How many sexual partners is too many?

[Dirty Apple]

When I was still in the dating scene, I followed three sacred rules:

1.Never think about who you could be with when you're committed to someone already.
2.Never talk about your past relationships, unless your partner specifically asks about them.
3.Never, under any circumstances, ask about their sexual past, unless they want to talk about it.

Of these rules, I believed that the third one was the most essential. Simply put, their past belonged to them and had no bearing on our present. What I would like to know is whether I'm alone in this assertion, or is there a valid reason to snoop into your significant other's past exploits? And, after having asked the big question, what number would have to be given in order to shut your relationship down?

 

[PrimoThePro]

Well, I don't see a reason to find out. They're with me now, and there must be some reason I started dating them.
If I did ask, I wouldn't care about the number. If it's 500, then um... that's nice? Just means she has alot... ALOT... Of experience.

 

[Ophiuchus]

Doesn't matter, as long as they were responsible about it and are not cheating on me. History is history.

 

[Gadzooks]

From my experience, the less known about these things the better. The more you know, the more questions you want to ask, or maybe I'm just a knowledge hound. Some things are better left a mystery.

The last two women I've been with, the number has been 7 and 9 respectively. Those numbers don't make me uneasy, but I still wish it had never been brought up because I'd prefer not to know, now that I do... If that makes sense.

 

[Always_Remain]

No more then three and even then it's kind of weird. I guess it's some kind of sub-conscious dominance thing. Maybe I'm just really weird.

Plus I don't like sluts. At all. I'm a hopeless romantic and I still believe in that ancient value called love. And that silly thing called Making Love, not ROUGH FUCKING IN A BATHROOM STALL AT THREE O' CLOCK IN THE MOURN. Sleeping with like 15 dudes doesn't give me a very "loving" vibe. It's like "HEY I LIKE DICK. HOW ABOUT I RIDE YOURS?"

Don't really like knowing anyways, I'd rather not be compared to anyone.

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

The only important sex questions with a relationship are: have you had any STDs? When was the last time you were tested? Do you have any children? The number stuff is BS and personally what's in the past is in the past. Asking about all the stuff your partner has done is only going to open a nasty can of worms

 

[Skinny Razor]

When I was still in the dating scene, I followed three sacred rules:

1.Never think about who you could be with when you're committed to someone already.
2.Never talk about your past relationships, unless your partner specifically asks about them.
3.Never, under any circumstances, ask about their sexual past, unless they want to talk about it.

Of these rules, I believed that the third one was the most essential. Simply put, their past belonged to them and had no bearing on our present. What I would like to know is whether I'm alone in this assertion, or is there a valid reason to snoop into your significant other's past exploits? And, after having asked the big question, what number would have to be given in order to shut your relationship down?

You can't do anything about anybody's past, so why even rip open that vein? Besides, my only concern about the past is how it affects them emotionally and physically right now.

 

[lacktheknack]

Two.

Yeah, I'm one of those freaks who actually believes in virginity until marriage. Don't try to convince me otherwise, people have already tried (and failed).

 

[Crimson King]

I think that 3 people (that means 4 people in a group, counting you) is about as far as you can go.
Any more than that and you'll run out of things for people to do.

 

[Shockolate]

When it comes to amount, it doesn't really matter to me. If it's just casual sex, that's fine, if they enjoy sex, let them enjoy it, I won't judge.

But if it comes to a serious relationship, IE Cheating with a bunch of other girls, I do not approve. Especially if they all love you.

Yes I'm looking at YOU Makoto Itou.

"GOD I HATE THAT GUY!"
-Eric Cartman

 

[Aerodyamic]

I think that 4 people (in the group as a whole) is about as far as you can go.
Any more than that and you'll run out of things for people to do.

Well, I guess I'm going to hell, since I've had a lot more than 4 sexual partners. A LOT more.

At any rate, I'm going to vote that if you don't have any STD's, haven't randomly been impregnating (or getting impregnated) and then flaking out on the child (or children), and you've been open and truthful with your various sexual partners about your desire to ONLY have 'no-strings-attached' sex, as opposed to a relationship, you're fine.

Mind you, I'm in an long-term open relationship, and while I'm not chasing as much ass as once I did, it's more because I choose to turn down offers, rather than actually slowing down.

 

[2fish]

The only important sex questions with a relationship are: have you had any STDs?

Nope no STDs errr children, but I do have an odd rash....

Ok back on topic:
that is a good point as one never knows what the other person has been through, be cautious.

the answer depends on your goals, your lifestyle,and your personal beliefs.

So my answer would be however many I end up with is the right number, or if something ruins sex for you then that last one was the too many line.

my official press statement is the numbers don't matter, the experiences do.

-2fish

 

[WaywardHaymaker]

So long as it isn't any more than one at a time, it shouldn't realistically be a problem.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I wouldn't really care how many, as long as they didn't have any STD's and wouldn't cheat on me.

 

[Z(ombie)fan]

Two.

Yeah, I'm one of those freaks who actually believes in virginity until marriage. Don't try to convince me otherwise, people have already tried (and failed).

same
here

 

[clzark]

200

but seriously, the less the better. it just feels weird when the girl you're in a relationship has had like 5 more partners than you. it makes them seem easy, or maybe that they move too fast in relationships

 

[MR T3D]

As long as they are all aware of each other I see no problem with multiple partners at one time.
[HEADING=2] Because orgies make the world go round![/HEADING]
oh, wait, your talking about grand total, not combo score.
well then:
as a bro, take the number of years you're sexually active (age -16), then divide it by 3, and there's a good number, unless its more than 6, in which case you say 6. that's your story if asked. really, so long as they appear ready for the relationship you want with them, its just a number.
to go to the OP, the really only question is if THEY know what they are doing, IE if they are not a virgin.

 

[Avatar Roku]

Two.

Yeah, I'm one of those freaks who actually believes in virginity until marriage. Don't try to convince me otherwise, people have already tried (and failed).

I think you misunderstood. He didn't ask how many sex partners at one time (as in, an orgy), he meant, how many in the past. As in, how many exes you've had.

 

[Doodlebox]

If you're a girl, too many can make you a slut.
If you're a guy, too many can make you a pimp.
I guess it depends on gender. For me, say, two sexual partners within half a month isn't that good, and one night stands can be worse due to risk of STDs.

 

[Pimppeter2]

I honestly couldn't care less if she serviced half the town, as long as I had feelings for her. Seeing as if I was in that position, I would have done the same.