How to hit on girls on the go

[Aur0ra145]

Follow the script below, and alter to your needs:

"I've seen you around campus and I think you're very (pretty/interesting/outspoken/compliment it seems she'd appreciate). I don't want to be creepy, but is it ok if I give you my email address/number to text? My major is _____ and I (hobbies/sports/whatever so she knows you're not a loner or whatever you've seen her interested in), and maybe you'd like to come (watch/participate/etc) sometime? If you're interested, here's my email." And hand her a scribbled note. Don't ever have it pre-prepared. Creepy as shit if a guy pulls out something with his number on it. Just have some paper folded in your pocket, pull it out, rip off a corner and write down your number. Then it's up to her. Just be charming and casual about it, like you might ask other people, but you do really want her to be there.

Bam, you darn ninja.

Yep, give her your number and leave it at that. 9 times out of 10 they'll at least contact you, then you can take it from there.

 

[drisky]

Say "Its dangerous to go alone, take this" and give her your number. That way you get bonus points if she is gamer.

 

[RaikuFA]

BTW, I don't think you're supposed to ask out people in places like stores and stuff, it has to be at places like raves and concerts. Doing it at school is worse.

Least that's what I've been told.

 

[McNoobin]

Well I recall last year where my friends and I were at a table at another school for something during band and there was a table full of girls across the room. My friends dared me to go up and just talk to them, so I confidently walked up to their table, sat down, and introduced myself. They said they were impressed by how "brave" I was and all ended up giving me their number. It's all about confidence. Relationships usually friendships one step further and nobody wants a relationship with someone too shy to talk to.

 

[CODE-D]

Since you're attempting to pull a PUA stunt, whether or not you successfully disguise yourself as a non-creep, the reality of the matter is that you are a creep.

Gah... trying... not... to... rage

SO STUPID!

It's not creepy to want to go out with someone! Grow up!

Want to go out with someone? Not creepy. Try to get someone's number after merely seeing them walking in some random place once? Definitely creepy.

Now, if his gameplan had just been to get her to agree to a coffee date or some other simple introductory outing, that would have been much less creepy and I might be sympathetic to his plight. As it is what he is attempting to do is decidedly in the creepy category.

I think its weird to date before you converse more and see if you actually like each other, thats the point in getting the number, to talk. Be awkward to be on a date and realize you have nothing in common. Also people are busy and Im not gonna just assume shes free to just go get coffee anytime much less rather off the fly with a stranger. Number is the best way...

 

[Giftfromme]

Since you're attempting to pull a PUA stunt, whether or not you successfully disguise yourself as a non-creep, the reality of the matter is that you are a creep.

Gah... trying... not... to... rage

SO STUPID!

It's not creepy to want to go out with someone! Grow up!

Just based on looking at them once on campus? That seems rather juvenile and trying to follow through does seem kind of creepy since he doesn't even know the girl yet.

Also taking the step of trying to hit on them to keep in contact with them for that purpose does come off as creepy.

It's one thing to want to go out with someone. It's another to want it and actively take steps towards that goal when you don't even know the person.

Or he could approach her, have some conversation and decide that it's not worth his time. Simple as that. Why is that creepy? Or even if he just goes out (not dating as such) for experience, that's fine. Also a "PUA stunt" is a silly way of looking at it. There is a lot of theory in the area, and you can't just dismiss it all out of hand. Basically the just of "game" or "PUA stunt" is to fight our natural instincts which are only useful for the savannah and no longer apply (well a lot of them). To be able to cold approach a woman and get some conversation is actually something a lot of guys find hard. They fear rejection etc. But the game teaches it as not the girl judging you but when you approach you are judging whether she is worth your time etc.

