I am not even sure how to react to this..

[SIXVI06-M]

However, last night my girlfriend asked me if '[she]was ever going to have to worry that I was bisexual.' I was kind of stunned. I am not bisexual, I've never been attracted to any guys. I've never had any trouble with people thinking I'm not straight before, but the last person I expected to have suspicions was my girlfriend. Her reasoning was that I like baking and fashion. She said she had been watching some show called 'Happily Divorced.' (I've never seen the show, but apparently it's about a husband of 18 years who suddenly comes out as gay to his wife).

To tell the truth, it's more her problem to convince herself than yours - if your relationship is good and you two connect really well, then you won't need to convince her at all (and unfortunately, she wouldn't be having these odd suspicions).

If anything, don't turn it into a thing - because it sounds like your girlfriend is the type of person who is looking for an excuse to validate her own beliefs and opinions, you make a big deal of it, and you'll either come off as defensive or put on the spot about it as if you were uncomfortable with being 'exposed' (to you it is not like that, but to her it may be). Just be straight up and tell her what you honestly think and leave it at that - if she wants to keep digging, then well... that might help you make up your mind about her perhaps.

I'd hate to think how your girlfriend will be in time considering what other crap there is on TV - soon she'll be suspecting that you're a racist, a cheater, a misogynist, a black person, an asian, a vampire, etc. You'd think after a year, she would know you better than that.

Perhaps spend some more time with her maybe - and actually get to know each other better so no one makes any more assumptions about each other.

 

[Buizel91]

Perhaps she was asking hopefully...like "hey, you sure you don't want to get another dude in on this action?"

Oh God. It's this. It's totally this.
She wants a threesome!

This made me chuckle inside xD

I wouldn't get worked up about it, she'll just be curious, although i can see why you may be a lil angry/upset.

Nout to worry about bud least she still loves you =3

Also this works to...

I would have laughed, grabbed one of her boobs, and said "No, no, no, I'm straight as a whistle, silly" in the gayest voice possible, just to hilariously cause more confusion.

 

[GartarkMusik]

I hear ya bro. My chosen major/minor combo would probably make me seem gay to a lot of people. I'm studying vocal performance (opera) and I'm minoring in Theater, but everyone who knows me is very aware that I'm totally straight, but if someone asked me if I was gay, I'd probably just brush it off, though it is odd that your gf is the one asking....... guess she just has lots of stereotypes.

 

[SIXVI06-M]

Also, I am pretty in with fashion - although in a fixed sense and I stick to my own sense of style rather than follow trends, I'm a pretty decent cook, and I can sing in high pitches.

I hardly behave femininely though, and my girlfriend would never suspect me of anything on the basis of TELEVISION, mostly because she knows that what's on TV is usually made to entertain us, not inform us of the sexual orientation of our partners.

 

[LuckyClover95]

I hate those stereotypes and applaud you for not doing the whole MANLY MAN thing if you don't want to.
I HATE manly man guys.

 

[Kinokohatake]

You should have taken her right there thrown her on the couch and had crazy sex. Though not in the butt, that may raise a few questions considering what was just under discussion.

 

[Grabbin Keelz]

You should get her to stop watching tv and start playing video games.

 

[Gamblerjoe]

i have found that the people who like and understand me tend to give me as much if not more credit than i deserve when it comes to my intelligence, perception, and judgement. that said, IF i were in a serious relationship it would be with someone who understands me. If a serious girlfriend asked me something like that, then it would simply mean that she doesnt truly know me, and somehow tricked me into thinking she is worth dating. simply put, i would never knowingly date someone that stupid. watching sensationalized media and buying into it is the absolute antithesis of what i believe and stand for.

i think a big part of why i feel this way is because of my family. they never understood me or cared about me. i was just neglected, and never taught how to do anything right; yet i was punished whenever i did something wrong. i even had the classic scenario happen to me, where an older sibling literally starts a huge fire (almost burning down an apartment building), and i get blamed for it.

during my formative years i was "raised" by a single mother and an older sister. as you can imagine, they filled my head with all sorts of ideas that i am painstakingly trying to unlearn. everything they taught me about women was completely backwards. what they taught me was based on how women see themselves, and how they think they want to be treated. most humans dont know what they want, and women are no exception. the psychotic women in my family sure as hell dont know what sane women want.

one of the things i can remember from my childhood is my mother always chiding me and telling me i was gay. anything feminine was gay. I was given the fist name as my father, but i wasnt fully named after him because his middle name was Dana which is gay. my first name would be spelled Robby, because Robbie is gay. if i enjoyed a pink popsicle i was gay.

now that im an adult i can pick and chose who i am around. i dont feel bad saying i hate my family. i will never willingly put myself in a situation where i have to deal with people who talk to me like that. if anyone tried to force me, or far be it, trick me into this, they are in for a dose of venom the likes of which they have never seen.

