how where you bullied

[dragonslayer32]

I got bullied quite a bit (the usual stuff, kicked, punched, name calling) until year 8 when I hit 6 foot.

By year eight, do you mean eight years old, or eighth grade?

Because if it's the former than:

YOU'RE HUGE!!

Year 8 in secondary school (England). I was about 14.

 

[TheNewDemoman]

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

I feel sorry for you, one of the few nice people here -_-


But as for myself, well despite my size I am quite the softy. So I am a moving target for insults, also I am 1/2 Black 1/2 White.

This one guy called me a "half breed mother f***er"

I gave him a good shiner

One of the "few nice people" here? hey, screw you, you half-breed motherfuc

heeeey! One of the few?!

Also, I've never really been bullied. In fact, I used to be the bully years ago (something I really regret, even though I, and those I've bullied have learned to forget and forgive, and some of them are actually really good friends of mine now). The closest was maybe how the whole of my class called me Joshua in a mocking sort of way.

See? My only example of me being bullied is me being called a name that is, by any means, a normal name (and I don't even know why I was so irked by it back then; even considered changing schools (though it was only a thought) and once even left school early. I'm really quite perlexed, since if that happened now, I'd pay no mind to it).

You best be trollin my brother.

 

[Whateveralot]

I was bullied both physically and emotionally. I was called a loser for a part of my life (10-15 years old), a really bad time. I was really small, never had a girlfriend and I was pushed around by classmates. Eventually, my only mate was a loser I was just stuck with.

I tried to get out, make friends. I did make some friends, had a great time until they moved out of town. Then sat still socially for about 2 years, making the best of my time. I met a few girls, made some friends but never went out a lot. Eventually things grew on me, I learnt a lot, I conquered the fear of myself I apparently had. It wasn't the world that was holding me back, it was ME that was holding me back. I am 21 now. My social life is blooming right before my eyes. I meet new people every week, don't have trouble finding girls and chat up with them, chances seem to be right there, waiting for me. It's all about living.

A funny example that happened today was that I dropped something on the floor when talking to two pretty girls. My usual reaction 2 years ago? Blushing, looking away, picking it up quickly and becoming silent until someone mentions how stupid I am. Even if they don't, I'd still feel like they're thinking it. Right now I just went..."ah shit, now I'll have to pick it up", and picked it up. Careless. No one said a thing about it, they didn't even care.


To everyone that was ever bullied out there:
Forgive yourself. It is not your fault, you just didn't know what to do. Learn from the things that happened as they can make you a stronger person. Most importantly: live. Radiate energy. Be enthousiastic about other people's life as they are interesting. Don't worry about giving little parts of you away. You are amazing.

 

[Zachary Unkle]

Insulted because of: Weight,superior intellect,height,glasses,being a member of the band,not playing sports,being a gamer and supposedly having no friends and no life.

 

[Jack Macaque]

My dad explained to me that I had to stick up for myself, since no one else would.

He was the black sheep in his family and had a terrible childhood. Now he has an entire empire in the palm of his hand, that he made from the ground up.

He told me that if someone made fun of me, or hit me, or bullied me, to hit them right in the face.

Now this was told to me after months of teasing and bullying(I got hit by a car 2 days into summer vacation, cast from hip to toe on left leg for 6 months, so I got pretty fat even though I was 7 or 8), so it was a relief for me.

I started standing up for myself, and my friends, I became an anti-bully in my eyes, people looked up to me as some sort of, well, hero.

So began my reign of anti-terror, which last for quite a few years, many fights, suspensions, charges, expulsions, and most importantly, doing the right thing.

I stuck up for myself and people who had no one to stand up for them and was praised for it, not that I got drunk with power, it just felt good, karma I suppose.

That's what kids really need, someone to stick up for them, not more sessions with some doctor or some other fool, they need someone to look up to, someone to help.

IMO of course.

 

[TheMetalGuy]

I grew up in a ghetto and got picked on by many of the black kids. (They were racist barstards)
It all stopped when i started beating them up, and I was never picked on again.
(I got a scary reputation though) =X

 

[FamoFunk]

Well, I was shown a picture of me being tied to a tree, with a shotgun shoved against my back.

Then, teachers began emotionally abusing me. Screaming at me, insulting me, locking me in an isolated room for hours on end, denying me lunch and not letting me go home when everyone else did.

What the fuck?! Are you serious man?!?!?!

I've never been bullied, never physically and the only verbal was in jest between me and people I got along with (you know, they friendly banter of insulting eachother)

My school was pretty amazing tbh.

 

[dashiz94]

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

Wow, that's terrible. I remember the kid's making fun of my grandfather after he died because they thought "Well he's dead now, so we can insult him all we want!"

