I need a hug...

[runnernda]

First off, I am so sorry that this happened. There are some girls that make me ashamed of my gender. Hugs, and lots of them! I've been in the same situation, and it is no fun at all.

Her going away is probably a good thing. It'll give you the space you need to get perspective on the situation. With her around, dating this other guy, you're not going to make a whole lot of progress. It's terrible what she did to you, and until she leaves, it'll be hard to focus on anything but the betrayal.

If you want to be her friend, be her friend. If you want to be more, wait and see if you still feel the same way once she comes back. Don't sit around and wait for her, but take the time to know yourself so you know how you feel once she's back.

Lastly, more hugs! If you need to talk or rant or anything, I'm pretty much always around.

 

[The Journey]

I feel you and the pain does hurt and is not easily forgotten. Time does eventually heal all wounds, though never quickly or easily and it does take work on your part.

A few months ago my girlfriend and I broke up and it only took up until pretty much today for me to be really over her (yeah I'm an over-sensitive guy, so what) and it wasn't a fun period of my life, but it's over and done with now.

I still get a rush of some collection of feelings whenever I see her, but it quickly passes and I forget about her.

What you have to do is not 'forget about her' or anything like that, because you can't, it's not that simple. What you have to do is to do your best not to dwell on her in your thoughts. Do anything that takes your focus into the here and now and that will help.

Anyway, after a supremely long ramble, have a hug damnit. *hugs*

 

[Jedoro]

Unless there's physical backing (ring, contract, etc.), don't count too much on a promise unless the person's consistently delivered. They may not mean to, but the person's feelings or situation could change and they'd be less inclined to keep said promise. Anywho, more fish in the sea, and whatnot.

"Keep your pecker hard, and your powder dry, and the world will turn."

*hug*

 

[Ciran]

Ouch, that's rough. I've been through a similar situation and it's just not something that's easily gotten over. It takes time but it can be done, just keep pushing forward.

 

[Oh That Dude]

I know exactly how ya feel. For a month, I had a great thing going with this one girl. Never really fought or argued about anything. Had a lot in common. Got along better than I've ever gotten along with anyone. Then she just dumped me for no reason after coming back from Japan for 2 weeks. I literally asked why she decided to do it and she said, "I don't know, I just want out." What the fuck is that all about?

Anyway... Here's Melvin with your free hug:

"DON'T DO IT! HE'LL JUST STAB YOU OR SOMETHING!"

Also, chin up and good luck sir. It hurts and it will hurt for a while. You probably don't even want to stop thinking about her. It's better that you do try and forget her though. At the end of the day, it's better this way: it wasn't meant to be. Cliche as it sounds.

 

[EightGaugeHippo]

*Hug*

thats sucks, but if your absolutly sure she dosnt want to be with you anymore, the best thing you can do is not dwell on it and move on, you dont have to date some one else just try not to think about her.

other than that, good luck.

 

[Dexiro]

She sounds like a ***** to be totally honest, you can do better ^_^

From an outsiders perspective it sounded like she was skeptical about the relationship to begin with, and it's just fucking horrible that she'd play with your emotions in that way. She's just waltz off casually while you're left feeling like crap.
I really hope you find someone else soon, maybe talk to your friends about what happened and get some real life hugs!

 

[JohanGasMask]

*Gives you a hug* That will be 5 bucks!

does that include tax? because if not then I'm gonna open a company and bring you to bankruptcy

Um...do jokes include tax? Im just trying to make a business here, I got kids to feed!

 

[Harrowdown]

*Free hug*

Take solace in the fact that she was right to end it. Long distance relationships don't work, especially between young people. I know it sucks, but it's probably for the best.

EDIT: Also, don't get bitter. However much she hurt you, it clearly wasn't intentional, and she wasn't obliged in any way to stay with you. If you let yourself think otherwise, you'll just hurt yourself more.

 

[crunchieman]

/hug

 

[Xyliss]

*hugs* That was a ***** move on her part, so (and i know this is easy to say and hard to do) try to forget about her, move on and hopefully you will meet someone in the near future who won't betray you like that

 

[TerribleAssassin]

Well, I'm not gonna bother you with the "if you love her, you'll move along" crap, it's happened to me. Basically, remind her that even after that chiken-shit move you're still willing to be freinds. And if she does another one, tell her you're anger for her...

 

[Stoic raptor]

You guys are all some of the nicest people I've met on the internet. I feel a lot better now because of what you've all said to help me. Thank you all.

Welcome to the Escapist. All the people here are nice, kind and intelligent people.
Except when it comes to relationship threads and religion threads. Your lucky that no one complained about this thread. Its actually surprising.

Sorry, I cannot give you anything besides a *hug*. Never been in a relationship yet, but I am working on it. Hope you get thru this

 

[TheScottishFella]

Honestly there isn't much you could do if she makes her decision few people can change her mind what she did was unforgivable but if you feel real pissed with her get a dog to poop in her shoe or bed

*hug*

 

[AquaAscension]

*Snip*

First off, I find it funny that your posting name is a nickname that I've acquired.

However, on topic I'd say that what you're feeling is normal, painful, crappy, understandable, and something that, ultimately, will either husk you or fill you out.

The very first real girlfriend that I had (dating slightly over a year) broke up with me days before Valentine's day (make of that what you will, but for me it was crushing). I later learned she was with a good friend of mine. And by with I mean sleeping with. I felt pretty much the same that you do now, and for awhile I let it husk me.

What I mean by that is that I let my anger and jealousy eat up my inside so that rather for living for me, I was living for hating this girl and this guy. Which is stupid. Why? Go watch Scott Pilgrim vs. The World and check out the last fight scene. Which brings me to another point:

Go out with some friends, have a good time, and start celebrating life again. I know it sucks right now - I've been there, but you cannot let someone else's actions dictate the things you do. You're stronger than that. I wish you the best of luck, and I'll sign off with a quote from Spock's Beard "The Bottom Line"

If time is all it takes to heal these wounds,
Then I've got nothing but time, nothing but time.
That's my bottom line, that's my bottom line.

 

[MasterWhatever]

Any time. /hug

 

[Urgh76]

Spoiler: I smell

SABOTAGE!!!

But in all seriousness, thats sad..

If LeonLethality commented yet, she should have some good advice, better than i can give