I finally have a girlfriend! I am so happy I'm posting it-Wait, she's also with my best friend?

[Canid117]

Threesome

Duh.

Not the cool kind of threesome.

If your buddy punched you in the stomach over it (I dont care if you think it was a joke) then you probably shouldn't be hanging around with him that much. This whole relationship seems somewhat unhealthy to me. You should probably sit down and explain the problem to this girl and talk it out with her. If that doesn't work then well there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

 

[superbatranger]

I'm trying to wrap my head around how you even ended up in a situation like this.

 

[Airsoftslayer93]

Threesome

Duh.

This.

or just dump her, bro's before Hoes, perferably get your mate to dump her at the same time, it isnt right that she can just date both of you

 

[capper42]

Just turn around and walk away in slow motion whilst putting sunglasses on. Whatever you do, don't turn and look at the explosion of this girl and your friends relationship, that way people will know you're cool.

 

[TheTim]

well you could dp her =0

 

[hottsaucekid]

I understand where your coming from. ive been in the same situation. what you have to think is would you rather keep your friends or date some random girl? in my case i let the other guy have the girl and it worked out b/c it turns out most girls with 2 boyfriends are usually whores! so neither of us got the girl and we are still close friends.

 

[CruelSpider]

Get. Ze fuck. Out nao.

1. Win her over and have her dump your best friend.
2. Punch your best friend in the stomach as hard as you can.
3. Dump the Girl
And you win! Ignore any consequences.
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Your friend obviously wants you out of the picture and a girl with another boyfriend isn't a girl you want to be with.

And I must agree with this post. It's your best option. Go go go.

 

[PurpleSky]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend. It's a little uncomfortable, knowing that if go to far (as in, he punched me in the stomach for putting my arm around her), I could get the shit beat out of me (as happened when there wasn't any bad blood between us while playing a card game).

I would just say "Look, I think that you should be with (Best Friend) for now, not me and him" but I partially initiated this, and I do not want to hurt anyone. So, any suggestions would be extremely appreciated, and just some plain old friendship would be very helping.

EDIT:

I guess I should explain a bit better.

Yes, she is in fact my girlfriend, as she told me that I was her boyfriend several times, even going as far as to kiss me, grab my hand, and other such romantic things without any input from me.

The friend is not an ass. He really isn't that bad of a guy, and I know I might have put him in a bad light, but there was reason behind me getting hit. Such as the punch to the stomach wasn't with any bad intentions, just normal messing around for such and such reasons that started with a normal joke, but escalated a little. It's more that he can do it than anything else that is a little unnerving.

The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her, I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

And another thing I forgot to bring up but no one asked, it really isn't that serious, and I have no intentions of making it so, I just want to be able to get out of it without any of my friends, or me, feeling hurt.

Once again, thanks for any input from you guys, you've become almost like another family to me over the past few months I've been here, and it's good knowing you guys will actually talk to me, and others in the community, about problems they are having.

I'll answer your story with another story.I have this female friends I knew since I was 6,she is dating an asshole I tried to be friends with,and whenever we hanged out without him,he would treat me (his girlfriend's friend from childhood) as if I was trying to break them up.
I don't know if she knows or not.

 

[NLS]

Been through something similar. although you may get something good out of it, in the end it's gonna bite you in the ass real bad and you'll be back to start with even less.

 

[Zaik]

I don't want to get moderation for a low content post so i'm adding all this additional fluff in so that i can tell you that the girl you are dating is a whore.

You're better off getting nude pics of her, putting them up on 4chan, and telling her right before you break up with her, than anything else. That's some revenge if i've ever made it up on the spot.

 

[Xyliss]

What the fuck, dude? just get out of it

 

[DracoSuave]

I guess I should explain a bit better.

Yes, she is in fact my girlfriend, as she told me that I was her boyfriend several times, even going as far as to kiss me, grab my hand, and other such romantic things without any input from me.

The friend is not an ass. He really isn't that bad of a guy, and I know I might have put him in a bad light, but there was reason behind me getting hit. Such as the punch to the stomach wasn't with any bad intentions, just normal messing around for such and such reasons that started with a normal joke, but escalated a little. It's more that he can do it than anything else that is a little unnerving.

The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her, I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

And another thing I forgot to bring up but no one asked, it really isn't that serious, and I have no intentions of making it so, I just want to be able to get out of it without any of my friends, or me, feeling hurt.

Once again, thanks for any input from you guys, you've become almost like another family to me over the past few months I've been here, and it's good knowing you guys will actually talk to me, and others in the community, about problems they are having.

Alright, time for an older point of view that doesn't involve misogyny.

You, sir, are a pussy.

Seriously. I don't mean any disrespect, but you need to grow a backbone here.

"Such as the punch to the stomach wasn't with any bad intentions, just normal messing around for such and such reasons that started with a normal joke, but escalated a little."

Shit like this doesn't happen cause of jokes. There's some genuine hostility issues there with your friend and you are better off staying the hell away from that.

