Actually pretty good. No one teases me about it, and I actually get respect for knowing a good deal on computers. I have a good set of friends that I'm happy with.
How's Your Social Life?
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It was great in College but I'm not really there anymore, though I hope to start back next year. Apart from that it's pretty much just going to the pub on Saturday night with my friends from around here.
Occasionaly I get out for a while, up to my College friends or to a convention, like the one this weekend. WarpCon!
Occasionaly I get out for a while, up to my College friends or to a convention, like the one this weekend. WarpCon!
I have non social life, well you know except for the few people I genuinely value in life, but most of them live in places like india, or the us (I'm in canada) or down the street so I don't get to see them much 
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I have a good amount of friends; we are kind of a pocket of gaming nerds in school. You would probably think I was some jock with a slight social problem, but that kind of leads down to who I am. I am a nerd by heart and a jock on the outside (not the jackasses that belittles the nerds). Recently I've gotten use to talking to girls; the non-bitchy type. The ones that every good human being wishes they could meet and just talk to. Even though most of them have boyfriends, they talk to me like any other friend. Again looking at me for the first time you probably wouldn't guess that I'm a nerd... well at least a gaming nerd. btw I do have a gf... sorta... it's complicated
Nonexistent. The only consistent human contact I have is with my mother at various portions of the day. The amount of times I have ventured out, not including Subway or purchasing something could likely be countable upon my hands. Ironically I have fantastic social skills and can hold and maintain conversation and develop a friendship in mere seconds. How I taught myself this trait is mind boggling however I shan't complain. I do have a few good e-friends who frankly are awesome.
Pretty good. Got my friends at my current job, and still hang out with my EA buddies. Play Warhammer and go to bars and clubs on the weekend. Roommate and I chill and play games when we are home and not about to pass out for work the next day. Party once a month with friends, and hit the arcades pretty regularly.
Terrible, social anxiety everytime I strike up a conversation with someone, they expect me to say Hi if we see eachother in the hallway, I don't because I'm always too nervous and then they think I'm ignoring them, you have no idea how many people I've accidently alienated.
This is very interesting subject and one thats quite frequently adressed in my close knitted nerd enclave of friends. We have come up with a number of diffrent theories. The following have the most supporters:
(bear in mind that the majority of these discussions are primarily among old uni pals, all of us 30+ of age, but i still think they are valid at any level of life).
Cause and effect.
Most gamers (at least the ones we know) have besides a general interest in computers/gaming a primary interest (most often of the intellectual variety but it could be sports or an equivalent activity) that will eat up the majority of ones day. Be it artsy or science is no matter, it will still require high amount of concentration and above all time. At this point one will have to start prioritizing the time allotted that is labeled free. The question arises, will I spend these precious hours with strangers/acquaintances talking about subjects i have no real interest in; go out and play the dating game. Or will I stay at home and do something I really enjoy with people with the same mindset as me. If the latter is true, you become the 'isolated' gamer by design. It is not that you do not have the ability to socialize, you choose not to - at least not at this stage of your life. The phenomenon is a stage in life where you will concentrate all your efforts into your career, education, sport or whatever reason, and the social aspect are deemed secondary for this period. For me it was completing two master degrees back to back in two entierly diffrent research fields to be in the position where I am now where my social life is flurishing. But back then, I was the archetype of the lone nerd, the hermit.(or the lone sage if you will, thanks for that one). This will change when the goal is achived. Except the nerd bit, you never be able to shake that - geeks unite!
In short:
Cause - Allott almost all availible time to the goal you have set for yourself. Free time is spent doing only things you like and makes you relax, in this case gaming.
Effect - You will be viewed as the hermit gaming nerd.
(bear in mind that the majority of these discussions are primarily among old uni pals, all of us 30+ of age, but i still think they are valid at any level of life).
Cause and effect.
Most gamers (at least the ones we know) have besides a general interest in computers/gaming a primary interest (most often of the intellectual variety but it could be sports or an equivalent activity) that will eat up the majority of ones day. Be it artsy or science is no matter, it will still require high amount of concentration and above all time. At this point one will have to start prioritizing the time allotted that is labeled free. The question arises, will I spend these precious hours with strangers/acquaintances talking about subjects i have no real interest in; go out and play the dating game. Or will I stay at home and do something I really enjoy with people with the same mindset as me. If the latter is true, you become the 'isolated' gamer by design. It is not that you do not have the ability to socialize, you choose not to - at least not at this stage of your life. The phenomenon is a stage in life where you will concentrate all your efforts into your career, education, sport or whatever reason, and the social aspect are deemed secondary for this period. For me it was completing two master degrees back to back in two entierly diffrent research fields to be in the position where I am now where my social life is flurishing. But back then, I was the archetype of the lone nerd, the hermit.(or the lone sage if you will, thanks for that one). This will change when the goal is achived. Except the nerd bit, you never be able to shake that - geeks unite!
In short:
Cause - Allott almost all availible time to the goal you have set for yourself. Free time is spent doing only things you like and makes you relax, in this case gaming.
Effect - You will be viewed as the hermit gaming nerd.
Well, lets see here, my license is kinda suspended but not really, my mom is still really anal about it and won't let me drive, and my friends that actually do stuff with me live 40 minutes away... so... yeah...
I don't go out, I don't have friends, rarely does anyone ever talk to me, and I can in no way keep the average conversation going (i.e. a conversation about trivial shit). I'm fucking miserable and lonely, and because of it I've become bitter and jaded.
How are you?
How are you?
Well I saw in your profile you like archery and fencing so you could look into the SCA for they have people who do both of those things as well as other forms of medieval fighting and I bet you find more like minded people. It's a hell of a lot of fun and would give you something to do I have been doing it for a little bit now and it's great. http://www.sca.org/Julianking93 said:
Simple, go outside.Mr.Tea said:
Chat to people you're in a que with, like at a bus stop, or a game shop, at least you have something in common with them.
There isn't a quick-fix for a social life you just have to step outside your comfort zone and put yourself out there. Join a club or something.
"so-cial?"
ok, in all seriousness it's actually getting better, I find myself getting surrounded by pretty girls who seem to like me... the only problem is I don't know what to do with them...
[sub]I know what you're thinking... and yes, that's exactly what i mean : )[/sub]
ok, in all seriousness it's actually getting better, I find myself getting surrounded by pretty girls who seem to like me... the only problem is I don't know what to do with them...
[sub]I know what you're thinking... and yes, that's exactly what i mean : )[/sub]