Crimson King said:
I think that 3 people (that means 4 people in a group, counting you) is about as far as you can go.
Any more than that and you'll run out of things for people to do.
I had to laugh on this one. Crimson King, you naughty boy. Lol.
Dirty Apple said:
When I was still in the dating scene, I followed three sacred rules:
1.Never think about who you could be with when you're committed to someone already.
2.Never talk about your past relationships, unless your partner specifically asks about them.
3.Never, under any circumstances, ask about their sexual past, unless they want to talk about it.
Of these rules, I believed that the third one was the most essential. Simply put, their past belonged to them and had no bearing on our present. What I would like to know is whether I'm alone in this assertion, or is there a valid reason to snoop into your significant other's past exploits? And, after having asked the big question, what number would have to be given in order to shut your relationship down?
Not talking about the past doesnt seem a good move to me. If it brakes the relationship its because it was never meant to be. They way you put things makes me think you always go for a serious relationship (in the way, you want to make it last). At the moment I go for a casual one and see how it goes from there (actually at the moment I am in a serious relationship that started as a casual, even supposed to be what I hate most, a one night stand). But the past is important for both of us, and I just learned it.
Specially if you and your partner just came out of a very special relationship, it will affect your beginnings, as its not easy to forget a love that failed. In moments of rage, when arguing, you may find yourself blaming or being blamed by things that dont make sense, and if u notice and explore it you can find u are still "paying" or making pay for the mistake of your previous partner or her/his previous partner.
So I think its important to know about these things to understand best the other person and how to act in certain circunstances. One extreme example. If your girl was raped before, she might fill embarassed to talk about it, but an attempt for sex in certain circunstances might trigger rejection and you wont understand why.
More common example, the girl might have bad experiences with previous boyfriends that used to "abandon" her in crucial situations to go out with friends, get drunk or something like that. An important change came up, she tries to reach you, you by some reason have your mobile off, or silent, and cant pick it up or dont even notice till late. When you finally reach her she comes mad at you, blaming you from not being there when she needed and you dont understand cause you always do your best to give her support and think she gone mad or she is actually too possessive about you. When she is just reacting to something she is bused to happen, and she thinks your just another like the previous ones. And you thinking she is mad or possessive are reacting in a similar way as ur ex or many of ur ex were probably bitchy and too demanding.
As for your main question I think from what I read in your post this has nothing to do with too many partners or not. If you at a point in your life enjoy just one night stands you can end up collecting hundreds or even thousands of partners over a long period, as you could have fallen in love buy the perfect person in your teenage-hood and end up having that only partner for the rest of your life. Depends on each person.
I could sugest you would made a poll instead with intervals of the number of total partners as people will have totally diferent opinions. Myself, I think I would be impressed with figures above 100 but still wouldnt make a diference in the continuity of our relationship if the person was worthand made me happy.
