I met this girl last night...

[MikeOfThunder]

Right, I'm probably over thinking all of this but anyway.

I was actually out on the 1st April night to just generally get drunk and have a laugh with my friends, what ensued was me pretty much disappearing for their entire night.

I was upstairs in this club and I met this girl dressed as Princess Peach. We ended up talking about all sorts for a few hours. We shared numbers and we kissed etc. Everything was awesome and we text a bit afterward the club (her asking me to join her at a bar the next day with her friend).

Anyway this is my problem - I text her in the morning and I got no response. I added her on facebook aswell and she's not accepted yet.

Now as I write this I'm seeing that it's only actually been 24 hours since I text her, but I need a reply! This shit doesnt happen to me and this girl in so many ways was perfect and I can't let her slip through my fingers.

I figure that I might text her again tomorrow morning asking if she wants to go get a drink or something but I need help. What should I say - or should I not text her? (she didn't respond yesterday morning!)

Oh she also lives down South and is just up visiting friends for a week, so I'm thinking I've got a time limit. Please tell me if I'm just overthinking it, but i really like this girl and I want to meet her when I'm not drunk.

 

[TacticalAssassin1]

Send another text in a day or so and then wait. You don't want to sound needy or clingy.
And if she never replies, think nothing of it, it was just a good night out.
Good luck.

 

[Frankydee]

http://www.ninjapirate.com/article/stalking

sorry man just let it go. If she wants to hang out she'll come around otherwise man it's not worth the headache.

 

[flare09]

Then text her again in the morning. And if she doesn't answer, tell you have herpes of the mouth and should probably get checked out.

Also, have you thought about calling, it's easier to communicate.

 

[ciancon]

I'd say calm down and try not to seem desperate. Wait a day or two. Then if there's still no reply just call her and if she doesn't pick up i'm afraid you'd better give up.

 

[DanielBrown]

She probably woke up and got this "OmgwtfdidIdolastnight?!!"-feeling.
I'm sorry.

 

[Vampire cat]

3 day rule, don't forget!

And if she's gone, then she's gone. Don't be the creepy stalker guy!

 

[Pinky]

3 day rule, don't forget!

And if she's gone, then she's gone. Don't be the creepy stalker guy!

Haah yeah, this is pretty much what I was going to say.
If I were her... having someone I met once continually message me a day after would kind of freak me out. :I

 

[Mr. Google]

just wait. Text her tomorrow but not in the morning wait a bit longer. if she wakes up with a text she might over think it like some people do *me* and either be excited that you were thinking about her first thing in the morning or a little bit creeped out. If you text her later in the day it wont be as bad. Or as someone said earlier you can call her. That way its easier to see if shes ignoring you. And just remember dont over think it. You will drive yourself so crazy if you do. Just let what happens happen. I personally have had to teach myself this and it helps...a lot.

 

[Mr. Google]

3 day rule, don't forget!

And if she's gone, then she's gone. Don't be the creepy stalker guy!

Haah yeah, this is pretty much what I was going to say.
If I were her... having someone I met once continually message me a day after would kind of freak me out. :I

Well on his part he didnt continually message her just once i believe.

 

[TacticalAssassin1]

http://www.ninjapirate.com/article/stalking

sorry man just let it go. If she wants to hang out she'll come around otherwise man it's not worth the headache.

Haha awesome link.

 

[Pinky]

3 day rule, don't forget!

And if she's gone, then she's gone. Don't be the creepy stalker guy!

Haah yeah, this is pretty much what I was going to say.
If I were her... having someone I met once continually message me a day after would kind of freak me out. :I

Well on his part he didnt continually message her just once i believe.

Sorry, I was talking in a hypothetical preemptive context... hence the quote.
I should clarify my point, being that it is of my opinion.. that you probably shouldn't message her again until she replies back to your facebook request or text.

 

[Adam Galli]

Text her again. If she doesn't answer, let her go.

 

[MikeOfThunder]

just wait. Text her tomorrow but not in the morning wait a bit longer. if she wakes up with a text she might over think it like some people do *me* and either be excited that you were thinking about her first thing in the morning or a little bit creeped out. If you text her later in the day it wont be as bad. Or as someone said earlier you can call her. That way its easier to see if shes ignoring you. And just remember dont over think it. You will drive yourself so crazy if you do. Just let what happens happen. I personally have had to teach myself this and it helps...a lot.

Yeah I have been obsessing possibly a little to much, to the point of near insanity. I'll try and cool it down a little and just wait it out a bit longer. I would call but I find that I'm a pretty shy phone-talker, might sound odd but when I meet new people I talk with my body much more then usual.

Wait a day, and send her another text again asking if she wants to go out for a drink or to get a bite to eat. If her opening fails, that doesn't mean you can't try yours. Now if she doesn't respond after this, it might just have been a spur of the moment thing on her part or she may not remember. Mmm, and if she doesn't live around here, you should factor that into your decision too. Distance relationships are extremely tough. :3

-Moved to Advice Forum!

I hope this helps!

Well she seemed reasonably sober to me, or atleast much more so than I. I didn't think of the long-distance thing as well! Saying that though - it's a little early to think about such things, well I hope it is. Thanks for moving aswell.

 

[WingedIncubus]

Making out is nothing, girls in clubs give that in droves. In fact, making out in a club might push her away from sex, because it releases then sexual tension. A single kiss is okey, but keep the making out for the sack. Plus, better to beat the iron while it's hot. Did she give you any hint she might have liked to have things go further, like say "let's go over my place and..."

Like you said, she's here only in for a week. In short, she is down for a hook-up, not for love or anything. She most probably have a boyfriend in her hometown. Perhaps she met another guy with more balls at the club (or another club) and she followed him home for some action. If she wanted to have sex with you and you didn't pull the trigger and do it, she won't let you a second chance unless she is REALLY interested. And if she were, she would answer back like you were Brad Pitt.

Anywho, don't overcall her or text furiously for her attention like a desperate schlob. Don't text her, CALL! It's always better than texting. Call her, leave her a short message "Hey it's XYZ from the ABC Club. Call me when you are back at [your number]", nothing more. She'll call if she is interested. Don't try too hard, if she doesn't call, call again one last time two days later, leave the same message again if she doesn't answer, and DON'T CALL AGAIN until she does.

If you call and she texts back for your attention, IGNORE! Wait for some time, like one or two hours, then text her back with a short message that lets her think that you are busy or unavailable. Don't chase, let her chase.

 

[Colour Scientist]

Don't text her again! Wait for her to come to you!
There's nothing more off-putting than a guy who comes across as needy.

Leave it for a while, if you've text her already she'll reply when she's ready.

 

[Hollock]

Try a real phone call? I don't know I got 0xp.