Is this advise for 35 year old divorsed people? Because utill that day comes for me Im just gonna keep doin my shit, it works. The confident thing is right on the money though Ill give you that.
How to win the girl. (Some help for all the "best friends" out there.)
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Well said OP, even with a grand total of zero relationships in my past (albeit one or three missed ones), I have found this ummm.... strategy? true and consistent with what I have seen and experienced.
My summation is this: be a good human being.
And that entails all of what you said-
1) The balance of pride and parody.
2) Honesty in all regards, especially as to who you are.
3) Treating her like another human being.
My summation is this: be a good human being.
And that entails all of what you said-
1) The balance of pride and parody.
2) Honesty in all regards, especially as to who you are.
3) Treating her like another human being.
It means "Too long; didn't read". When an original poster adds one, it's usually a summary of the entire post, if it's a reply it's usually a troll response trying to be witty but just looks stupid. So context is important.Sexual Harassment Panda said:
Ot: Some sound advice, though the whole "act slightly disinterested" thing isn't always the best advice. Sure, some girls like a mystery, but others will just see it as dismissive or get mixed signals. It's certainly not something to force anyway, if you're having a good conversation just roll with it.
I know a lot of guys do have trouble with the "friend zone"; I'd say the best way to get around that is just be a little more flirtacious with small comments, and let them know (subtley) that you think they're attractive. Not to say that you're attracted to them; it's enough to show you're interested without being too fawning.
you could just sing a justin beiber songMarik2 said:All you need to do is play this song when you tell a girl about your feelings.
Works every time
fuck ninja'dLineoutt said:Yep! here ya go.Rarhnor said:
It's good if it can be put into practice but that will probably be difficult.
We are all different so even if it is pulled off 100% it still is not guaranteed to work.
Be yourself but don't be needy or brotherly. <- that about sums it up
If you don't want to be yourself you can always be Justin Bieber if you want to go after a 10-14 year old.
Good luck
then every girl I go to is
true,true,Marik2 said:Yeah if you want a retarded women.ICanBreakTheseCuffs said:you could just sing a justin beiber songMarik2 said:All you need to do is play this song when you tell a girl about your feelings.
Works every time
Not sure how well this will work for me. The only girls who are at all attracted to me are pretty much all batshit crazy. Which is awesome, they're much more interesting and exciting than "normal" people, IMO. Just, ya know, crazy.
TL;DR = Too long; didn't read.Sexual Harassment Panda said:I've been skimming over "TL;DR" for a long time now. At some point I'm going to have to ask to find out what it means...may as well be now. So?Jaranja said:Nighty night!PurpleSky said:maximilian said:
I'm tired,don't judge me.Goodnight.
I'ma go ahead and summarise with a TL;DR.
Can you put a summary at the top or something?
OT: Yeh, not bad...lengthy, but not bad. Probably a fairly common problem for young men.
I would definitely agree with this. I would also add (for guys and girls) that you need to show that you are a complete person even if you're not in a relationship, if that makes sense. That you don't define yourself by who you're with; you are your own fully formed person.Lilliva said:
Oh yeah, and as Lilliva said, nerds are totally sexy.
There is no bulletproof plan for getting girls. There are no step-by-step actions which lead to one taking off her pants for you, only very general attributes that you can have to hopefully arouse interest. It's important to be yourself, as after the one-night stand/relationship/date, she's going to expect your personality to have remained the same.
These being:
1.) Confidence: Confidence in yourself and your actions is of the utmost importance. How is some girl expected to be interested in you if you're sweating bullets just looking at her? Man up if you lack these skills. It'll be a bumpy road building this confidence, but you'll get there eventually if you challenge yourself.
2.) Style: You want to look good. Get a nice MEN'S haircut and a decent pair of jeans. If you can't pull off a certain look, don't try to. We can't all have long hair like Orlando Bloom, but if we look pretty good with our hair spiked we may as well use that.
3.) MUSCLE/BODY: HIT THE GYM. Lose the flab! GET A TAN. All part of the appearance. You don't have to have a face like Apollo when you have washboard abs,I'll tell you that. Not to mention, it also boosts your confidence knowing you can benchpress a small van.
4.) Modesty: No one likes a cocky, arrogant dude. Be modest and yourself and everyone will want to be your friend.
