I can't do this anymore

[Lizmichi]

Tell her what you really think of her, then don't associate with her ever again if you can help it. Proximity to her does not indicate an obligation on your part to do anything more than tolerate her continued existence in silence.

Don't try to debate people like this, and don't appeal to their reason. They don't have any.

I know and have met people like this. They use irrational arguments and never give up, forcing the logical party to give in out of either fatigue or emotion. Again, don't debate these kinds of people. You're setting terms and this is not a negotiation.

Imagine that you're a bank robber, okay? And she's the teller. You have the gun. Okay, that's how you talk to irrational people. You say how things are going to be, then you follow through on that. You don't ever, EVER say you're sorry or take back what you said. Also, don't spend too much time around them. Their kind of thinking can infect you.

I have to agree with that and also add a few things to it coming from my current bf having to deal with an ex like this. It will help so much just to tell the ***** off. I hate to say it but be nasty about it. She won't get it till you do and I can guarantee she'll be a huge headache when you get another gf. I know this because I am the new gf. People like this are poison and telling her to fuck off is the cure. People like that change you in a bad way and you'll snap at people you don't want to snap at. Talking to friends you trust helps you get over this hump. The faster you get rid of her the better you'll feel. Just say everything you wanted to say to her. People what baggage like that you never want around you at all. Do something for your self. If you start thinking about her hit a punching bag and yell at it like it's her, listen to some hate songs that helps allot and txt or call a friend that can help you through this. And even after you tell her off and she still tries to talk to you tell her off again till she gets it. I hope I helped some. Even if I was repetitive

 

[technoted]

do what i've recently done, throw your phone into a river, set a black on websites like facbook and myspace, block the port for msn and then hide from the world, works wonders

 

[Mad World]

Try having another discussion with her, maybe. To keep things fair, you could each take turns talking, not allowing for interruptions.

Also, be sure not to let her disrespect you.

You both need to be fair to each other.

No. This is the wrong answer. He's been FAR MORE than fair to her and every time she treats him like shit until she needs someone to dump her problems on. She is nothing more than a worthless parasite.

The best thing to do is the next time she tries to talk to you, just turn and walk away from her. Don't say anything. Don't look at her. Don't even acknowledge her existence. It will piss her off to no end, trust me, I did this to a ***** that cheated on me and we haven't spoken since no matter how hard she tried to give me some pathetic excuse for her actions. Best thing I ever did, it hurt for a while but I surrounded myself with real friends and moved on.

No - it's not the wrong answer.

People need to be given the chance to change.

One may say, "She will never change." But, who are we to judge?

 

[Samurai Goomba]

Try having another discussion with her, maybe. To keep things fair, you could each take turns talking, not allowing for interruptions.

Also, be sure not to let her disrespect you.

You both need to be fair to each other.

No. This is the wrong answer. He's been FAR MORE than fair to her and every time she treats him like shit until she needs someone to dump her problems on. She is nothing more than a worthless parasite.

The best thing to do is the next time she tries to talk to you, just turn and walk away from her. Don't say anything. Don't look at her. Don't even acknowledge her existence. It will piss her off to no end, trust me, I did this to a ***** that cheated on me and we haven't spoken since no matter how hard she tried to give me some pathetic excuse for her actions. Best thing I ever did, it hurt for a while but I surrounded myself with real friends and moved on.

No - it's not the wrong answer.

People need to be given the chance to change.

One may say, "She will never change." But, who are we to judge?

Who are we? People who have met folks like her. People who understand their mindset. That's who.

There is NOTHING these sorts of people love more is being given "another chance." When they're in a rough spot, they will promise to do and say anything. But they aren't sincere. They'll stab you in the back the second they get a chance to profit by it.

If she is capable of change, she is capable of changing on her own, without being given another chance by this guy. Let's see the change occur FIRST and observe it over a long period of time, THEN talk about second chances. People who offer chances over and over again to those who do nothing to deserve them are enablers. Their "reward" for being so generous is getting to enjoy the company and abuse of those they treat so nicely.

 

[Mad World]

Try having another discussion with her, maybe. To keep things fair, you could each take turns talking, not allowing for interruptions.

Also, be sure not to let her disrespect you.

You both need to be fair to each other.

No. This is the wrong answer. He's been FAR MORE than fair to her and every time she treats him like shit until she needs someone to dump her problems on. She is nothing more than a worthless parasite.

The best thing to do is the next time she tries to talk to you, just turn and walk away from her. Don't say anything. Don't look at her. Don't even acknowledge her existence. It will piss her off to no end, trust me, I did this to a ***** that cheated on me and we haven't spoken since no matter how hard she tried to give me some pathetic excuse for her actions. Best thing I ever did, it hurt for a while but I surrounded myself with real friends and moved on.

No - it's not the wrong answer.

People need to be given the chance to change.

One may say, "She will never change." But, who are we to judge?

Who are we? People who have met folks like her. People who understand their mindset. That's who.

There is NOTHING these sorts of people love more is being given "another chance." When they're in a rough spot, they will promise to do and say anything. But they aren't sincere. They'll stab you in the back the second they get a chance to profit by it.

If she is capable of change, she is capable of changing on her own, without being given another chance by this guy. Let's see the change occur FIRST and observe it over a long period of time, THEN talk about second chances. People who offer chances over and over again to those who do nothing to deserve them are enablers. Their "reward" for being so generous is getting to enjoy the company and abuse of those they treat so nicely.

Again, we can't judge.

What I recommend: that he have a long talk with her. If she is not willing to be fair and respectful, then he can be done with her.