I think I bruised one kid's arm badly and almost broke the other's nose before we were all suspended.

If you don't mind me asking, how did your parent's die?

 

[Wilko316]

I'm glad I've never truly been bullied, I just managed to stay away from those kind of people. Tbh I made most of the tough guys laugh so if anything I had them on my side somewhat.
I can empathise with what's being said though, I got beaten up once by some kid from another school I didn't even know and that was damn awful.

 

[snowman6251]

I'm always shocked by the things I read in these threads. The bullying at my school was so close to non-existent that I have a hard time actually believing all this stuff goes on. My school had some bullying in Middle School but once we got to high school everyone just kind of laid off everyone else. There was very little shit given to the "weird" kids. People just found their group and stuck with it.

 

[Clinton Iggulden]

Back in junior and senior high I was bullied relentlessly about my weight and being the loner of the class. Actually, my biggest fear during school was people finding out about my orientation. I am gay, and comfortable with my orientation now, but my line of thinking back then was along the lines of, 'if they treat me like this for being fat... they will probably kill me for being gay.' I live in Alberta, and the common joke up here is Alberta is the Texas of Canada... so my thinking might not have been far off. Needless to say; they did not find out about my orientation, nor was I comfortable with myself for a long long time. Suicidal thoughts were common for me during and after my high school years.

Bullying has a long lasting effect on everyone, and I am in love with the new campaigns taking root in the US. The 'It Gets Better' campaign have been opening peoples eyes to the bullying that does happen in the schools, and yes it is geared towards people being bullied for being gay, but the same thing happens to many different stereotypes. One of my favourite videos from 'It Gets Better' is by Rebecca Drysdale for the simple fact she acknowledges that bullying does not only happen to gay people, but to so many others out there too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cTQNwMxqM3E

TL;DR: Yes I was bullied, it sucked, it is still happening... people are finally starting to see it is a problem.

 

[ace_of_something]

I wasn't.

I grew up in a town where there were about 50 people under the age of 18 at any given time. When a town is that small people try to be nice to each other. Even kids.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

Wow, that's terrible. I remember the kid's making fun of my grandfather after he died because they thought "Well he's dead now, so we can insult him all we want!"

I think I bruised one kid's arm badly and almost broke the other's nose before we were all suspended.

If you don't mind me asking, how did your parent's die?

:/

That's a pretty cruel thing to say. But some people really are like that, yup yup. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. My parents died in a car accident with a drunk driver by the way. :/

If I may, I offer my condolences for the passings of your parents (however small they must seem). I take it that you did not go around the school trumpetting the news of your parents' deaths, so not many people probably knew the emotional trauma you were suffering. They probably only knew you as "that weird girl," making you an easy target for their abuse. Another example of how people will always think that they can tell everything about you without ever talking to you. Those kinds of bullies are the lowest to me, because they never confront you directly unless they are backed up by a group of friends. Girls aren't the only ones that do this, but they certainly do it a lot. This is what goes on in school. This is why I can't see any point in going through four more years of college after high school.

It means quite a bit actually, so thank you very much. Yeah. School can be really tough when you are going through problems that depress you or make you otherwise out of place to others. There will always be those people who make others feel bad so they can feel better about themselves. =/

School was wonderful, but it was also horrible at times. I don't have a lot of experience in college. Do you think a 4 year college is just more of the same?

Well, people told me middle school would be different. It wasn't. They told me high school would be different. It wasn't. I'm starting to notice a pattern here, so I don't really think I'm ready for another four years yet. I'm going to do something I think is more worth-while.

 

[Marter]

Pokemon sucks! And what're you - *jabs in ribs* - gonna do about it?

If this counts as bullying, then yeah, I was bullied. I don't take it as such though. It's just teasing.

 

[Sovereignty]

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

That's pretty vicious =( Sorry for you.




But while I wasn't bullied (Always been a bigger person.) I do think that it's the social structures currently enforced by all forms of media that create these situations.

Seriously lock these children down and have them supervised at all times til they're 18!

At least then it's their problem <_<

 

[Lynoxus]

All through my primary + secondary school life pretty much, injury, insults, isolation. Problem only got worse as pretty much the entire year seperated themselves from me in an effort to not be bullied themselves.

Oh and the school I was in gave me detentions for getting beaten up, (I live in England where our ridiculous system allows the parents of the children who in normal society would be in jail for 3 months or so for what they've done to avoid any punishment at all) and of course no help at all.

So yea, pretty much the worst thing was the isolation socially.

 

[TimeLord]

I was bullied for (among other things) having an strong English accent and living in Scotland.