i need romance help!

[Jamash]

Is it really appropriate for adults to be giving dating advice to (other people's) children, especially on the internet?

Also, how can we be sure the OP is who they say they are, and not Chris Hansen and that Perverted Justice lot?

 

[Toners]

Heh, my personal response (which probably doesn't matter considering how many people have given "advice") would be to think whether you can make a relationship work as a 13 year old... my given guess is no. And if you think about how you don't want sex, what are you personally gonna get out of the relationship at your age... cuddles? holding hands? occasional kisses? put it this way, at least wait another friggin' year or so before properly taking bites at the apple xD
besides, she's already fixated on some other guy, and teenage girl crushes are like the ULTIMATE ignoring tool, so what makes you think you stand a chance?
Sorry to completely put someone down, but geez, can someone be friggin' realistic?

 

[Sigel]

Go for it!! Ask her out!! You only live once and the worst she can say is "no". You will never know unless you try and you will never go out with someone unless you ask.

 

[Dommyboy]

i dont just want sex im 13

Facepalmed right about here.

Ask her out on a date and do the following:
During an awkward silence, punch her in the face and punch her so hard that she will definitely get a black eye. Then, when she has a black eye, tell her that she reminds you of your mother. Chicks dig that stuff.


Though, I have another situation to bring up. My friend is thirteen years of age and she has a boyfriend in New Zealand (she lives in Australia, like me). Though they have never met each other and they have only talked through MSN really, she insists that she loves him and she goes to quite a few extremes such as becoming depressed that she couldn't talk to him for a few days.
Now while this may be somewhat normal, perhaps it would be entirely normal if they were older though is it just me or is this situation quite absurd for someone of such a young age.

My apologies if I wasn't able to word that very well, I am currently feeling quite under the weather.

 

[The Maddest March Hare]

If you're good friends with her and worried about making things awkward by asking her out don't worry too much. If she's a friend worth keeping then she won't let that damage your friendship. Believe me, I know this from experience. The girl in question is now one of my greatest friends, so the week or two of awkwardness afterwards isn't something to worry about.
Now I need to learn to take my own advice and actually make a move with that girl... >.>
As it is, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Go for it.

 

[messy]

Ask her, nothing ventured nothing gained. You'll never really regret being turned down but you'll regret not asking.

 

[thejoeverine]

Heh, my personal response (which probably doesn't matter considering how many people have given "advice") would be to think whether you can make a relationship work as a 13 year old... my given guess is no. And if you think about how you don't want sex, what are you personally gonna get out of the relationship at your age... cuddles? holding hands? occasional kisses? put it this way, at least wait another friggin' year or so before properly taking bites at the apple xD
besides, she's already fixated on some other guy, and teenage girl crushes are like the ULTIMATE ignoring tool, so what makes you think you stand a chance?
Sorry to completely put someone down, but geez, can someone be friggin' realistic?

Jeez man, brutal much? Did you stop to consider that at 13, maybe all the OP wants is 'cuddles' or 'holding hands'? Come on, a little empathy for the guy here.

 

[Toners]

Heh, my personal response (which probably doesn't matter considering how many people have given "advice") would be to think whether you can make a relationship work as a 13 year old... my given guess is no. And if you think about how you don't want sex, what are you personally gonna get out of the relationship at your age... cuddles? holding hands? occasional kisses? put it this way, at least wait another friggin' year or so before properly taking bites at the apple xD
besides, she's already fixated on some other guy, and teenage girl crushes are like the ULTIMATE ignoring tool, so what makes you think you stand a chance?
Sorry to completely put someone down, but geez, can someone be friggin' realistic?

Jeez man, brutal much? Did you stop to consider that at 13, maybe all the OP wants is 'cuddles' or 'holding hands'? Come on, a little empathy for the guy here.

i suppose, but the guy has to consider how well relationships generally do at the age of 13... from experience, not so well. Nobody really knows what they're doing, it gets awkward and inevitably the whole thing falls apart. Who knows? Maybe the kid's a proper lover, and can genuinely hold onto the relationship long enough to make it worthwhile. My realistic divination here is that it will screw up, like every other one does.
Also, if he's gonna ask for dating advice on a gaming forum... he DESERVES shooting down
And besides, it's not like I shot a puppy in the face... Though now I have a strange urge to... (dons Deerstalker and grabs rifle)
EDIT: but we may as well be a few posts back in time for all it'll change his mind

