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[TheKreeperAndMe]

*sigh* This is a last resort for advice seeing as all my friends are useless cunts....

Well, heres my predicament: Im a highschool freshman and have always thought to had decently sane parents, but they're not perfect with some stuff. I few days ago I got asked out by a girl a few years older than me. shes, well... less than presentable to parents to say the least, a tattoo on her shoulder and several piercings in her face and tongue.
Just to clarify this chick is ridiculously sexy, not just "cute".
The idea of a girlfriend with a car and a tattoo nearly makes me drool but i have NO clue how to spin it off with my parents!


Please, please, please!! Someone give some advice on how i can feed this to my parents!

 

[sky14kemea]

dont tell them for a while? XD

there's a few methods you can use i guess, 1 is always say really nice things about her way before you introduce them, or ask her to cut back on the piercings on the day they meet

good luck though X3

 

[The_Chief]

well... yea tell her to take off piercings and put em on one at a time every time they meet

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

Tell your father first. That way you have back-up going in.

 

[savandicus]

Personally i think the honesty card is best played at all times, you've got to like her for who she is on the inside and your parents should atleast be open minded enough to give her a chance past appearance.

Just tell them shes got afew peircings and that you like her for who she is. Honesty works surprisngly well in most situations.

(I take no responsibility for lose of inheritances due to any of the contents of this post)

 

[ElephantGuts]

Don't tell them. And send me pictures

Is there any reason they need to know? I suppose there is since I assume you wouldn't be trying to figure out how to tell them for one reason. Well, what's the reason?

 

[teisjm]

How harsh are your parents? I know theres the whole father-hates-every-guy-who-dates-his-daugther-thingy (though i've never had any trouble with the parents of my girlfriends), but i haven't heard about it the other way around. I think it has to do with the fact that parents wanna protect their daughters virginity or something like that, but i don't think it's the same with guys.
Unless they have genuine reasons to concern, as if she were a drug addict or something, they'll hopefully acept the fact that you like her, and not do a lot about it.

As a last resort piercings can be taken out temporarily, and a tatoo on the shoulder can be covered by a t-shirt

also, how old are you? the school system is different in Denmark, so i don't know what age you are when in high school.

 

[darkless]

Your parents cant control you forever they have to let you make your own decisions they dont like her that's there problem they cant stop you seeing her, besides maybe if she's really nice they wont mind.

 

[Duh]

o wow, what are you? 8?
stop being such a **** and go out with it, if you are actualy dating her i dont see why you shouldnt tell your parents, not like they can do anything to stop you from becoming, on the long run, an alcoholic tosser with many sexual assault charges and you Will

 

[SmartIdiot]

Er. Ok. Just tell them like it is? It's your life remember? Embrace it, live it. Lie if you have to, it only makes it more fun and you will know I'm right when you do it and get caught (and you will get caught if you do it, or not if you're lucky... either way) it's fun!!.

BE ALIVE!

 

[TopHatTim]

*sigh* This is a last resort for advice seeing as all my friends are useless cunts....

Well, heres my predicament: Im a highschool freshman and have always thought to had decently sane parents, but they're not perfect with some stuff. I few days ago I got asked out by a girl a few years older than me. shes, well... less than presentable to parents to say the least, a tattoo on her shoulder and several piercings in her face and tongue.
Just to clarify this chick is ridiculously sexy, not just "cute".
The idea of a girlfriend with a car and a tattoo nearly makes me drool but i have NO clue how to spin it off with my parents!


Please, please, please!! Someone give some advice on how i can feed this to my parents!

OK dont let your parents tell you who you should and shouldnt be with.
i had to lay down that rule with my parents and it worked fine.

 

[teisjm]

Just thought of another idea... if you really think they're gonna freak about it just see her secretly, and once they're so worked up over where you're going and about your secrecy that they think you're doing drugs or crime, introduce her. They'll be so happy that you're not a thief or junkie that they'll instantly like her.

 

[ChickDangerous]

I wouldn't ask your girl to take out her piercings. If a guy asked me to take mine out to meet his parents I would assume he's embarrassed by me and I wouldn't like it very much. My in-laws aren't very keen on piercings and tats themselves, but they like me as a person and tend to ignore the fact that I've got some noticeable tattoos.

Just tell your parents that she's awesome, you're happy, she's happy and there shouldn't be a problem. She's dating you, not your parents.

 

[KSarty]

Tell your father first. That way you have back-up going in.

This. For boys the mother is usually being over-protective (I know from experience). If your parents are reasonable your father should be able to get your mother to tone it down a bit and she'll be happy that you are happy.

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

I wouldn't ask your girl to take out her piercings. If a guy asked me to take mine out to meet his parents I would assume he's embarrassed by me and I wouldn't like it very much. My in-laws aren't very keen on piercings and tats themselves, but they like me as a person and tend to ignore the fact that I've got some noticeable tattoos.

Just tell your parents that she's awesome, you're happy, she's happy and there shouldn't be a problem. She's dating you, not your parents.

What if the person asks you to take your piercings, because they are ashamed of you from the fact the parents will be disappointed and could lead to estrangement?

That said, I value my parents a hell of a lot more then most people. You know, because they raised me and all.

 

[TheKreeperAndMe]

yea my parents r smarter than that

 

[TheKreeperAndMe]

How harsh are your parents? I know theres the whole father-hates-every-guy-who-dates-his-daugther-thingy (though i've never had any trouble with the parents of my girlfriends), but i haven't heard about it the other way around. I think it has to do with the fact that parents wanna protect their daughters virginity or something like that, but i don't think it's the same with guys.
Unless they have genuine reasons to concern, as if she were a drug addict or something, they'll hopefully acept the fact that you like her, and not do a lot about it.

As a last resort piercings can be taken out temporarily, and a tatoo on the shoulder can be covered by a t-shirt

also, how old are you? the school system is different in Denmark, so i don't know what age you are when in high school.

Heres the big problem... eh shes 18 im 15.. thats the one thing i cant hide from my parents

 

[TheKreeperAndMe]

o wow, what are you? 8?
stop being such a **** and go out with it, if you are actualy dating her i dont see why you shouldnt tell your parents, not like they can do anything to stop you from becoming, on the long run, an alcoholic tosser with many sexual assault charges and you Will

Too bad we cant all be keyboard ridden warriors like yourself, you should try to stop letting horses ram your asshole, no one likes a dirty person ya know!

 

[TheKreeperAndMe]

Personally i think the honesty card is best played at all times, you've got to like her for who she is on the inside and your parents should atleast be open minded enough to give her a chance past appearance.

Just tell them shes got afew peircings and that you like her for who she is. Honesty works surprisngly well in most situations.

(I take no responsibility for lose of inheritances due to any of the contents of this post)

Thanks but i dont feel like telling my parents shes a potheaded irish badass with an outstanding warrant in the tri-state area lol