straight, we have ourselves a great man here.

 

[Kevlar Eater]

I don't think sex is important at all. Actually, I think it's overrated.

Also, I can't miss what I'll never experience.

Okay, I'll bite. Why?

The media and society in turn, place too much "importance" on sex. Like taxes, it's everywhere; TV, adverts, people freely discussing it openly just about anyplace I go. In the US, it's basically a rite of passage to (wo)manhood. Nowadays, people treat those who have yet to have sex (without having to resort to prostitution) as creeps, stalkers, pariahs and other unsavory things (this goes double for men, due to the bullshit that is double standards).