This is hard to put into words, but don't get overly offended over trivial stuff.
That was, I think, part of what did Mortai Gravesend in. He would constantly report (seemingly) any post that responded to him with any sort of disagreement, saying that he was deeply offended.
My suggestion, then, is to only report posts that you seriously think are inflammatory. Don't bring extra attention to yourself by reporting posts linked to yours if you're also being an ass.
I once got a warning after someone said that I was acting LIKE an ass, and I responded claiming that he didn't need to be a dick about it. The mod that reviewed my post agreed that his post was just as inflammatory as mine (as in, not very), and overturned my warning. However, it could easily have reversed, where BOTH of us got a warning despite both of us using only lightly-inflammatory language, not language at all worthy of a warning.