Quiet Stranger said:
Shru1kan said:
Quiet Stranger said:
Penguinness said:
Do an "all-in" gamble, give her an engagement ring.
I don't know the details really, ask her out?
details being, on the same day (except at supper time) that I first actually meet her, I take her to subway for supper (it's the dinner date! you never do the dinner date! It's the do-or-die date! cookie for reference) and we go back to my place, go to my room, sity in my bed and watch cartoons, make out, massage each others backs, and I smacked her ass a couple of times....so yeah I still don't know if we're going out after all that
Hate to say it but if not, she's easy and you wouldn't want her anyways.
But really, if you've waited longer than a week or so she might feel like you aren't interested and move on. Hate to say it but I doubt she could be any less subtle at hinting that she likes you, so you best hope you didn't break her heart.
waited longer then a week for what? telling her I like her? Maybe she already knows, or maybe I've told her already....I have a fuzzy memory, also in her defense at the time of the ass smacking she was drunk, also she's told me she's committed to her man, her last boyfriend cheated on her and had pictures of another girl on his laptop and something like that, so I don't think she's "easy" but she probably will be if we go out (easy for me I mean, not anyone else) also....what does "needing some ass" mean? she kept saying that (while she was drunk) but I had no idea girls were saying that these days
Woah I am so confused...
Are you trying to tell her you like her or you want to date her? Because if you made out with her that's a pretty clear sign that you like her. If she made out with you she likes you back. Even if there's alcohol involved, strangers don't go to strangers places and
just makeout and watch cartoons if there's no feeling involved. If you haven't asked her to be your girlfriend she's not your girlfriend.
Also she's committed to her man but makes out with you? Not that committed then I would say. I mean if photos of another girl counts as cheating then you'd think that making out with another person definitely would. I read you're last topic and you said her friend practically asked you out for her yeah? People don't confess liking someone, go to dinner with them, get drunk with them, go back to their place and make out with them, if they're trying to get their boyfriend jealous (which I would assume to be the only reason to do that if she's not actually interested in you). If you want to get your boyfriend jealous it's more effective if they're actually there. Otherwise you might as well say you did and not have to go through with it. Unless she's planning some elaborate scheme...
Anyway you should ask what the deal with her boyfriend is. If she's cheating or trying to upset him run far far away. Even if she then decides she likes you, she's crazy and you can't trust her if that's her game. If it's something reasonable (I can't even think of anything) then just ask her to be your girlfriend. There's clearly some attraction, you said you got on really well in your last topic so it's pretty much as safe bet. But make sure she does give you a reason before asking her out. Otherwise be prepared for a messy and drama-filled relationship.
Or if you're looking for something casual (ie. making out and sex without relationship), don't look for reasons, ask her out on dates but don't ask her to be your girlfriend. If she then asks you out, decide if that's what you want and then follow the above instructions.
People tend to talk rubbish when they're drunk. I once read selected passages of "A Naked Lunch" to one of my friends for about an hour whilst drunk. Also confess some pretty out there stuff. I wouldn't read too much into what people say when they're drunk. There's a 50% chance they confused their words and didn't say what they meant or you misunderstood it, 25% it's just bullshitting, 25% it's the absolute truth.
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Blair Bennett said:
Coming from one of the female persuasion, I'd have to say that the most romantic thing would just be asking her out. If she laughs at first (this is vital), don't be put off, it's kind of one of those things where you're not really sure if the other person is serious or not. Do you have a tendency to joke about this kind of thing around her? If so, you might have to tell her that you're serious a few times. If she's in any way humble, she'll want to make sure you're not jerking her around. I'm not implying that you would do any such thing, but us women tend to have difficulty accepting the fact that anyone might want to be in a relationship with us. The best thing you can do is be honest without trying too hard.
...who jokes about being in a relationship with someone?
Sometimes it's hard to tell if someone likes you in a romantic way, but asking someone to be their girlfriend is pretty clear cut.
If you don't want to go out with someone laughing and dismissing it as a joke is a pretty cruel yet effective way of turning them down. Ever think that maybe the guys/girls asking you out are being completely serious but taking you laughing it off as rejection and then playing along so as not to feel like complete idiots?
If they came along in a group of giggling peers then I would be on your side.