 

[thejoeverine]

Heh, my personal response (which probably doesn't matter considering how many people have given "advice") would be to think whether you can make a relationship work as a 13 year old... my given guess is no. And if you think about how you don't want sex, what are you personally gonna get out of the relationship at your age... cuddles? holding hands? occasional kisses? put it this way, at least wait another friggin' year or so before properly taking bites at the apple xD
besides, she's already fixated on some other guy, and teenage girl crushes are like the ULTIMATE ignoring tool, so what makes you think you stand a chance?
Sorry to completely put someone down, but geez, can someone be friggin' realistic?

Jeez man, brutal much? Did you stop to consider that at 13, maybe all the OP wants is 'cuddles' or 'holding hands'? Come on, a little empathy for the guy here.

i suppose, but the guy has to consider how well relationships generally do at the age of 13... from experience, not so well. Nobody really knows what they're doing, it gets awkward and inevitably the whole thing falls apart. Who knows? Maybe the kid's a proper lover, and can genuinely hold onto the relationship long enough to make it worthwhile. My realistic divination here is that it will screw up, like every other one does.
Also, if he's gonna ask for dating advice on a gaming forum... he DESERVES shooting down
And besides, it's not like I shot a puppy in the face... Though now I have a strange urge to... (dons Deerstalker and grabs rifle)
EDIT: but we may as well be a few posts back in time for all it'll change his mind

I understand what you're saying, but I think if the relationship will fail, as you suggest, it will be from lack of relationship experience. And I think if the OP gets into a relationship with this person, regardless of the outcome, at least he will learn more about being in a relationship and what to do/what not to do.

Also, if he's gonna ask for dating advice on a gaming forum... he DESERVES shooting down

Lol, I agree, but really, who else so we nerds/geeks/gamers have to turn to other than each other?

 

[Toners]

Spoiler

Heh, my personal response (which probably doesn't matter considering how many people have given "advice") would be to think whether you can make a relationship work as a 13 year old... my given guess is no. And if you think about how you don't want sex, what are you personally gonna get out of the relationship at your age... cuddles? holding hands? occasional kisses? put it this way, at least wait another friggin' year or so before properly taking bites at the apple xD
besides, she's already fixated on some other guy, and teenage girl crushes are like the ULTIMATE ignoring tool, so what makes you think you stand a chance?
Sorry to completely put someone down, but geez, can someone be friggin' realistic?

Jeez man, brutal much? Did you stop to consider that at 13, maybe all the OP wants is 'cuddles' or 'holding hands'? Come on, a little empathy for the guy here.

i suppose, but the guy has to consider how well relationships generally do at the age of 13... from experience, not so well. Nobody really knows what they're doing, it gets awkward and inevitably the whole thing falls apart. Who knows? Maybe the kid's a proper lover, and can genuinely hold onto the relationship long enough to make it worthwhile. My realistic divination here is that it will screw up, like every other one does.
Also, if he's gonna ask for dating advice on a gaming forum... he DESERVES shooting down
And besides, it's not like I shot a puppy in the face... Though now I have a strange urge to... (dons Deerstalker and grabs rifle)
EDIT: but we may as well be a few posts back in time for all it'll change his mind

I understand what you're saying, but I think if the relationship will fail, as you suggest, it will be from lack of relationship experience. And I think if the OP gets into a relationship with this person, regardless of the outcome, at least he will learn more about being in a relationship and what to do/what not to do.

Also, if he's gonna ask for dating advice on a gaming forum... he DESERVES shooting down

Lol, I agree, but really, who else so we nerds/geeks/gamers have to turn to other than each other?

The internet at large, we have
Everyone's put some kind of relationship advice somewhere on the net before, and even on here we've had the same thing before "Guy likes girl but girl likes someone else HELP PLS!"
The info's out there, and putting the same thing up that everyone's seen before is just getting a little tiring. A health and relationships section would probably be appropriate, but this is a GAMING forum... and as such there's no need. Sounds like something for TSR tbh, he's at school I'm assuming

 

[barryween]

ok theres this girl i like who says she fancies some one else
but i have a feeling she might go out with me but i dont know
should i ask her out or should i wait

Ask her out, because the worst that can happen is she says no, and if you never ask you may always wonder what she would have said...