And i'd just like to end this post by saying this: Pick your girls carefully. Some girls are better off as friends, and can help you get that certain special someone that might come along the way. Not everyone is meant to be screwed. God.
These being:
1.) Confidence: Confidence in yourself and your actions is of the utmost importance. How is some girl expected to be interested in you if you're sweating bullets just looking at her? Man up if you lack these skills. It'll be a bumpy road building this confidence, but you'll get there eventually if you challenge yourself.
2.) Style: You want to look good. Get a nice MEN'S haircut and a decent pair of jeans. If you can't pull off a certain look, don't try to. We can't all have long hair like Orlando Bloom, but if we look pretty good with our hair spiked we may as well use that.
3.) MUSCLE/BODY: HIT THE GYM. Lose the flab! GET A TAN. All part of the appearance. You don't have to have a face like Apollo when you have washboard abs,I'll tell you that. Not to mention, it also boosts your confidence knowing you can benchpress a small van.
4.) Modesty: No one likes a cocky, arrogant dude. Be modest and yourself and everyone will want to be your friend.
And i'd just like to end this post by saying this: Pick your girls carefully. Some girls are better off as friends, and can help you get that certain special someone that might come along the way. Not everyone is meant to be screwed. God.
I'm pretty amused by all the "you can get this girl by doing ___ and acting ___" advice out there. I like that us girls as a whole are summed up into one glorious little group that loves twilight and bieber and blaaaaaaah.
If we're going to sum all girls up into one little category then I will say this: all girls love to laugh. You can be ugly as hell, but if you can make us laugh we're there with you. How do you think Seth Rogen got so popular?
Personally my shallow stereotypical girlishness only allows me to be attracted to good looking people (honesty is the best policy) but the second best trait in a guy for me would have to be a sense of humor.
If we're going to sum all girls up into one little category then I will say this: all girls love to laugh. You can be ugly as hell, but if you can make us laugh we're there with you. How do you think Seth Rogen got so popular?
Personally my shallow stereotypical girlishness only allows me to be attracted to good looking people (honesty is the best policy) but the second best trait in a guy for me would have to be a sense of humor.
HA! What? Did you even read that? Telling a girl everything she wants to hear is the parental equivalent of telling your kid everything they want to hear. Where the hell did you get meth from?maximilian said:
Curses. I was just about to say almost the exact same thing you did, only to find out that...well you said it before I did. Why must you be such a ninja? Well, at least if anyone is wondering what I think, they'll know, because you said it already.Aylaine said:I read your post, and to me, well honestly? It seems like a method that just works for you in your environment. When it comes down to it, things like this can't be defined for everyone. Not everyone girl is the same, not every one guy is the same. That's why there is no guideline to dating, or sex, or friendship that works for everyone because of human free will. We're all different, and although some similarities do exist between people, that's all it is: similarity. Something that works for you, likely won't work for the next person. It's really hit and miss, depending on how people interpret you, how you interpret them, your surroundings, family, so many factors impact social interaction that it can't be clearly laid out for anyone or a ''how to for dummies'' type of thing.maximilian said:
That being said, however...I do feel that being yourself is the best weapon guys have when it comes to meeting girls, next to honesty, for friendship or relationships. Think about it. If a girl is liking you for someone you are not, you are not only deceiving her, but yourself as well. It's all dandy that she doesn't know, but you do. You aren't this kind of guy. You don't like these things. You are just pretending. Living a lie if you will. If you are yourself however, chances are you will not get the girl right off the bat. This is because, people are different and not everyone will see the person you are as someone they want to be with, but at least you are yourself to where when you do meet a girl who genuinely likes you, she like you because of who you are, not because of who you pretending to be.
Maybe, ya never know.derelict said:The OP's sort of post is shunned in off topic, yet a completely mindless QOTD is quite well taken, every day. To boot, this is actually surprisingly good, if maybe a bit specific, advice.Dyp100 said:
/boggled.
Maybe Dyp's jealous.
Never the less, me and him have a short discussion later on. Really, I kinda left the Escapist for a bit because of the constant stream of people talking about their relationship. So on the first day I come back I see this thread, I really want to facepalm at the lack of change.Still, I've gotten enough shit for this post already.