What -really- makes this 'pussy' territory is that you haven't actually gone 'Hey, girl, you say you're my girlfriend, why is this douchebag being all jealous?' You haven't even bothered to get to the truth where it matters. You just want some advice on how to passively get through it with the least amount of waves.

The fact is, you came here for advice because there's a little voice in your head saying 'Grow a pair of testicles.' You already KNOW what you need to do, what you're seeking is some validation, either someone to say 'Listen to the voice in your head' or 'Fuck that, be a stoic man and take it on the chin like a good *****.'

My advice?

Fucking find out what the hell is going on with her. There's a chance that his abusive bullshit is happening to her and she's also a pussy who can't go 'fuck this I'm out of here.' Find out the truth of the situation. If you haven't done so by the time you post again, you deserve your situation, after all, it's your weakness that's brought you there to begin with.

But, if you want to be happy, then you're gonna find out the truth, and deal with it accordingly.

 

[Vitor Goncalves]

Le Grand snip

Still I don't understand who started dating who first, who was the first and towards who?

There is a pretty messed up love triangle here and like most people already said, I guess the best solution is to just withdraw from it. My reading so far is you and your best friend started dating the same girl and knew about it but are both uncofortable about it. The girl is a ***** as she doesn't mind to have two guys at same time. You guys on the other hand don't seem very bright either. Is she so hot its worth ruining your friendship and risk relying on violence to settle things?!

So yes please, just leave her, once again, she is not worth unless you just want a shag with her, that's your call. Cause I don't think anything as true feelings can be found there.

 

[ICanBreakTheseCuffs]

Threesome

Duh.

my kind of funny

 

[Samurai Goomba]

'Grow a pair of testicles.'

This is brilliant advice. Under no circumstances is physical violence from a "friend" acceptable, nor is acting jealous when YOU HAVE JUST AS MUCH TO BE JEALOUS ABOUT AS HE DOES. What this tells me is your "friend" thinks his boyfriend rights trump yours and he does not respect you. And you know what? Who would respect you if you won't stand up to him or even your girlfriend? Be honest and direct with each of them. Talk to your girlfriend in private, then honestly address your "buddy" in a crowded place where any attempt of his to assault you will have witnesses so you can get him arrested. That or bust his knees with a baseball bat, but I'm all for civility.

Somebody earlier said "bros before hoes." Dude, there is SO MUCH wrong with that sentiment. Anybody who would treat a "bro" the way your friend treated you is NOT your friend.

Only you can fix this situation, but it's not gonna happen without confrontation of some kind.

Also, might I suggest that two dudes sharing a chick is an abominably bad situation no matter what? I know I personally could never do that, and I'm not sure people in general are set up genetically or socially or whatever to deal with it.

 

[AcrylicHero]

'Grow a pair of testicles.'

This is brilliant advice. Under no circumstances is physical violence from a "friend" acceptable, nor is acting jealous when YOU HAVE JUST AS MUCH TO BE JEALOUS ABOUT AS HE DOES. What this tells me is your "friend" thinks his boyfriend rights trump yours and he does not respect you. And you know what? Who would respect you if you won't stand up to him or even your girlfriend? Be honest and direct with each of them. Talk to your girlfriend in private, then honestly address your "buddy" in a crowded place where any attempt of his to assault you will have witnesses so you can get him arrested. That or bust his knees with a baseball bat, but I'm all for civility.

Somebody earlier said "bros before hoes." Dude, there is SO MUCH wrong with that sentiment. Anybody who would treat a "bro" the way your friend treated you is NOT your friend.

Only you can fix this situation, but it's not gonna happen without confrontation of some kind.

Also, might I suggest that two dudes sharing a chick is an abominably bad situation no matter what? I know I personally could never do that, and I'm not sure people in general are set up genetically or socially or whatever to deal with it.

This sounds solid.
There's alot of people citing the golden bros before hoes code, but it seems the friend broke it already. Samurai's got it spot on when he said this friend doesnt have respect for you, and seems like he's taking the bro in you for granted.
If you let this go in my opinion you'll maintain this friendship somewhat, but you guys won't be bros. He'll just take you and your 'loyalty' for granted.
Confront him and her.

 

[riotwraith]

This thread is still alive? Well, might as well weigh in on the edit

I don't think you really want anyone's advice. You want everyone to tell you exactly what you want to hear and say "Whatever it is your doing, that's the right thing to do. Good job!". When you don't get that you just keep coming up with excuses to try and convince us that we should do that.

No. I stand by what I said earlier and what 99% of this thread says. The girl is a slut, your friend is a douche. Now either continue ignoring us and stop trying to justify it, or go find some decent friends. Sorry guy. The truth hurts sometimes.

 

[Sevre]

If you're going to go out, go out with a bang.

 

[Crash 9000]

Ask her what the heck is going on, if she does actually have two boyfriends, like, officially, break up with her. Then let your friend know that she was dating you two at the same time if he didn't already know.

Stay buddies with your buddy, be sure to spread the word that she was dating two guys at the same time, and get on with your life