And any approach works really. Ive gone up to chicks and said "I don't have any pickup lines prepared, mind if I join you?"
"I am randomly going to talk to you, is that cool"?
But even just introducing yourself is fine too. Ignore the people that say its creepy etc. and just talk to her. If you get rejected, so what, it wasn't meant to be. But you can't know until you try.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

Say your on campus and see a cute girl(or mall, parking lot, street, etc point is your walking)
As big as your campus is you will most likely never see her again
So how do you establish permanent contact(by which I mean phone number)
without coming off as a creep or blowing it?

well generally walk over with a smile and a VERY passive attitude, you have to appear open and nice, otherwise it's a very intimidating conversation right off the bat, generally depending on the girls expression i'd say what you say next..so it's hard to follow a script.

after you nail that though, here is this:

one of the cheapest/easiest things i can recommend to any guy, is to make an easy first date to get some ice cream, either at mcdonalds/DQ or something like that, generally they have outside tables so it's easy to just get a cheap cone (they are under a buck?) and chat it out, it gives your mouth/hands something to do in between awkward silences, and once you have some subjects on your mind it's pretty easy to get the conversation rolling.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

Since you're attempting to pull a PUA stunt, whether or not you successfully disguise yourself as a non-creep, the reality of the matter is that you are a creep.

Gah... trying... not... to... rage

SO STUPID!

It's not creepy to want to go out with someone! Grow up!

Just based on looking at them once on campus? That seems rather juvenile and trying to follow through does seem kind of creepy since he doesn't even know the girl yet.

Also taking the step of trying to hit on them to keep in contact with them for that purpose does come off as creepy.

It's one thing to want to go out with someone. It's another to want it and actively take steps towards that goal when you don't even know the person.

just curious, how do you go about meeting anyone then?

hell my best friend and i are only friends because i saw him making this sweet ass luigi picture in one of our classes we happened to share, and without me taking the initiative we wouldn've more than likely never met. (granted this example is SLIGHTLY different, but if you aren't even remotely sexually/physically attracted to a person, how do you invest any type of interest in anyone?)

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

Since you're attempting to pull a PUA stunt, whether or not you successfully disguise yourself as a non-creep, the reality of the matter is that you are a creep.

Gah... trying... not... to... rage

SO STUPID!

It's not creepy to want to go out with someone! Grow up!

Just based on looking at them once on campus? That seems rather juvenile and trying to follow through does seem kind of creepy since he doesn't even know the girl yet.

Also taking the step of trying to hit on them to keep in contact with them for that purpose does come off as creepy.

It's one thing to want to go out with someone. It's another to want it and actively take steps towards that goal when you don't even know the person.

just curious, how do you go about meeting anyone then?

hell my best friend and i are only friends because i saw him making this sweet ass luigi picture in one of our classes we happened to share, and without me taking the initiative we wouldn've more than likely never met. (granted this example is SLIGHTLY different, but if you aren't even remotely sexually/physically attracted to a person, how do you invest any type of interest in anyone?)

SLIGHTLY? That's a big difference. There's a difference between wanting to go out with someone and being interested in getting to know them better, and that difference is quite a bit.

And that last bit, wtf? I'm not sexually or physically attracted to any of my male friends. Maybe you're just bi or something, but as a heterosexual I don't feel attraction to members of the same sex and yet I have friends of the same sex. I don't think that sexual and physical attraction are necessary and that's proven by non-bisexual people having friends of the sex they're not attracted to.

getting to know someone is generally required to dating someone, most of the time, therefore if you are physically attracted to them you are going to ask for their number or ask them out sometime to get to know them better, right?

i was saying it was slightly different in that me and him are just friends as i am straight and so is he, but the same thing still applies for if you want to date someone, you see something about them that you like (whether it's if they are doing a hobby you like, or if they are physically attractive, or they just have a nice smile perhaps?)

i really really think you misunderstood what i was getting at there and took it as some kind of attack...

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Follow the script below, and alter to your needs:

"I've seen you around campus and I think you're very (pretty/interesting/outspoken/compliment it seems she'd appreciate). I don't want to be creepy, but is it ok if I give you my email address/number to text? My major is _____ and I (hobbies/sports/whatever so she knows you're not a loner or whatever you've seen her interested in), and maybe you'd like to come (watch/participate/etc) sometime? If you're interested, here's my email." And hand her a scribbled note. Don't ever have it pre-prepared. Creepy as shit if a guy pulls out something with his number on it. Just have some paper folded in your pocket, pull it out, rip off a corner and write down your number. Then it's up to her. Just be charming and casual about it, like you might ask other people, but you do really want her to be there.

