doctorwhofan said:
I am a female.
25 years ago, I sent my name into Marvel Age comic book magazine for a pen pal. Not only did it take less than two months to be added, I had THREE HUNDRED responses the first month. Girl geeks were rare back then. Fast forward to today and while they are not as rare, they are rare enough to send a male geek through the roof.
Why can't a Guy nerd relate to a girl? Because, instead of spending their time postering for females, they are in the science lab, computer lab, or reading comic books, rolling 20 sided dice, or operating A/V equipment to learn to be suave. So they bumble their way through everything, or say the wrong things.
To be honest, a small prescetage of the females actually likes that. It's attractive NOT to be the center of attention. Or that the fact you are so ordianry looking as a girl (not ugly) that the only way to get that attention is through the nerds. either way, we girls worked our way through Geekdom to reproduce the second wave.
To the OP: In short, most geeks and nerds are too busy to bother with the basic social skills of talking to girls. Trust me, I know.
Part of my problem way back when was when I ever showed any vague sign of interest, there would never be any sign of interest back. I essentially gave up before the first step even began.
Why can guy nerds not relate to girls? Because (normal) girls cannot relate to guy nerds. I usually go through this whole selection process now when I meet girls. If they don't have a summary knowledge of at least one of the things I like, they immedietely go into the "Not Interested" catagory. I don't care how good you look.
You show me a woman who can debate the finer points of Jedi/Sith philosophy (hell even regular philosophy will do), or who is into programming, or who can lampoon bad movies MST3K style, and I'll show you one damn interesting woman.
In short: Nerds will never give up the things we love just to have a doomed to fail relationship with some girl that shares none of their interests.
