I just realized I'm an adult now.
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It gets worse,
When/if you have kids of your own, and you have people depending totally on you. Thats when you are definately an adult in the sense of adult that you are honouring your parents with.
Independence is nice, but being depended on is the real clincher.
When/if you have kids of your own, and you have people depending totally on you. Thats when you are definately an adult in the sense of adult that you are honouring your parents with.
Independence is nice, but being depended on is the real clincher.
Ah yes, the double edged sword of adulthood. The true nature of this new predicament really manifests itself when you've had a chance to move out for a while.
Sometimes even the little things can really hit home. I remember the first time I had to buy toilet paper for myself. It suddenly hit me on the way home that I never had to worry about toilet paper before when I was still with my parents. It was just something I took for granted, almost as if I believed in a toilet paper fairy that put fresh rolls under the bathroom counter. It was a simultaneously shocking and absurd moment for me.
Yes, it can be somewhat bewildering and even sad sometimes. Still, I'd say the advantages outweigh the disadvantages in the long run. There's something supremely satisfying about being able to support yourself with nobody holding your hand. You get to establish your own routines without having to worry about working around anyone's schedule other than your own. You're the captain of the ship now, so take the helm and experience the adventure!
Sometimes even the little things can really hit home. I remember the first time I had to buy toilet paper for myself. It suddenly hit me on the way home that I never had to worry about toilet paper before when I was still with my parents. It was just something I took for granted, almost as if I believed in a toilet paper fairy that put fresh rolls under the bathroom counter. It was a simultaneously shocking and absurd moment for me.
Yes, it can be somewhat bewildering and even sad sometimes. Still, I'd say the advantages outweigh the disadvantages in the long run. There's something supremely satisfying about being able to support yourself with nobody holding your hand. You get to establish your own routines without having to worry about working around anyone's schedule other than your own. You're the captain of the ship now, so take the helm and experience the adventure!
This September I start College in literally the opposite side of the planet. (I live in Asia, I'm enrolling as an Intl' student in an American College) Add to that, this will be the first time I'll be living completely unsupervised/On my own. I've had intl' trips without my parents before, but I had someone to guide me, Teachers or Scout Leaders or something. I've never lived completely on my own.
So, do I become an adult this fall? Maybe. Am I afraid? Like all Fucking Hell, I am! I'm terrified. But it's something I have to do. Just like becoming an adult.....
TL;DR, I know what you, man...
So, do I become an adult this fall? Maybe. Am I afraid? Like all Fucking Hell, I am! I'm terrified. But it's something I have to do. Just like becoming an adult.....
TL;DR, I know what you, man...
But you still live with your parents, so no, while you're growing up and maturing, you're still not an adult. You still don't have so many responsibilities your parents have. Driving is nothing compared to owning a house, for example. But they still pay the roof over your head, the food on your plate (even if you can prepare it yourself), wash the clothes on your body and probably buy and take care of another thing or two. But who cares, maturing is important as well. But you're going to college, so there's still a delicious period of relative immaturity ahead of you. Savour it.
My situation is a little different though. I'm going on 21 and I still get a lot of those things; bed time (sorta), getting bitched to about dinner, not knowing about my parents financial situation (they never share those things), you name it.
Cherry on the cake is the fact that dad still feels the need to threaten me with all kinds of things to make me do things. Sure dad, like that's going to impress a 20 year old. I can kick his ass any day of the week.
My situation is a little different though. I'm going on 21 and I still get a lot of those things; bed time (sorta), getting bitched to about dinner, not knowing about my parents financial situation (they never share those things), you name it.
Cherry on the cake is the fact that dad still feels the need to threaten me with all kinds of things to make me do things. Sure dad, like that's going to impress a 20 year old. I can kick his ass any day of the week.
Hear hear.chiefohara said:
Even marriage was not the life changer that having kids is.
I do look forward to my kids getting somewhat independent, but don't expect them to never need me for anything ever again for a very long time.
What a nice thread. Still doesn't stop the fact that people are being hostile on it...
Come on, people. "Adult" is a loosely based word without a universal definition. "You're not an adult until..." is about as mature as saying "real gamers don't play apps on iphones made for the casual crowd."
Come on, people. "Adult" is a loosely based word without a universal definition. "You're not an adult until..." is about as mature as saying "real gamers don't play apps on iphones made for the casual crowd."
I'm twenty, and I wish I could say something deep and beautiful like that, but whilst I do feel like that, my most major feeling about being twenty is well...
I'm old. I feel it at least. I remember I was in a local independent gaming store when some kid appeared amazed at the lack of analog sticks on a ps1 controller like he had just found some stone age tools. That made me feel ancient.
And if everything goes to plan, I'm going to uni next year.
*gulp*
I'm old. I feel it at least. I remember I was in a local independent gaming store when some kid appeared amazed at the lack of analog sticks on a ps1 controller like he had just found some stone age tools. That made me feel ancient.
And if everything goes to plan, I'm going to uni next year.
*gulp*
Aw, I'm 16 now and dreading the day I move out. I mean I know I'll have to (unless I dwell in my parents basement until my 40's and be awesome like that), but it's not like I want to leave my parents. It's hard as well because both of my older bros have moved out before me, so now I'm the only one left and I think it'll be hard on my parents when I leave.
Oh well, still another 4-5 years before I think about it, so I'll make the most of my time
Oh well, still another 4-5 years before I think about it, so I'll make the most of my time
there's no such thing as an adult, there are just tall children with varying degress of experience behind them ^_^
you'll always need your parents in some small way, and it's nice to have that. At the same time though, well done on achieving your independence, your parents will be grateful. Just don't cut them out, whatever you do.
you'll always need your parents in some small way, and it's nice to have that. At the same time though, well done on achieving your independence, your parents will be grateful. Just don't cut them out, whatever you do.
Hmmm...how many roads have you walked down?
Feel free to define adulthood any way you please, that's what everyone else is doing. In some cultures it's when you're married, in others there is some kind of ceremony or endurance challenge, if you had mentioned sex I'm sure there would have been at least a few posts insisting you're a child if you're a virgin.
Going by this thread, being an adult is a strictly monetary thing...which is pretty shallow if you ask me. Pay your bills, and then you will be a man, my son...what the fuck did Kipling know, eh?
An even temperment, a willingness to face the truth, and being damn-near impossible to offend are qualities which are "adult" to my mind...for what little that is worth.
Feel free to define adulthood any way you please, that's what everyone else is doing. In some cultures it's when you're married, in others there is some kind of ceremony or endurance challenge, if you had mentioned sex I'm sure there would have been at least a few posts insisting you're a child if you're a virgin.
Going by this thread, being an adult is a strictly monetary thing...which is pretty shallow if you ask me. Pay your bills, and then you will be a man, my son...what the fuck did Kipling know, eh?
An even temperment, a willingness to face the truth, and being damn-near impossible to offend are qualities which are "adult" to my mind...for what little that is worth.