Yea I agree with this guy.
In that situation you need to use anything that can make yourself memorable and it also helps if you can figure out anything shes into without asking her. Because of your limited amount of time a certain level of manipulation is in order.

I have found that when it comes to drawing a girls attention is very much like a casual interview for a job. Dress clean, stat your good qualities, and anything that you can bring into the relationship.

 

[manic_depressive13]

You don't, because your only basis for liking them is because they are physically attractive, and that's really shallow. It's different if you're in a social situation and you've at least heard them talk, but just approaching someone out of nowhere, having never spoken to them before, with the intention of getting a date, is creepy. I'd personally feel very uncomfortable trading numbers with or meeting with someone who I've only spoken to once, but I can't speak for everyone.

To be fair, I initially met my boyfriend at a uni bus stop. I was reading George R.R. Martin at the time. He struck up a conversation about that. We met several times after that at the bus stop just due to the coincidence of us finishing uni at the same time on most days, after which we decided to meet up on campus and we became friends. What I'm getting at is starting a conversation in itself isn't creepy, but starting one with the intention of going out with them when you don't even know them is.

 

[Vegosiux]

You don't, because your only basis for liking them is because they are physically attractive, and that's really shallow.

That's about the only basis you CAN like someone on when you first see them.

 

[])rStrangelove]

Please, more guys, do this! Please? Pretty please? Or some variant. But just walking up, openly saying you think she's cool and suggesting a joint activity? Even if it's just coffee or something. It is SO nice when that happens.

Almost all the time if I'm interested in a guy I don't know, even if he seems to notice and like me (smiling, receptive body language etc) I always have to do the work! And even disregarding whether I notice a guy right off, there are still almost no socially capable guys brave enough to just talk to me. I'm pretty sure I'm not -that- unattractive. And you would be amazed at how attractive being confident and socially capable and PLEASANT can be. Because I do get guys hitting on me, and it usually consists of men who know how to flirt but are thirty years older that me or reasonably aged guys saying things like "Wanna hump?" or making vague creepy threats (I once had a guy accuse me of following him...because we were walking in the same direction down a main street, and say if I kept it up I'd "get what I was asking for.") Or asking me extremely personal questions, or invading my personal space. I also got hit on a lot during my brief stint at a college consisting of mostly male international students, many of whom were pleasant enough but couldn't accept that firstly dating one of the students, who I had enough power over for it to be a conflict of interests, was a bad idea and secondly I wasn't interested. No, seriously. I'm not interested. Asking again will not get you better luck, go away.

To be fair, some girls are just going to glare at you and say screw off, but not all of them. At the absolute worst I would tell a guy with this approach thanks but I am not really interested. And on the two occasions a guy came up to me and just asked me out I was super impressed.

Thx for your post. Feels good to know that i'm on the right track here. Did some things like you described here and indeed got positive answers, but there's always a bit of doubt how a girl really thinks about a direct, open approach.

About that 'walking the same way on a street' part - i had it exactly the other way around. A girl walks in front of me (10m or so), it was getting dark and by the way she was looking back every once in a while i realized at one point she was kinda frightened about me. I had a HARD time figuring out a way to walk behind her without come over as being a stalker or something. Tried to make the friendliest face i could, tried to walk slower, etc etc.
Yeah. Just walking down a street can be hard work.

 

[manic_depressive13]

That's about the only basis you CAN like someone on when you first see them.

Yes, but you wouldn't ask someone out on that basis. You strike up a conversation based on common interests first. Outright saying "I think you're hot and would therefore like a date" is just creepy. It would immediately alienate and make most girls I know feel uncomforable. I'm just speaking from what I have experienced myself and what I've heard from friends. Most girls I know would trade numbers out of fear of being impolite or presumptuous about the guy, but they wouldn't actually want to.