If Lord Trilby doesn't want to give her another chance, then so be it; it is his prerogative. But, I still see no issue in talking to her. If it doesn't work out, at least he did try.

 

[relish]

You shouldn't think about her. I had the same thing happen to me but gender switched and I was probably the *****.
Haha ironic.

 

[Pegghead]

Get some friends and play some video games you little *****. *Ahem* In all seriousness, forget about her. Go up to her and just say how much you really do hate her. You really shouldn't be "dating" in highschool anyway, and this is coming from someone also in highschool.

 

[lolandrew4]

I know it probably won't help, but the less you care about things, the less chance it can hurt you. That's how I roll and it worked out pretty well so far.

 

[TK421]

I iz doesnt like teh text wall.
Also, I wouldn't ask the internet about my problems if I were you.

 

[Et3rnalLegend64]

1. Ditch her
2. Go do something fun
3. ????
4. Profit!

No seriously. She's not worth it. Go do something fun, get over it eventually, however long it takes you. It won't happen overnight, no matter how many other idiots think "stop being a ***** grow a pair" is the proper answer. For now, happy birthday. Hope it kicks ass and you get more kick ass days. You'll live.

 

[Et3rnalLegend64]

i suggest changing your tampon. all that crybaby bitching was unnecessary. there over THREE BILLION vagina's in the world. find another one.

Oooh boy. You are so not gonna be here very long.

 

[iJosh]

This is pretty heavy.

But as always, Time heals everything. You just have to wait it out and let her realize how stupid she's being. Or also, She could just be a player. I've met my share of female players. It's pretty stupid.

Hope all is well.

 

[McNinja]

-Wow that's a really big SNIP-

What you should do is (besides not talk, go near, or look at said girl) is go shotgunning. Grab a couple buddies, a lesson, and go shoot some clay. I don't know if you're against guns or w/e, but it is very theraputic. There's nothing like watching something explode after you shot at it. Did I mention it's fun?

If you can't do that, go split some wood with an axe. If you can't do that, get some friends and play some video games.

 

[Johnnyallstar]

I had problems with a redhead (I'm a sado-masochist, I know) that I genuinely thought was the one for me, but after a bit of downtime, and some great stress therapy involving shooting ranges, I found a girl who appeals to me in more ways than I thought possible.

I know it's hard, but just keep trudging forward, and eventually you'll stumble on somebody nearly perfect for you, and she'll make your life wonderfully miserable. Just remember, nobody's perfect so don't look for one.

 

[Kimjira19]

Ouch. I hope you find someone who will be more emotionally honest and not so capricious. Trust me there are girls out there who would not treat their friends, boyfriends, etc so badly. Good luck.

 

[teutonicman]

You come off as a tool in that story and the ***** sounds like a tease. What you gotta do is get trashed vent all your broken heart feeling and found a new girl to plow (or have a relationship with if that's your bag).

 

[Cpt.Awesomeface]

I was in a relationship with someone recently that did some similar mind-fucking. After a year of being treated like shit and just generally putting up with her, I finally had to break up with her. It was my first serious relationship, so I guess that's why I put it off for so long. All my friend would tell me she was fucking crazy, I never listened. Stupid move. I'd hate for you to make the same mistake, even if the people telling you to not bother with her are strangers on a forum.

I JUST moved to a new city for college, so ending our year-long relationship and then moving somewhere where I knew NO ONE was probably a bad move, but to be honest I couldn't be happier. Here's some things to keep in mind to help you get over the post-relationship trauma.

Firstly, DO NOT stay in touch with her. AT ALL. At least until you've gotten over it. My ex got a new boyfriend before I had moved on completely, it drove me CRAZY, even though I wasn't talking to her. It's not worth being around.

Secondly, DO NOT regret anything. Even if you regret being with her after being treated like shit. DON'T. I don't regret a thing from my last relationship, realizing that made me a lot happier. Not because being/staying with her was the right move, but because it helped me grow as a person, and learn what kinds of things to avoid in a girl, and how not to let them walk all over you. Girls aren't attracted to wusses, so use this experience as a lesson rather than regretting it and learning nothing. Embrace what you've learned, accept that you have to change how you deal with girls, and work with it.

Lastly, friends. I just moved to this new city, and I knew nooobody. It sucked ass. I was lonely for a LONG time, and had nothing to comfort me. The only thing I thought about really was her, I had nothing distracting me. Luckily for you, you're still around home. If you hangout with your friends enough, even meet new people, eventually you'll start to realize there are more important things in life. MUCH more important things. My studies and my new friends have made life AWESOME, I haven't even bothered to seriously look for a new girl yet. I'm livin' the sweet life, and so should you.

Hope you can take this shit seriously. It's hard now. But believe me, NO girl is worth doing anything drastic over. As shitty as you feel now, you'll get better. And you'll meet someone worth being with, since now you know who and what to avoid.

 

[ninjaman 420]

i suggest changing your tampon. all that crybaby bitching was unnecessary. there over THREE BILLION vagina's in the world. find another one.

Way to kick a man when he's already down.You've never been sad even though you (logically) knew you were going the wrong way ?

not over a girl i havent

 

[ninjaman 420]

i suggest changing your tampon. all that crybaby bitching was unnecessary. there over THREE BILLION vagina's in the world. find another one.

You have been reported for unnecessary douchbaggery.

You really go out of your way to report people for what they say on an online foum? its not like i care but you need something better to do with your time. i might be an asshole here and there but you need a hobby.

 

[ninjaman 420]

i suggest changing your tampon. all that crybaby bitching was unnecessary. there over THREE BILLION vagina's in the world. find another one.

Oooh boy. You are so not gonna be here very long.

im still here