 

[Andy Shandy]

When she said it you should have done this
Any opportunity to use that clip.

Seriously though, just assure her through various methods that you only have eyes for her.

 

[AMX58]

WOW i mean wow thats all i have to say

 

[FuktLogik]

What do you think about my situation?

Cooking is fine. Looking nice in nice clothes is fine. But do you have any "fabulous" interests? Do you act like a gay or metrosexual stereotype? If not, then your girl has just been brainwashed by bullshit network T.V.

 

[ExileNZ]

First, some background, I suppose. I am guy who loves fashion, cooking and baking, and a few other feminine things. I have a girlfriend of almost a year. Now, I am very comfortable in the fact that I am straight, that's why I'm able to do those things that I love. I don't really care if someone thinks I'm gay, I just know that they're wrong.

However, last night my girlfriend asked me if '[she]was ever going to have to worry that I was bisexual.' I was kind of stunned. I am not bisexual, I've never been attracted to any guys. I've never had any trouble with people thinking I'm not straight before, but the last person I expected to have suspicions was my girlfriend. Her reasoning was that I like baking and fashion. She said she had been watching some show called 'Happily Divorced.' (I've never seen the show, but apparently it's about a husband of 18 years who suddenly comes out as gay to his wife).

Now, as the title of this thread indicates, I don't know how to react. I didn't really get as angry as I think I should have. If anything, I was kind of amused. Thinking about it though, it was kind of horrible. Not only was she questioning my sexuality (which she, of all people, should be pretty sure about), she was basing it on some truly awful stereotypes. Now, I love her, and I'm not going to dump her. This was just kind of a really weird and jarring experience.. I guess what I'm asking is: How would you react if you were in my place? What do you think about my situation?

As someone who's been there, here's my 2 cents: You did right to make light of it.
Don't worry about it unless she brings it up again. And again... I had a girlfriend who got all worked up about that and, needless to say, she was pretty paranoid. We didn't last all that long, but not because of the gay thing.

My wife calls me gay all the time, since I don't beat her or sleep around, but she's mostly taking the piss. She of all people does know that I'm not.

 

[The Wooster]

No offense to your gf, but most people need to get this through their thick skulls -

If a man has sex with another man, then he's gay. This is an if and only if statement.. There are NO additional conditions or consequences of being gay.

Can we please move on as a society now?

Actually, not true. A man is gay if he's sexually attracted to other men.

 

[omega 616]

I would honestly laugh and say no. I doubt she meant anything by it, she just had a concern and expressed it.

If I were you I would forget about it and just move on, don't look into it so much. Just enjoy what you enjoy.

Although fashion? Never could get my head around fashion, everything is never going to be worn outside ... unless your stage name is lady gaga.

 

[Brandon237]

Just tell her not to worry, she most likely just wants re-assurance that you are attracted to her, the rest of the females out there she probably would be happier with you not liking. Although I have been beaten very elegantly and swiftly to this one it seems:

Well being a woman, I can see where she was coming from (it's just the way girl's think) :

I think she was just worried about your relationship and you possibly leaving her. Remember that not everyone has super duper confidence and most girls need to be reassured of your love for them. I know it sounds a bit dumb I mean, most of the time girls KNOW their boyfriends love them. They just need reassurance.
Of course not every girl is like that, but... I found that a lot are (through my friends or even myself). Giving yourself to someone is a scary thing, she's just afraid of being hurt.

You just gotta be sensitive and not take it seriously. Girls can be a bit silly (and so can boys!)

This is the best advice on this thread.

Don't question the situation and jump to conclusions, think and use some empathy, and other people suddenly make a lot more sense. This is something you should be able to do with most people, but especially with your significant other, feel some empathy for them and understand their side of the situation.